For a while, I didn't pay attention to the "28 incident", the last time I saw Xu Ma, or Tian Jing's brother got married, I saw Xu Mama and Yao Wei's family reunited, and I was happy for them.
Originally thought that this was a beautiful result, after going through the division and integration, and finally going to the reunion.
But I didn't expect that when I brushed my mobile phone last night, I saw a message sent by Uncle Beihai: Sad!!!
A black picture plus a series of 3 exclamation points, shocking, what happened to them?
After understanding the details of the matter, in addition to shock, or shock, no matter how many words, it is difficult to express the grief of the heart.
Mama Xu was too difficult to cry again, and her son, who had been separated for 28 years, was found back, but he lost his beloved sister-in-law and niece.
01. Crying and laughing show the essence of human nature
The first time I saw Xu Ma cry was to meet Yao Wei outside the station.
She gave birth in the hospital 28 years ago as a swaddling baby.
Seeing her son again, who is already an eight-foot boy, Xu Mama missed Yao Wei's growth, she had grief and regret in her heart, and her tears were full of realistic helplessness.
Yao Wei shouted "Mom", let her feel the power of blood again, no matter how much she experienced, her son finally found it, and it was also gratifying.
The second time I saw Xu Ma cry, it was Ce Ce who passed away.
Ce Ce is the son that Xu Mama has raised for 28 years, she takes care of Ce Ce carefully, giving a mother the greatest ability of material and companionship, however, Ce Ce is still gone, how can she not be sad.
As a mother, I don't want much, I just want my family to be healthy and safe, but sometimes, such a simple wish is difficult to achieve.
These 2 sons, Xu Mama poured out deep love, but the two kinds of love are different.
The love for Yao Ce is a deep affection for Yao Ce, and Xu Mama, like many mothers in life, wants her children to attend the best schools around them, wear brand clothes, and try their best to support their children to install a home when they grow up.
How can such a deep feeling fade with the development of things, especially if Ce Ce is seriously ill, It is even more difficult for Xu Mama to put it down.
Seeing a video, Xu Mama and her brother went to the hospital to see Ce Ce, because the hospital has regulations, they could not go in to visit at that time, Xu Mama bent down to ask ce Ce's physical condition, and the back shadow was full of sadness.
In order to restore her health, she is willing to cut her liver to save her son, and this kind of maternal love is touching.
The love for Yao Wei is the guilt of missing companionship, Xu Mama wants to make up for Yao Wei's company too much, you will see that when it comes to holidays, Xu Mama and Yao Dad will travel thousands of miles to Zhumadian to reunite with Yao Wei's family.
Her face was full of smiles, but if you could stand in the shoes of a mother, you could understand how difficult it was.
The first is the fatigue of the body, the long journey for young people, is also very tired, she rushed to the end of the work, just to be able to fight for even one more night reunion time, the hardship of which can be imagined.
The second is the state, every time she appears in front of the camera, Xu Mama is full of joy, holding Qiqi Yueyue to play, she transmits happiness to her children, sadness is kept by herself, and when she returns from her son's home, someone sees Xu Mama sitting on a stool, not speaking for half a day, and her eyes are full of loneliness.
Xu Mama is just a mother, she is not a perfect person, like most mothers in life, only want to live with their children, this is the original nature of human nature, such a desire is not high, but it is difficult for her.
02. Good and evil are not simply one-or-two
The reason why we pay attention to the "28 incident" is because this incident allows us to see the good and evil of human nature.
For example, on the way to find the truth, some people have found all kinds of doubts, which are originally very simple things, and it is good for everyone to clarify the problem.
Some people are unwilling, try their best to stop it, and even mock those who investigate the truth, using salt water to pour each other's scars.
Mr. Lu Xun said in "And The Collection of Small Miscellaneous Feelings":
"Downstairs a man was dying of illness, and the family next door was singing a gramophone, and the opposite was a child. Upstairs there were two people laughing wildly and playing cards. There were women crying on boats in the river about her dead mother. The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, I just think they are noisy. ”
The search for the truth is our respect for life, and a mother who has experienced her son's wrongdoing has the right to question and explore.
Those who stand on the sidelines and obstruct, under the banner of "good for you", are just satisfying their own selfish desires and wanting to get a piece of it.
We can accept that human sorrow and joy can be unrelated, but cannot be understood, hypocritical and indulgent.
Another example is the house dispute, which was originally very simple, who bought the house to whom, correct the misplaced relationship, dust to dust, soil to soil, things will pass.
Some people are unwilling to move housework to the Internet, write a small essay to fight a war of words, and really let us see the highest realm of "ignoring and stirring up three points".
Some people call the house dispute, called the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in fact, is inaccurate, from the beginning to the end, it is a unilateral provocation, Xu Mama has never argued head-on, nor has she said anything serious, she just showed the principle, let us see the pattern of a mother-in-law.
Good and evil are never simply two or the other, but can stand in the middle.
In human nature, there are some gray areas of desire, adhere to principles, so as not to let things go to extremes.
Rational people do not simply comment on whether a thing is black or white, but deeply analyze the reasons behind it, we are not right about things, in order to make things look clearer.
But there are always some people who will attack people because of things, and even publish some extreme words in the group, such as a person named "Jin Guo'er", who really makes people sideways.
There are also people who stand on the sidelines to watch the hilarity is not a big deal, say some cool words, such as the following one, let the crying with great fanfare, just want to ask, others cry or not, do you need to be the master?
In the fog, some people are reveling, some people are grieving, what we need to do is to wait, and when the fog clears, whether it is a demon or a demon will reveal its original form.
Write at the back:
I don't know how many people saw this article and maybe it will be deleted soon.
I only hope to pass on some positive energy, please be rational and not say too many emotionally extreme words.
I believe that many people, like me, learned that Xu Mama's sister-in-law and niece had an accident, and their hearts were difficult to accept, and then it was grief! Pathos!
Someone left a message that it was difficult to hide his sadness: "The first time I cried for a stranger, my heart ached so much that I couldn't breathe, and my uncle had to be strong." ”
My aunt has taken some videos, she is a gentle and firm person, has a good relationship with Xu Ma, and is also a firm guardian of Xu Ma, and also proposed to give the house to the Yao Wei family to live, such a sister-in-law really has great love.
Just before the accident, she also posted a video, saying: "You guys be individuals, I can't hinder you from anything, I only do what I can do, remember what I said, I don't cause trouble and I'm not afraid of things." ”
No one expected that this would become the last word she left us, making us wonder what she had experienced and what was the meaning of these words?
The development of the "28 Incident" is also a contest between good and evil in human nature, and we appreciate those who dare to face the problem head-on, and despise those who stir up trouble behind their backs.
The strong face reality, discuss things as they are, and the weak draw their blades and turn to the weaker.
But no matter what, the development of things has its own laws to follow, and the cycle of good and evil only takes time.
We have more patience, don't spread rumors, don't believe rumors, wait for the truth, and everything will come to light.
People's hearts are good, and Xu Ma's blessing is behind.