Many parents have said that their children are very fond of dumping things after they are two years old, and often make a mess at home, which makes parents very headaches.
2-year-old Hanghang is simply a "devil baby", in fact, Hanghang was originally very obedient, and was a quiet child, but when he was about 2 years old, his mother found that Hanghang began to like to "move his hands and feet", often at home to rummage through boxes and cabinets, as long as the child can move, reach, and open, all of which have been turned over by Hanghang.
And sometimes it will "spoil" things, such as before the voyage turned over the mother's lipstick on the mother's makeup table, it was directly used as a crayon to spoil, and the mother's makeup as a paint to play, but the mother to the heartache.
In the face of such a baby, Hanghang's mother really does not know what to do, she has beaten and scolded, but the child is "unrepentant", or likes to rummage through boxes and cabinets, it is really helpless.
Therefore, Hanghang's mother has always been able to clean up the mess behind Hanghang's ass, and every day she is troublesome, laborious, laborious, and very expensive. It almost made Hanghang's mother collapse, and even for a while, Hanghang's mother doubted whether this baby was sent by heaven to rectify herself.
In fact, such a situation as Hanghang is almost all over every family, and almost all children may have a situation of "turning over boxes and cabinets", so why would children do this?
● The child is not deliberately destroying, but exploring the unknown
In the eyes of adults, everything in the home is traceable, a "known" state, so adults will naturally not feel anything new, nor do they feel that they need to know what is in every cabinet and drawer.
But for the baby is different, this home is not the baby decoration, things are not purchased by the baby, the baby is in a state of ignorance about most of the items in the home.
And this home is the baby's living place, the baby will inevitably have a great curiosity about their own place of life, will inevitably have an understanding of the home, so they will begin to explore.
In addition, the reason why children only begin to explore at the age of 2 is actually because children of this age have enough thinking, subjective consciousness, physical ability, etc. to meet the child's exploration behavior, so the child has started his own journey of exploration.
● Children do not waste things, but practice truth-seeking
Hanghang's behavior of "spoiling" mother's lipstick and cosmetics is actually not subjectively malicious, but in the practice of operation, and wants to explore the real use of these things through their own behavior.
Sometimes, parents will find that even if they tell their children the real purpose of the item, the child will still use the item in the wrong way. In fact, the use of language alone to educate children, the results obtained are not large, children of this age need more vivid demonstrations, such as demonstration use, children will really understand the use of objects.
● The child is not clear about the right and wrong of his actions, but only understands himself
The child rummages through the boxes and cabinets and turns things everywhere, which seems to be a very naughty bad habit, but from the child's point of view, in fact, the child does not know that his behavior is incorrect.
Because the child at this time has not yet established a correct view of right and wrong, for the child, such behavior is not only exploration and truth-seeking, but also a process of understanding his own ability.
When the child is just born, there is nothing, and when the child is 2 years old, the child has vision, hearing, smell, taste, movement ability, mobility ability, language ability, etc., that feeling is like an ordinary person has obtained superpowers, the child naturally needs to test how much ability he has. Of course, this is also a child's behavior of exercising his brain, intellect, body, behavior and other abilities.
Combining these factors, the behavior of 2-year-old children turning over boxes and cabinets is not only not a bad thing, but also a good thing that is beneficial to the child's development, so parents should pay attention to this situation when facing this situation.
a. Do not rudely hinder your child's behavior
For this kind of behavior of children, many parents may hate "itchy teeth", so many parents may carry out some violent obstruction behaviors on their children, such as not letting the child continue to turn over, and even beating and cursing the child.
These behaviors are actually incorrect, because such rough behavior will only frighten the child, the child will not be able to understand the true meaning of the parent, and the child will even innocently appear a kind of "why the mother is angry" thinking.
More importantly, the rough obstruction of parents will interfere with children's exploration, curiosity and eagerness to learn, and affect the child's understanding of themselves and the exercise of ability. To put it bluntly, it will suppress the growth of children.
Therefore, parents cannot simply and rudely obstruct when facing their children's rummaging through boxes and cabinets.
b, do not turn a blind eye, but pay attention to guidance
Of course, although the child subjectively does not think that he is doing bad things, such a thing is really not a good thing, so parents can not do it, but pay attention to guiding the child to use the correct behavior "turning over the box". For example, when the child is turning over, the parents can be with the child, but the parents should "rule" the way to turn, and after the turn, the original state will be restored, and the child will naturally return to the original state after seeing the parent's demonstration, which will not appear everywhere in a messy situation.
In addition, when the child is turning over, parents can also take the opportunity to carry out growth education, demonstrate the correct use of the object, name and other knowledge to the child, improve the child's exploration efficiency, and avoid the child's "waste" of the item.
Parents should correctly treat the child's "turning things" behavior to help the child grow, but do not blindly stop it.
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