Literature/Education Writing
Birthday is the happiest thing for children in the year, there is no need to put pressure on children at that moment, the concept of education does not change, no matter how much "burden" there is on the cake, it is meaningless, parents need to reflect, not to be smart...
Gorky once said: "Loving children is something that hens will do", but how to love children, how to do is really good for children, tests every parent.
A few days ago, there is a mother in Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province, on the controversy, at the son's 11th birthday party, she specially customized a "burden increase" cake full of textbooks for her son, and also wrote on the side of the cake "The earth is not destroyed for a day, you have to write homework", the child suddenly lost control of his emotions after seeing it, and he could not cry.
Afterwards, the mother explained that she was going to make a Pikachu cake, but this is about to take the final exam, the son still plays games every day, and he is not concerned about learning, so he temporarily changed his mind, he chose this textbook cake, want to remind the child to study well, did not expect the child to collapse and cry.
This textbook cake in the cake shop is not the first, it is also available in other parts of the country, and there have been parents who have broken the news on the Internet before, but most people are out of fun, not really to remind children to study well and put pressure on their children on their birthdays, but this parent really did it.
In this regard, many netizens have put forward their own criticism, thinking that the parent is too much!
Some people think that parents do not need to do this, take this cake to the child's birthday, too cruel, so that the child has no expectation of the birthday in the future, maybe the child will use a similar method to treat the mother when he grows up.
Some people also pointed out that the mother's approach is not to love the child, but to destroy the child, she is happy, but it has become the pain of the child's life, which is the same as smearing cake on the face and hair, she thinks it is interesting, but in essence it hurts the birthday person.
Some people even suggest that when it comes to their parents' birthdays, children should also send a specially customized forehead cake, which reads "I want a car, a house, and work hard to make money", which also allows parents to feel the pressure of real life on the happiest day.
Everyone's criticism is not unreasonable, as a mother in the new era, or should understand a little educational concept, on the one hand, the state is vigorously promoting the "double reduction" measures, from school to outside the school are reducing the burden of learning for children, on the other hand, to require schools and families, optimize educational concepts and methods, to use high-quality education to replace simple, rough knowledge reinforcement learning.
The lower grades of primary schools have cancelled the final exams, the upper grades are only intramural exams, and there is no longer a final exam or quality monitoring in the region, which shows that the test results are no longer the only indicators for the evaluation of children, although this has not been reflected in the promotion for the time being, but the future must be the trend.
Children do not learn, like to play games, the essence is not the child pressure is not enough, need the mother to remind him when he celebrates his birthday, the key to the problem is that there are persistent problems in family education, in plain words, that is, the child has not been educated well since childhood, so now there is a problem.
The problems that have accumulated over time can be changed by a cake on the birthday?
Obviously impossible, parents need to reflect, rather than further let the child lose confidence in the future, at the child's birthday, can encourage the child, guide the child to make a "progress in the next year" wish.
For their children's learning, parents should do this:
1. Pay more attention to children's daily learning
The cultivation of learning and learning habits is a long-term process, not a handful, many parents like to pay attention to their children's test scores, always to the child's grades to say things, but ignore the child's daily education, parents always find excuses to say that they are busy, children should be conscious.
But children are children, there are not many children who are truly self-conscious, especially in the primary school stage, parents should still pay more attention to their children's daily learning, performance in school, active communication with teachers, and timely guide children to adjust when problems are found, and encourage children to catch up.
2, the child's learning to have a normal heart
Each child is an independent individual, their abilities and personality performance are very different, which requires parents to treat their learning with a normal heart, neither can force the child to learn, nor do they need to compare.
Before the "double subtraction", many parents forcibly sent their children to the tutoring class in order to improve their children's grades, but in fact, the children did not even understand the content of the class, nor did they pay attention to the children's learning habits and attitudes, but they only hoped to solve the problem through intensive tutoring, but the final result was still "money spent, grades or standing still".
There are also parents who like to compare, always compare those children with good grades with their own children, but never reflect on the efforts of children with good grades and the family education behind those children, and ignore the shining points of their children, which is extremely wrong.
The biggest charm of education lies in "change" and "reconstruction", no one is born perfect, we can only change them through scientific educational concepts, to encourage them to move towards the goal, rather than simply "pressure" to solve the problem.
Today's Topic:
How do you evaluate the "negative" textbook birthday cake?