introduction:
Anthropologists divide human nature into social attributes and natural attributes, social attributes make people know how to restrain, and natural attributes make people keep impulsive
。 But unfortunately, the two are difficult to achieve balance after all, and when encountering some painful things, people will impulsively lose their minds and give up the most reasonable social attributes. So what kind of pain upsets this balance?
Zhuge Liang stills
Obviously, there is no greater pain than watching one's own army be destroyed and one's own monarch die. Zhuge Liang personally experienced these things at that time, and in the midst of extreme pain, he maintained his social attributes, used his absolute rationality, maintained the perseverance of a great person, and also joined forces with the enemy.
The Three Kingdoms turned, and a generation of emperors fell
July 221 AD
, Commander Liu Bei
100,000 troops
A war against Eastern Wu was launched, and this campaign was carried out under the banner of avenging his brother and eliminating harm for the country, and he killed the past in a mighty way. This is
A turning point in the history of the Three Kingdoms
This is also the most arrogant one in Liu Bei's life, but wanwan did not expect that the consequence of arrogance is failure.
The entire army of 100,000 people was destroyed, and the most elite forces of the Shu Han clique were all lost. Seeing that his hard-earned assets were suddenly lost, Liu Bei himself was also angry and fell ill.
Stills of Zhuge Liang and Liu Bei
at
White Emperor City
He met his own orphan minister
Zhuge Liang
The two held hands to look at each other with tearful eyes but were speechless and choked, and could only silently carry out the dying entrustment, looking at Liu Bei's words, a mouthful of blood's dying words, Zhuge Liang's heart was broken. With Liu Bei's departure, the Shu Han clique suffered a huge sore, while being loyal
Zhuge Liang stood up and turned the tide, single-handedly shouldering the Shu Han regime, which was about to collapse.
At this time, Zhuge Liang must have a variety of emotions interspersed in his heart, the first of which is pain:
Suffering from the stripping of the Cocoon of the Shu Han Group, but also suffering from the departure of his best lord and best colleague Liu Bei
。
This was followed by trepidation and hatred, a decision that Zhuge Liang had admired all his life, and he had tried to turn the tide and save Liu Bei with this policy in times of danger
But it never occurred to him that it was this former teammate of the league who stabbed him in the back and then caused it
The disastrous defeat of the Shu Han clique
Sun Quan stills
At this time, the Shu Han is likely to be attacked by two countries, whether this regime can exist is still unknown, and the Shu Han clique will form an inseparable antagonistic pattern with the Dongwu clique.
Zhuge Liang was an excellent strategic commander, and he knew that if he wanted to maintain the military pattern under the heavens, he must join forces with Eastern Wu, and now that Eastern Wu and the Shu Han clique had become inseparable sworn enemies, what to do? Can we just obediently wait for the Cao Wei clique to destroy the Shu Han and then unify the world?
In order to preserve the effort, ally with the enemy
If it is from the point of view of those of us, then there is only one choice, to treat our enemies, to destroy it at all costs, if we have no ability to take revenge,
Then with the help of other forces, the Shu Han clique directly surrendered to the Cao Wei clique, and then directly eliminated Eastern Wu.
In fact, this idea is certainly ok in the eyes of ordinary people, but in Zhuge Liang's view, it is absolutely not OK, national hatred and family hatred have always been two kinds of hatred that exist side by side in history, but in Zhuge Liang's mind,
The national vendetta is always greater than the family hatred, and the fact that the Cao Wei clique destroyed the Great Han Empire was something that Zhuge Liang could not tolerate for the rest of his life.
So, he has to make amazing perseverance and change, the only way out at the moment,
If you want to maintain the pattern of three points in the world, you must bow to your enemies.
Carnegie, a master of psychology, once said that it is easy for us to have a strong enemy to fight, but if we are to bow our heads like a weak enemy, then it will be even more difficult.
Human psychology is like this, human impulses are also generated, Zhuge Liang is in such a dilemma pattern,
What's more, this once weak enemy actually killed his own protagonist and destroyed his main force, so hateful, so humiliated, could he really cross over?
In history Zhuge Liang has been hesitating for a long time, as early as
222 AD
when
Zhuge Liang once received emissaries sent by Sun Quan, although Zhuge Liang did not kill the emissaries in public, but the relationship between the two sides has always been very gunpowder, and Zhuge Liang has been suppressing his impulses.
Obviously
Zhuge Liang was a great politician
He knows that as a politician,
The first thing to do first is to suppress your impulses and maintain your absolute sanity.
As
President of the American drama House of Cards Kinoshita
That said:
Impulses swallow up our own sanity and then devour everything we have, and we have to stay 100% calm to be able to do better.
After weighing the pros and cons, Zhuge Liang finally chose to send his close associate Deng Zhi to Sun Quan's place of exchange in 224 AD.
General History of China
Several of the professors praised Zhuge Liang's move very much,
Being able to calmly analyze and judge in the face of national hatred and family hatred, being able to maintain reason in the face of extreme impulses, and making the best choices, Zhuge Liang can be called the best politician.
And because of that
Zhuge Liang's calm move, which made the Cao Wei regime fail to drill the loophole, so that the southern territory continued to be connected, and the pattern of the three kingdoms standing side by side once again continued until Zhuge Liang's death.
epilogue
Through this historical record, we can draw a conclusion that anyone who wants to do great things must have absolute perseverance, and there will never be a shortage of opportunities in this world, and what is missing is a calm heart.
In ancient China, there were many people who became great things, but more people were invisible, they were not unable to have opportunities, nor were they too incompetent, and most people and great people were separated by a threshold of perseverance. At that time, Liu Bang was able to defeat Xiang Yu by relying on the will that had been defeated all along, but he still stood firm.
Zhuge Liang was able to stabilize the pattern of the three kingdoms standing side by side at the moment of crisis, relying on his ability to be rational to the freezing point
。 Our human nature naturally tends to be impulsive, though
Society often teaches us to restrain our impulses
Although we may not all be great people, however
We should also learn how to exercise restraint, because this is a science of life, whether on the road of life or in the work will be practiced, and Zhuge Liang is our best teacher.
Resources:
The Weakness of Human Nature
"Three Kingdoms of Yizhong Tianpin"
Romance of the Three Kingdoms