Children must have 7 important perceptions and skills

1. Perception of personal ability – "I can do it"

(Give your child more positive feedback, the more specific the better.) For example, your dance is very standard in terms of movements, and the rhythm is also just right. ）

2. Perception of my own value in important relationships – "My contribution is valuable, and everyone really needs me"

(In life, children are allowed to do things side by side with their parents, learning by doing, so that children can appreciate their own value.) ）

3. Perception of my own power or influence in life – "I am able to influence what happens to me"

(Parents and teachers can carefully provide this opportunity for children to have their own ideas in decision-making and action, and follow up on the results so that he can experience his own strength)

4. Strong introspection ability: the ability to understand personal emotions, and can use this understanding to achieve self-discipline and self-control

(Guided introspection, rules and freedom, under restricted choices, under the premise of respect for others, tell children that you can do certain things.) ）

5. Strong interpersonal communication skills: good at cooperating with others and building friendships on the basis of communication, collaboration, consultation, sharing, empathy and listening.

(Example: On a rainy day, on the way to school, the child sees the same school students riding bicycles and takes the initiative to ask the students to get on the bus and go to school together.) ）

6. Strong ability to organize and grasp: with a sense of responsibility, adaptability, flexibility and integrity to deal with various restrictions in daily life and behavioral consequences.

7. Strong judgment ability: use wisdom to evaluate the situation according to appropriate values

(Example: Discuss what happened at school with your child, or a story in a picture book, and guide your child to analyze the problem from multiple angles and levels)

Partly excerpted from "Positive Discipline"