Has your child ever quarreled with you over money?
There was a quarrel between mother and daughter because of 130 yuan.
The girl especially wanted to spend this money and go to the Internet celebrity photo studio to take a photo.
One is because I want to take a good-looking photo officially and leave a good-looking impression on others.
The second is to paste photos on bus cards, mobile phones, pencil cases and other places.
But was rejected directly by my mother.
Mom actually doesn't know the actual price of the Internet celebrity photo studio, she just said with emotion based on her own experience:
Is it worth it to take a random photo at home, run so far, just to take a id photo, is it worth it?
It's hard for you to take this kind of ID photo forty or fifty years.
This conflict became the fuse, so the girl "stripped away the cocoon" and looked back on her own growth.
In the first year of junior high school, because I was not very smart, could not understand knowledge, and was not good at endorsement, I wanted to learn dance.
The parents refused, citing insufficient financial means.
In the third year of junior high school, because my grades were not very good, I could not go to high school, so I wanted to go to school to learn swimming or photography.
Mom said that we don't have a sports school, and girls are too tired to learn photography.
So, she still didn't finish her studies.
After that, her parents made decisions for her to go to vocational high school to study agronomy.
Although I am now studying, I am studying a major that I don't like.
She concluded: Today,000,000," she has come to this situation, all because of her parents.
Learning is not good because parents say that they will not pressure her to study and let her learn on her own.
This is equivalent to ignoring and lacking their companionship and guidance.
When the results were not satisfactory, her parents directly decided for her, and never talked to her about ideals and dreams.
She said:
I also know to understand that they make money hard, so in the end I have compromised with them and have been compromising.
But what about me? I'm kidding my ideals.
Looking back on these 18 years, I haven't done one thing I like, and I feel sorry.
They closed the door to the world I wanted to see, and it was closed long ago.
I just wanted to escape their grip and communicate with them, and it wouldn't work, they didn't want to understand me.
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Children rightfully blame their parents
Child, maybe your parents are reluctant to understand you.
I don't understand why you can learn to dance, swim or photography in addition to reading books.
I don't understand how there is a place in this world called an internet celebrity photo studio, click a few photos, you have to spend a day's salary, and so many people are sought after.
They also don't understand that there are so many twists and turns in educating children, and they don't understand why children complain:
When I was in junior high school when my adolescence was open and my mind was open, they were so busy making money that they didn't even have time to talk to me and give me guidance.
It can be said that my junior high school did not have their company, only to meet in the morning and evening. The same is true of high school.
However, you have not really understood your parents.
They have limited experience and limited ability.
They are used to thrift and thrift, and they have seen few things in the world.
The matter of making money for their children to study is already doing their best for them.
In our hometown, the economic conditions are not good enough for the family, the child's grades have not been able to go up, many parents have let the child drop out of school and go out to work.
But your parents have been working very hard to plan a future for you.
The words ideals and dreams are big, and they may not be able to plan for that level.
So they just want you to have a skill and a way to make a living.
You feel like they're not doing a good enough job.
It turns out not to go your way, so you rightfully blame them.
This is what children do.
You're almost 18 years old.
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Use adults to try to reassure parents
You say that you are blindly compromising.
In fact, it is not a compromise dear, is there a possibility that you don't have a choice?
All along, your grades weren't enough to get you to choose a school.
Like you said, it can only be "academic".
Why is that? It's not that you're not smart, it's because you're afraid of difficulties.
Knowledge is difficult to understand, do not like textbooks, do not memorize; have not been to the ground, do not understand agriculture, do not learn.
It's hard to get started, so you don't even want to start.
Looking at the high hillside in front of me, thinking about the future hidden in the clouds, I couldn't see clearly, so I gave up.
Hard work is a hard process.
Including the swimming and dancing you want to learn, it may be more difficult.
Because it is not only necessary to train to eat physical suffering; it is also necessary to memorize physical care, literary and artistic common sense, and eat mental suffering.
You overestimate the pain of learning and underestimate the difficulties of other paths.
You say they're making fun of your ideals.
Do you know what an ideal is?
I used to have a friend who liked to draw, but my family didn't have the conditions to learn, so I drew in front of the illustrations in the textbooks and went to the street to paint in front of the crowds.
In "Chasing the Wind", the heroine's mother did not support her to learn short track speed skating, and she went to the wild lake to skate in the winter.
Su Bingtian once could not run in 10 seconds in two years and eight months, practiced countless injuries, and did not give up.
It's real love.
Whether swimming and dancing are your ideals or your second choice to escape the tragedies of real life.
You ask yourself.
The track of life will inevitably have some small stones, small bumps, and there will be many forks in the road.
We can't just walk on this road and step on a stone, trip up, just stop there and look at the back to wonder if the other road will be smoother.
Always through your own hands, sweep away the stones on this road, take clean, and make your road easier.
Young children will complain that their parents have not given enough help; mature young people will take the limited things that their parents can give, reassure them, and then move on their own.
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Life is so long, don't be held back
Grow up, kid.
It's not that you have to give up your preferences for the sake of other people's requirements, because your parents are not easy.
It means that you like what you like, and you will fight for it yourself.
Now that there are so many resources on the Internet, you feel that you are talented in what aspect, you can completely teach yourself.
When you learn a certain bottleneck and need systematic guidance, you can also save a wave of money through your part-time job to sign up for a reliable class.
Then you go to the market and test whether what you have learned can support yourself.
If not, it doesn't matter, can it be your self-amusement, your spiritual habitat?
Like is shallow, three minutes of heat may be gone.
Love is deep, I have always felt that life has a regression curve, you work hard, you will always do what you really like to do.
Go and see the real world.
It's not that you have to take a photo of 130 yuan, eat a five-star hotel dinner, buy the first luxury of your life, reward yourself in this way, and occasionally have a luxury.
No!
Because of such an accident, such a meeting with the world, will only become a distant talk for you, and will not form your mental calmness.
Your more emotions will be, nervousness, excitement and embarrassment.
True world-seeing is not something that can only be achieved with money. You have read a lot of books, you have seen a lot of human suffering, and you can be calm.
Learn to take responsibility.
The easiest thing for people to do when they are in trouble, in the trough, when they are not satisfied, is to blame others.
Just like Xiao Min in "Xiao Min's House", because her ex-husband is constantly entangled, he is very tired.
She and her mother knocked on the table and said: If you hadn't insisted that I marry him and work hard to match us, he wouldn't be my ex-husband today.
Blame the misfortune of his marriage on his mother's arrangement.
How simple is that.
But we can't do simple things forever.
Zhang Xinyi's childhood was very bitter.
In middle school, she didn't have a pair of jeans of her own, her clothes were all knitted from her mother's old sweaters, and even her shoes were worn by her father.
Once, she took a fancy to a pair of 99-piece small white shoes and especially wanted to buy them. Her mother promised her that she would buy it for her when she reached the top few in the class.
For this pair of small white shoes, she put all her play time on studying. But Mom broke her word.
Since then, the little white shoes have become an obsession in her heart.
When she grew up, she earned money and bought herself a lot of white shoes.
She healed herself from her childhood undeserved.
The lucky will be cured by childhood for a lifetime, while the unfortunate will spend their whole life curing childhood.
Don't mess with this sentence.
Don't easily use the words "original family misfortune" to define your life.
Life is so long, don't be held back.
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