In the past, many parents attributed the problem of their children's delay in writing homework to too much homework.
In the context of the "double reduction" new policy, the amount of homework has been greatly reduced compared with the past, but there are still many children who delay in writing homework, which shows that the amount of homework is not the root cause of children's delay in writing homework. We need to look for the real reason behind the child's procrastination.
01 The real reason behind procrastination in children
To sum up, there are four main reasons for the problem of children's delay in writing homework.
First, it is related to the duration of children's attention stability is not long
Children in childhood, due to their young age, their attention stability is not related to the duration of long, this phenomenon often occurs in children in the first and second grades of primary school.
However, as children get older, the amount of time they spend paying attention gradually increases, and they can remain focused for about half an hour or so until they are around 12 years old.
Under normal circumstances, the amount of homework in various subjects is unlikely to be completed within half an hour, and in this case, we must give children full understanding and acceptance. Respect the characteristics of your child's physical and mental development. It is believed that as the child grows, his concentration will gradually improve, and the problem of delaying writing homework will also be solved.
The second is related to the weak foundation of children's learning
And the weak foundation of procrastination accounts for a considerable proportion, learning foundation of weak children, due to the lack of solid grasp of knowledge points, resulting in homework will not be done, which will make children often in the homework is often helpless, do not know how to write.
Like this type of child, parents are not to urge children, which will not let children speed up the progress of writing homework, but to focus on helping children solve learning problems and break through learning barriers, etc., thinking about how to improve the effect of listening to lessons, how to tutor children, how to help children consolidate learning content, how to improve knowledge application ability, etc. As long as these problems are solved, it will no longer be difficult for children to complete homework.
Third, it is related to the fact that children have not developed good learning habits
Children do not develop good learning habits, mainly manifested in: children do things in a poor manner, lack of ability to plan time and so on.
Children who lack organization of work have a very prominent external performance, that is, when dealing with things, they do not know how to put things in different categories, but throw all things around, so that when writing homework, the desk is full of all kinds of things, which will naturally interfere with the concentration of writing homework.
If the child lacks the ability to plan time, it is mainly manifested in the inability to reasonably arrange the order of learning, write language homework for a while, the language homework has not been written, and then do the math homework, without a clear planning arrangement, so that invisibly it will take more time to write homework.
In the face of this type of child, we must first let them know the process of doing things, and estimate the time that may be spent on each subject, so that children can form a habit of doing things in an organized and planned manner.
Fourth, it is related to the child's rebellious psychology
Some children do not not write homework, but out of rebellious psychology, deliberately do not do it, which often means that there is a problem with the parent-child relationship.
Parents give their children too much learning pressure, or scold children, etc., will affect the harmony of parent-child relationship, easy to trigger the child's rebellious psychology, children often choose to deliberately delay the way to write homework to show resistance.
In this case, we must find more reasons from ourselves, make up for the existing rift in the parent-child relationship as soon as possible, and improve the parent-child relationship.
02 Three-step cure for procrastination
For this reason that causes children to write homework, we can implement a "three-step method" to cure children's procrastination.
Step 1 – Find out the root cause of your child's procrastination;
Step 2 – Find an effective solution;
Step 3 – Consolidate the method into a habit of the child.
Problem type 1: Parent-child relationship tension, resulting in children writing homework grinding
Our first step is to decode the root cause of procrastination in children, and for problem type one, I think that if the child is doing other things quickly, only writing homework and procrastinating. It is likely that there is a problem with the parent-child relationship.
After judging the general direction of the problem, our second step is to find an effective solution. Through honest communication with your child, you can further understand the specific reasons behind your child's behavior.
For example, parents arrange all the time to be full, resulting in no time at the disposal of the child, which makes the child dissatisfied and the parent-child relationship becomes tense. Then, we parents can work with our children to make new time plans, and if the children can complete their homework efficiently, then the time saved can be left to the children's discretion. When the child's reasonable needs are met and the parent-child relationship becomes more harmonious and harmonious, then the problem of the child's homework will soon be solved.
Problem type 2: The learning foundation is weak, which causes the child to write homework and rub it
Our first step is to find out why children are struggling with their homework – the learning foundation is weak.
Then, when we accompany our children to write homework, we must do the following two things:
1. Disassemble the big learning tasks into small tasks and reduce the learning difficulty for the child. The main purpose is to help children overcome learning disabilities, build self-confidence in learning, and protect his interest in learning.
2. Encourage your child more and help your child regain confidence. Children with a weak learning foundation need to be encouraged the most, we must encourage children, as long as the child does even a small step, we will give children encouragement in time to help them build confidence in learning.
Problem type three: does not manage time, causing children to write homework and grind
In view of this situation, we can guide the child to write down the things to be done every day on a schedule, and then arrange them in order of priority and order, and write the corresponding time points, and then paste this form into a conspicuous place at home, so that the child can see it at any time.
In order to ensure that this schedule is realistic, we will consider the following three aspects:
1. Let your child lead the plan. Children should participate in the development of the plan, and parents should listen to and respect their children's opinions.
2. Timely reminders. If you deviate from the schedule, parents only need to remind their children in time.
3. Time management. Teach children to learn to balance and coordinate the time for learning and playing.
It is especially important to involve children in the development of the plan, because children are more willing to accept their own personal participation in the development of the plan than the parents' hard arrangement.
epilogue
Every child with procrastination has a reason behind his or her behavior. For parents, we must understand the real reasons for the delay in writing homework through the appearance of children's external behavior, so that they can be targeted, effectively cure children's procrastination, and no longer have a headache for children to write homework procrastination.