A story tells you: when you see through a thing, you are a master of understanding people's feelings. This one thing is the world is hot and cold, when you see through the world' cold, you can also understand what is human sophistication!
Let's start with this story:
It is said that during the Jiajing period of the Ming Dynasty, there was a man named Zheng Dajun in Fuzhou, Fujian Province. After Zheng Dajun obtained a meritorious name, he was sent by the imperial court to Nanjing as an official, Nanjing was the second Kyoto of the Ming Dynasty, very important, can be an official in Nanjing, Zheng Dajun's official future can also be said to be a great deal.
Therefore, when Zheng Dajun returned to his relatives in the province in a certain year, the officials and gentry of his hometown and many ordinary people welcomed him dozens of miles away from Fuzhou City, gave him the highest standard treatment, and also patted his ass, hoping to enter his eyes, at least to stain his official spirit. For a moment, Zheng Dajun was full of pride, rich and noble, and returned to his hometown, nothing more than this.
Later, Zheng Dajun was indeed transferred back to the capital to give him a heavy responsibility. However, the eunuch sea storm was unpredictable, and within a few years, Zheng Dajun was deposed because he offended the cabinet ministers, the official was dismissed, the hat was dropped, and he was relegated to his hometown to work as a farmer. This time back to his hometown, Zheng Dajun was disappointed to find that there was no one to greet him, and during the period at home, no one came to take care of him, people pointed at him behind his back, and walked around when they saw him, afraid of contaminating his obscurity. Some people said: "Looking at this guy, I don't know what I have committed, I was swept to the end by the imperial court, and I went home to work as a farmer in ashes, which is really a disgrace to the face of my ancestors." Some people also said: "I already knew that he couldn't do it, when he was a child, he was not a rich man, how, I guessed it." ”
After Zheng Dajun heard such a hurtful discussion, he did not care and smiled lightly. After more than a year, which cabinet minister lost his position and was deposed, the imperial court found out that Zheng Dajun had been wronged, so the emperor ordered him to be reinstated. When the will reached Fuzhou, the news spread quickly. At this point, many people are embarrassed to come to the door to celebrate, and those who say bad things about him are even more frightened, lest they be settled by the autumn queen, and those who know him will cover their faces with their sleeves as soon as they see him, and they are embarrassed to meet him again.
But Zheng Dajun, who has already seen through the cold of the world, embodies at this moment what is sophisticated, not only does he not hate and hate these people, nor does he retaliate against those who say bad things about him, but he sees that everyone is respectful, and when he leaves, he also gives these people books and daily necessities that he is inconvenient to bring.