Mental illness medication, eat or not?

Yesterday, I wrote a "Daughter Who Pays Attention to Side Effects", which caused a heated discussion among netizens.

From a point of view, there are those who are in favor of taking medicine and those who are against taking medicine.

In terms of attitude, there are those who support me, those who oppose me, and even those who attack me.

It's like the story of a father and son and a donkey entering the city.

The Son rides a donkey, the Father leads the donkey, and someone scolds.

The Father rides a donkey, the Son leads a donkey, and some people scold.

Father and son are holding donkeys, and there are still people scolding.

Father and son carry donkeys, and there are still people scolding.

When it comes to medication, how to choose is a risk. But I believe that as a non-professional, there is no big data statistics to support. In addition to trusting the top three public hospitals and trusting doctors, what better way can there be?

About the attitude of netizens. Involving personal attacks, I don't think you know me, you don't know me, and you have no grievances. Then, either you have problems with your own emotions and cognition, or you are not targeting the real me. I may have a pain, but I will heal myself soon. I will not scold you back, and I will ignore anything that has nothing to do with self-help and self-help. Mental strength is precious and cannot be wasted. You are just people who eat melon seeds, drink small wine, and watch the fire from the other side. And I am in a dilemma, I have to seize the time to save my life and life for myself and my daughter.

I had already figured it out, and fate turned me and my daughter into guinea pigs. So, let the mouse maximize its function.

My article, "The Daughter Who Cares About Side Effects" and its comments, reflect on the three aspects of whether to take medicine, whether a daughter is in love, and whether a mother should cope appropriately. Maybe it will give some inspiration and help to parents who are in the same predicament.

I myself am just a parent of an ordinary mentally ill child, a non-professional, and I was a poor student among parents before I grew up. Although there is progress now and the daughter is getting better and better, she has not fully recovered and is still groping. So, I understand that of course there is room for adjustment and improvement in my cognition and practices. I am also very grateful to the netizens for their warm and loving suggestions and support and care.

Part I: Support:

"The child is depressed, and it is impossible to be a mother without any anxiety.

This mom did almost the best a depressed child mom could do, and was very admirable. "

The last part of the parent's words may arouse the disgust of some people, such as abandoning such words.

But come to think of it, if things do get to this point, there will indeed be a lot of people who will make this choice (depending on the severity of the matter and personal financial resources).

If you do tell your child truthfully about your worries, fears, and worst-case mental preparations, as you say, this is actually a better way to do it.

The rhetoric may be too heavy, but it helps the daughter form a rational judgment.

However, if the chance of side effects mentioned in the drug label is small, such as less than 1%, I still recommend that you explain it to your daughter.

She is almost impossible to be the "chosen son" and almost impossible to be the "son of the castaway", and the symptoms with a 1% probability can be approximately considered impossible unless there are other factors.

I used to eat escitalopram oxalate tablets, when I carefully read the instructions, the "common" one (1% to 10%) are some of the acceptable non-organic symptoms such as abnormal appetite, insomnia, nausea, etc., the rest are below 1%, "unknown" is that the data is too small to count the probability, so I put my mind at ease.

If the medication your daughter uses is similar, it's best to let her know enough about it. In addition, understanding the adverse reactions can also help patients cope with some side effects, such as "the emergence of suicidal awareness and suicidal behavior are possible side effects, so I will try to actively restrain it."

If the dose is not large, you can try to reduce the effect of side effects by adjusting the time of medication, of course, you also need to get the consent of the doctor.

Changing the way medication is administered without permission is a very risky behavior. ”

"Excellent mother, when I was depressed, I could only digest it myself, go to the doctor by myself, take my own medicine for two years, and no one would understand it."

"Logical clarity, admire the answerer, the family needs you like this."

"Tell your child that the potential of the human body is unlimited, enough to fight the side effects of drugs!"

The so-called "side effects" on the drug instructions can be basically ignored, only one in ten million possibilities! And the new drugs that are now being researched have very few side effects!

The potential of the human brain is also unlimited! Remember that a Tsinghua graduate on the Internet may have had some car accidents, the brain tissue was removed a little, and the various quotient values of the brain after rehabilitation were not affected at all! His friend fought with him for the glory of the king, and he actually hit something that seemed to be called "glory of the gods", which made his friend marvel!

On the Internet, I saw that there are countless college students who are taking antidepressants because of depression, which has no impact on learning! ”

"I think your daughter's cognition is very high, she will definitely choose someone who has a good influence on her as a boyfriend, and the negative impact she will definitely scoff at directly pass."

And being injured is a process that always has to be experienced and accepted, and if your daughter is a little better, her emotional ability will recover a little and begin to accept the injury and negative emotions a little bit. ”

She objectively told her daughter the consequences of her actions, and the consequences were not that her mother deliberately embarrassed her, but that her mother could not survive. People need to know the real world. ”

"My daughter has been diagnosed with depression and needs medication.

Depression is the manifestation of the daughter's 18 years of personal contradictions in the family society beyond the threshold of her own tolerance.

The reasons for the contradiction are complex and difficult to say, and the simple and rude running away from home to see the high consumption of netizens beyond the family's affordability can only solve the contradiction (depression) itself for a while.

Similarly, taking medicine does not solve the fundamental problem - the root of the amputation is the rebirth of the severed limb, not the prosthesis. Not being able to break a limb and reborn a prosthesis is also the only way.

The problem now is that the daughter is now pinned on love to solve the contradiction, as long as the social background of the two parents is favorable, love can solve the contradiction. The daughter seems to be on leave from school? The odds of online dating are not very good.

From the beginning to the end, those who are willing to give, who have the ability to give their daughters, are still answering the Lord.

But the answerer is also a human being, a person who can cry with flesh and blood, and the answerer gives the daughter a bottom, and who gives the answerer the bottom. Daughters can run away from home, can spend more than they can, and can pretend to be sensible. Can her mother?

Poor parents in the world, these things are actually not necessary for the respondent to be on the line.

The problem is that the daughter now subtly biases the contradiction to the family conflict, transfers the contradiction without resolving the contradiction, and is giving her the answerer who is giving her help instead of the stinking online love boyfriend. ”

"Hello wise, calm analysis of things, praise you."

"Your child's obvious bipolarity will definitely take medicine."

"I understand you so well."

"I admire you."

Part II: Objections:

"Your daughter will be completely desperate for you."

"After seeing the back, I think my daughter is really miserable (╥ω╥'), almost 18, after drinking the medicine, I have to let her check in order to alleviate her mother's anxiety, it is really miserable." There's also a bunch of grandiose words at the end. Really speechless. ”

"The daughter has the right to know the side effects, the side effects caused by psychotropic drugs are likely to be irreversible, do you know the pssd, do you know that the testers on the side effects are likely to be just beggars [squatting] on the street."

"Can a long-term addiction to antidepressants succeed in love? I haven't seen it!!

Any male drug addict cannot accept the physiological and cerebral effects!

This is not an ordinary drug, it is a drug known in the medical community to be warned by the highest dangerous side effects of international law!

Really a good mother, now good, it is impossible to cut off the drug, eat it, according to the mortality rate of depression every year to publish normal people understand the fate of these people! Hey. ”

"You can believe in some doctors in China now, as long as you can bear the consequences."

If you want to suppress it with Western medicine, you can only eat it all the time, so that the nerves are always paralyzed and damaged.

This is what the director of a mental hospital in Xiangyang told me. [Squat]"

"Many side effects are long-lasting and far-reaching and difficult to measure, like pssd, which was only added to the Drug Administration in 19 years by adding the word irreversible dysfunction after discontinuation."

"I'm also talking about situations that may objectively arise.

It seems that the daughter seems to understand the initiative to take medicine and take the initiative to supervise the mother, as if the mother's approach is successful and effective.

But this daughter is a depressed patient who needs to take medicine, it should be moderate or severe, there is a risk of suicide, the daughter openly and honestly asks her mother about the side effects of the drug, indicating that when asked she is very trusting and dependent on her mother, the mother's answer is equivalent to cruelly telling her in person that she cannot be relied on, for her daughter, her attachment to the world is cut off by her mother herself, and this sensible daughter chooses to let her mother rest assured that she can cooperate with taking medicine. In the same way, she can sensibly take the medicine and still sensibly close the balcony door before jumping off the balcony after her mother is relieved. ”

"To be honest, most parents have no choice but to listen to the doctor, because that represents authority, represents the mainstream.

However, this is not the case.

At best, they are academic slaves, and at worst they are cold-blooded.

Psychiatrist Professor Li was the first to jump out and question the full amount of treatment, and I also verified my conjecture from a psychologist for the first time. Read a lot of psychological books, in fact, even abroad, drugs are only an auxiliary means of treating mental illness.

Children should not be depressed, but bipolar, and taking medicine is not a good idea.

Part III: Recommendations:

"I think you may also have some anxiety, you can check yourself, if the parents are anxious, the child is not good to recover."

"If your child is better off, you can discuss with your doctor to reduce the amount of medicine."

"It will be effective to guide children to be busy, spend time on meaningful things that children like more, and only think about the current one-hour things, and do them little by little."

"I don't know what the sick children think, it is best to help write an article analyzing the child's unwillingness to take medicine without medical treatment or consultation."

"On the day of desperation, we may have to abandon our children and be hospitalized.

But this is only a small possibility, and we can completely ignore it now.

My mother always mentioned this matter, and as a bystander, I always felt very uncomfortable when I saw this sentence, and I didn't know how my daughter who always heard this sentence felt.

This sentence can not be said, or less said. To the mother to the child, this is so hurtful! ”

Part IV: Self-Narration:

"When I was 25 years old, one of my sister psychologists who helped me at school told me about the new drug: Delixin, which could cure depression, and told me that there were no side effects. So when I take it, it's like taking a granule made of flour, and the instructions are full of side effects, and I don't believe it. ”

"At that time, I had the conditions to buy Delixin, so I still took amitriptyline and pulled me out of hell."

"I have a real example around me!"

My son's junior high school classmate, who was diagnosed with depression in the first year of junior high school, took three years of leave at home and was invited to the middle school entrance examination.

His parents are super money-making, and his father personally told me that my son had psychological problems, and I saved 10 million yuan in his name.

Junior high school three years a year almost spent 200,000 one-on-one to make up for the whole subject, this year's middle school entrance examination finally admitted to high school, very relaxed school, teachers and principals are in advance to do well, homework is not written are fine. However, after only a month in high school, I didn't go to school, as if I was a school phobia.

Now I have received eight hundred psychological counseling sessions, I have done it twice in three years of junior high school and then the child has refused, and now I can insist on counseling.

Now this child has two suites under his name, a 140-square-meter residence, which was directly bought in the child's name when there was no limit to purchase, and a set of shops was also under the child's name, and his father said that he had a deposit of 10 million.

This child still can't go to school, depressed. ”

"My child refuses to take medicine, and I can only use unconditional love."

"Like my family, we can only be blocked by soldiers, covered by water, and dealt with at any time."

Part V: Scolding the Daughter:

"If you are an adopted daughter, it is clearly more difficult to provide for than your ancestors."

Everyone is an individual, the most basic is independence, even if she is depressed and cancerous, her life problem is to die or live suicide, which is a problem that she herself needs to face.

You don't need to be too anxious, I think your daughter is 18, and it still feels like you need your overly sheltered giant baby. ”

Part VI: Encouraging Blessings:

"No matter what, we must think and go in the direction of hope and prospect, we must not be pessimistic, you must change your concept."

"I hope to find a cure as soon as possible, because the sick children and their families are too painful."

Part VII: Concern:

"Has the child's boyfriend ever seen it?" What's the situation? Does he know that the child has depression? Hopefully, the boyfriend is a really loving person, that might be better for the child. ”

"Alas, for children with depression, falling in love is dancing on the edge of a cliff."

"Life is really hard, there are always unfinished lessons, only self-transit."

"It's not easy."