One day during the live broadcast, a mother asked me how to cultivate a school bully. I told her that the main thing about the cultivation of a bully is two points, the first is curiosity, and the second is good study habits.
Curiosity is often the beginning of what children want to explore.
Almost as soon as we fall to the ground, we start thinking about things that others know but we don't.
The Fullerton Longitudinal Study (FLS) began studying in 1979 and tested participants based on factors such as "school performance, IQ, leadership, and well-being." The interval between pre-school students is 6 months, and for students aged 5 to 17, it is tested annually.
A 38-year follow-up survey of 111 students found that curious students scored better and scored higher IQ scores. Curious students outperformed their peers in a range of educational outcomes, including math, reading, SAT scores, and college acceptance rates. According to the teacher's assessment, curious students learn harder and learn more.
But the power of curiosity is often overlooked. Today we're going to talk about curiosity.
There are two kinds of curiosity,
One is pastime curiosity,
One is cognitive curiosity.
All parents know that every time a child sees something new, he wants to reach out and touch it. When you see an open door, you can't help but want to rush in, and even see some unknown objects or dirty things in the eyes of adults, and you can't help but stuff it in your mouth.
Scientists call this act of being fascinated by all novelties "pastime curiosity."
Recreational curiosity accompanies a person throughout his life. It can make our horizons broader and allow us to discover more fresh and unknown things. It also allows us to get more fresh experiences.
However, if a person's curiosity only stays at the stage of pastime curiosity, always looking at the flowers, liking the new and tired of the old and not delving deeply, then we can only waste time and energy in the process of constantly changing the object of curiosity, but we cannot get understanding from it.
It is only when recreational curiosity accumulates to a certain extent and begins to transform into a search for knowledge and understanding that we gain something.
For example, a child begins to be curious about small ants, and then through the guidance of adults and his own efforts, he learns about the more complex ant kingdom. Then there is a further recognition of the vast insect world.
This deeper, more orderly, and more effort-intensive curiosity is called "cognitive curiosity."
For individuals, epistemic curiosity can satisfy and be happy, and it can also provide nourishment for the mind, and only such curiosity can produce real value.
Therefore, as adults, our most important role is to assist children and help them transform recreational curiosity into cognitive curiosity. Only in this way can children have enough desire to learn, continue to make efforts, explore their potential, and continue to persevere.
Such a child will only be favored by society when he grows up. Otherwise, no matter how clever it is, it is useless.
So what should I do?
1. Respond to your child's curiosity in a timely manner
Many children begin to make gestures to point at objects in infancy. Start with your hands. Later, I began to use my index finger very explicitly to complete this action. This shows that the child asks you to pay attention to what he is focusing on.
Pointing to this movement is essential for the child's development and is a sign that the child is ready to start learning. Because they want to know more about this stuff. I also hope that my parents will be able to tell them what the object they are referring to is and what it is used for.
For example, a child points to a big apple. You tell him it's an apple, red and round, sweet and sour. The child will know that he knows what he wants to know through this action. In the future, he will express his curiosity more through this method.
If you don't pay attention to the child no matter what you say, the child will not only not learn the name of the apple, but will also begin to think that he is a waste of time and has no effect at all. After a long time, he didn't bother to point out.
When children begin to learn to speak and grow up slowly, they begin to transform from expressing curiosity with their fingers to expressing curiosity with language. The questions they ask will also become more in-depth.
Before the age of 3, the most asked questions children are:
What is it? What is that?
What is it for? Where are my balls?
After the age of 3, the child begins to transform into a hundred thousand whys.
I want to ask for a little thing.
For this phenomenon, parents should actively answer their children's questions to find answers with their children. In this way, it can help children change from recreational curiosity to cognitive curiosity.
Parents need to keep in mind that curiosity is a feedback loop, and its biggest killer is laissez-faire. Because every time you ignore a child's question, their innate thirst for knowledge is reduced by one point.
2. Make the right guidance to help children accumulate a lot of knowledge
As children age, in most ways children will gradually become less dependent on adults. However, when it comes to discovering curiosity, adults will still play an increasingly important role in the growth of children. Because when children lack the guidance of adults, their innate curiosity may soon disappear.
For example, a child is curious about pouring milk. He wanted to pour it himself, but unfortunately it was always spilled on the table. At this time, if you tell him how to pour milk without spilling, their curiosity begins to shift from recreational curiosity to cognitive curiosity.
They will think and practice, pour soda in the same way, pour juice will not be spilled?
Conversely, if you don't teach him the method, blame him. The child's interest in this matter will also be stopped, and he will be reduced to a party of reaching out.
In the same way, children need a lot of knowledge and methods when doing other things.
Knowledge gives curiosity the ability to stay afloat. It can be seen that it is particularly important for adults to help children build a huge knowledge base through correct guidance.
Because the more knowledge you have, the more innovative thinking you will have.
In an interview, Jacob Labino, a prolific inventor with more than 200 registered patents, was asked what was necessary for innovative thinking.
The most important condition, he said, is to have a large database full of knowledge.
If you're a musician, you have to stock up a lot of knowledge about music. If you were born on an isolated island and never listened to music, you are unlikely to be Beethoven, you may imitate birds, but you can't write a fifth symphony.
The sooner you start building this database, the better. As the accumulation of knowledge increases, the gap between others and you will widen. Once you accumulate more knowledge, your creativity will also get stronger.
Scottish Enlightenment philosopher David Hume pointed out that the two concepts of "gold" and "mountain" are themselves bland. But the word "Golden Mountain" sounds a lot more interesting.
At a basic level, all of our new ideas are derived from old ones. In order to imagine a horse with wings, you must first know what a horse looks like and what its wings look like.
Innovation comes from cross-border. The more knowledge you know, the more new crossovers there are, the more references and analogies.
Successful inventors and artists spend a lot of effort accumulating a lot of knowledge. This will make their future creations easy.
Good parents are able to help their children create this atmosphere, can actively guide their children's curiosity, and then give them various knowledge and methods to help them transform recreational curiosity into cognitive curiosity.
This will help children build databases that make innovation possible.
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In the future, curiosity may be one of the most important factors influencing an individual's achievement. Because it combines intelligence, persistence, and a desire for something new into one.
Therefore, in order to protect the curiosity of children, parents must not be lazy. Every response you have now, every teaching, is recharging your child's future achievements.