Have you ever encountered this situation in your life:
※※※※ The child jumps up and down at home, and there is no moment of tranquility in the tossed home, but as long as the adult plays the mobile phone video, the child will immediately come quietly;
※※※※ On rainy days, the child is noisy to go out, as long as he is given a mobile phone, the matter of going out to play is left behind;
※※※※ The child is noisy and bored at home, don't read him a picture book, but open the mobile phone to read the electronic picture book very energetically;
※※※※※ When the child plays quietly with the mobile phone and does not move the ground for an hour or two, parents begin to relax and worry about the child's addiction to the mobile phone.
Ma Ma: Give the phone to the mother, the child can't play with the phone all the time!
Kids: Why can't kids play with their phones all the time?
Mom: It's bad for children to play with their phones for a long time. You see the little brother next door is playing mobile phone eyes are myopic!
I believe that most parents will answer this when they encounter their children playing with mobile phones. However, the answer of this public does not stop the enthusiasm of children to play with mobile phones.
The soul torture in front of the child asks: "Why can't the child play with the mobile phone all the time"?
How do we answer appropriately? Then we must understand why children are addicted to mobile phones.
Behind the addiction to electronics is the brain's "reward mechanism" being triggered
Some parents may recognize their child's dependence on electronic products, but do not understand why their child is like this.
We sometimes force the child to put down the phone and tell the child to play with the phone to hurt the eyes. But the result is often a palliative approach. Once the child picks up the phone again, he will start to indulge again.
The reason why children are addicted to electronic products is the result of the joint "effort" of external and internal reasons: external reasons are that the information of electronic products changes and feedback too quickly. The intrinsic cause is that these rapidly changing and feedback information trigger the brain's "reward mechanism."
In layman's terms: the information change of electronic products is like eating a bucket of instant noodles when we are hungry, stimulating the dopamine reward system and making us feel rewarded. This is extremely obvious in children playing video games, such as eating chicken, king glory, and every time the head is obtained, the brain nerves will produce "excitement" and stimulate the secretion of "dopamine". This is the brain's "reward mechanism."
"The brain finds reward opportunities The brain releases dopamine to motivate the brain to act to complete the goal, the brain gets feedback incentives, produces pleasurable feelings dopamine predicts the rewards, motivates the brain to act again, and the brain finds reward opportunities."
Therefore, the reason why electronic products can make children addicted is to satisfy their curiosity through diversified information and continuous game rewards, thereby stimulating nerve "excitement".
In fact, children play mobile phones just like we have been living a life of big fish and meat, when we don't let children play mobile phones, it is actually the same as we have to eat vegetarian at this time. From frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality.
Moreover, not only children will be addicted to mobile phones, as adults, why don't we stay up late to play mobile phones? So don't blame the child for poor self-control, but in the face of the high-intensity dopamine experience of the mobile phone, who plays for a long time can not not be addicted.
That's why when children ask us, "Why can't children play with their phones all the time," our public answers don't stop kids from playing with their phones!
In the face of the child's soul torture, we can answer like this
We live in the age of technology, and there will be more and more tempting digital products in the future, just like from the previous TV to the computer after that, to our mobile phones now, the possible metaverse of the future (a collection of virtual time and space, so that human beings can feel the world of complete digitalization). Moreover, simply at home, children are forbidden to play with mobile phones, and he can still play with mobile phones when he goes to friends and classmates. So, what we have to do is help children get along with them!
First of all, don't reject children: when many children play games, their brains will release a lot of dopamine, which makes him very excited and happy. At this time, if parents do not understand the strategy, strongly reject the child, deny the child, and use a large number of words such as "playing games will make you play stupid" and "playing games again, the mother will not love you", so that the child will have resistance. One side makes him feel happy, the other side makes him feel angry, inferior, and resistant, and what can be foreseen.
Secondly, help children set the duration through time management software: if the child has his own electronic device, he can help the child count the screen usage time through the "screen time" supervision, time lock and other software and self-contained functions, set the use time of different websites and platforms, and when the screen is turned off after the time, the child will have to do other things.
The focus is on the user's external movement to divert attention: continuing to stay at home will only make the child's social skills weaker and weaker, and will become fatter and fatter, and they will not want to go out, making mobile phones and electronic products an important source of happiness for children.
Scientists have proven that exercise can promote the body's dopamine secretion and can enhance a person's willpower. Interactive sports, such as badminton, table tennis, basketball, etc., children are more interested in participating, especially suitable for parents and children to complete together.
Some parents say that my child's biggest hobby is mobile phones, no other hobbies, what to do?
The world is so big, the child has not yet seen the whole picture. Therefore, we should guide the child's other hobbies and give the child positive feedback in the process of helping the child develop hobbies. For example, if a child reads a book and discovers some novel things to share with you in the book, you can praise him for speaking like a small host, and the positive feedback of laughter and laughter is more, and he will gradually like it.
Finally, let's return to the original soul torture:
Ma Ma: There are more beautiful things waiting for us outside of the mobile phone, let's hang out together now