Life is never easy.
Probably because of this, we always like to look to the future.
I will hope that time will take away all the bad things, and in the days to come, everything will be fine.
For the future, we have a good heart, this is not wrong, always believe in something, we will feel that the day has hope, our efforts, will also appear more meaningful.
There are many things that we can expect so much, but for people, we better not.
Especially, when you meet a person, at the moment, he has no sense of responsibility at all, and it is not good for you at all, if this is the case, you better not still have illusions about him, hoping that he will change in the future.
Don't expect that after marriage, he will know how to take responsibility and become different, and don't expect him to be very good to you and satisfy you in the future.
A person's nature is not easy to change.
When I met a friend, when I was on a blind date, she was not very satisfied, she felt that the other party was not doing the right thing, hanging ErLangdang, she did not want to agree to this marriage, but her family has been advising her, saying that the other party's family is well-off, and it will grow up when married.
Unable to resist the persuasion of her family, she finally chose the man, but after marriage, the other party was still unwilling to do anything, felt that this was too tired, that was too promising, always looking for her for money, relying on her family to help.
She was disappointed, and at this time her family told her that when she had a child, the other party would become a father, and she would mature.
Two years later, the child was born, but nothing has changed, the other party is still lazy to do, everything is her responsibility.
Seriously, thinking that a person will change, always hoping that the other party will become what they want, this kind of thinking is really quite unrealistic.
As the saying goes, the country is easy to change, and the nature is difficult to move. For too many people, the growth environment from childhood has already created his personality, but also caused his attitude towards everything, in the years to come, he will only continue, it is difficult to change much.
Basically, unless he realizes the problem and wants to change, he will not change much no matter who it is, no matter what happens, and how his identity has changed.
Trying to change a person, expecting the other person to be different in the future, is really stupid.
It is not good for you before marriage, and it is even more impossible after marriage.
If you are with a person, when you are in love, he is not very good to you, you must not feel that after marriage, you become his life partner, pay more for him, he will see your good and start listening to you.
Between men and women, when they are first together, the feelings are always the most intense moments.
It is also at such a moment that the other party has the most fresh feeling for you, and is most willing to show his sincerity and treat you with his heart.
When a person in such a moment, did not take you seriously, did not treat you so well, in the future days, when you married him, you dust settled, he will not treat you how special.
After marriage, the more you do your best for him, for your family, and be very kind to him, he will only be more at ease with you, and then more unscrupulous, and will not put you in his eyes at all.
He won't be afraid of you leaving, but will only feel that you will be so good to him because you can't live without him.
The person who is favored will always be the most fearless, in this relationship, he will only enjoy your good all the time, and you will only touch yourself and feel that you have paid a lot, how amazing.
On that day, you will blame the other party for being too ruthless, and in this case, there is indeed the responsibility of the other party, but more importantly, you yourself know that you can't do it from the beginning and make a wrong decision.
Find relative satisfaction, rather than expecting the other party to change.
Admittedly, everyone has flaws, and it is never realistic to find someone who is absolutely satisfied.
To be a person, you must know how to accept your own shortcomings, but also to be able to tolerate the other party's no, and in the matter of finding an object, you can accept that a person has some bad points, but the premise must be that in the general direction, you are more satisfied with that person.
Try to find a person you really like, and then accept some of the other person's small problems while liking the other party.
With such a person, your future will be more peaceful.
On the contrary, if you clearly feel that the other party does not meet your own requirements, and is far from what you want, his most real appearance, you simply can't accept it, this person, you better not choose.
Choose him, and then think that after marriage, the other party will develop in the direction you want, which will only make the other party very tired, and it will only make you feel very disappointed, in the end, you will only feel very emotional, the idea is different, and the relationship will be very tense.
The other half of life is not to find someone at random, to try to transform him according to his own ideas, but to do screening, to find a person who really feels good from the beginning, and then to live with such another party, and to manage each other's small days with their hearts.
After marriage, it is true that some people will become better and better, but there are always very few people like that.
Someone who really loves you, has requirements for himself, and is very responsible, he will be possible.
In most cases, what a person looks like before marriage will only remain like this after marriage, and even worse than before.
After all, before getting married, there are some aspects, he will also disguise, you will not find at all, after marriage, he will not want to continue to pretend, even if he wants, he will not be able to put it down at all.
After marriage, the other party, most likely, will only become worse.
For this reason, you must not bet on the changes after the marriage of the other party, it must be in a good direction.
You have to be sober, be rational, see each other clearly before marriage, but also ask yourself, if the other party will not get better, or even worse, whether you can accept it, can you be together, can not be the best to forget, and then find it again.
Text/Tan Meng
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