"Cai Gen Tan": Life should not be sophisticated, but it should not deviate from human feelings

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Life must not be worldly, but it must not deviate from the world, and those who flow from the world are easy to become kitsch, and those who deviate from the world are not sophisticated.

Because we live in such a society, under the complex social rules, it is inevitable to contact some right and wrong, and it can also be said that society itself is the carrier of right and wrong, so we must act in a deep and measured manner, if we completely compromise and become non-rules, or even fail to adhere to our own bottom line at critical moments, then we must be the worldly and despicable connivers.

In any case, if you are too innovative and arrogant, you seem to get rid of the shackles of secular rules, but in fact, you also miss the opportunity to make achievements in the world, and even easily attract the criticism and exclusion of others.

The ancients said such a sentence: Not close to human feelings, full of crisis; not physical feelings, a lifetime is a dream.

This means that doing things is not humane, as long as you start to do it, you will face many difficulties; if you do not observe the world's human feelings, your life will become an illusory dream.

People can not be worldly, but need to abide by the rules of the world to a certain extent, if a person's temperament is too upright, doing things is always extreme and arrogant, such people are difficult to make a contribution in life, because the unsympathetic way hinders their own growth and progress.

It is as if in life, there are many people with constraints in life, usually people with extreme personalities, and those who are happy and accessible in life, many of them have the characteristics of easy-going, because of his easy-going characteristics, accompanied by a gesture of humility and compromise.

What we are advocating is not agreeing with the world, but we need to be at the right moment to be at ease with the situation.

Zeng Guofan once quoted a sentence from Guan Zi, called: Dou Hu Man is universal, and full of people is heavenly, which is used to describe his round and modest philosophical wisdom in life.

When Zeng Guofan was young, he once had a sharp edge and ruthless mistakes in the world, resulting in his own widowhood, and even in the process of founding the Xiang Army, he had many constraints.

At that time, he did not know what this was all about, he was obviously bent on serving the imperial court, and when he did things, he was clear about public and private, and obeyed the law, so why did the results of what often backfired?

Later, Zeng Guofan found the "inflection point" of his life by chance, that is, his father died of illness, and when he returned to his hometown to guard his father's funeral for three years, he encountered an incident.

At that time, after returning to his hometown, he was enlightened by a friend, once again familiar with the law of Lao Zhuang, and began to learn to restrain his sharp edge and deal with problems in a rounded and accessible way.

Finally, under this effective improvement, not only did it invisibly dissolve many barriers and obstacles in life, but also the correct practice of retiring with merit at a critical moment, avoiding the scourge of prosperity and decline for ourselves.

Just like a sentence that Zeng Guofan himself said: "In previous years, I was outside, and I was at odds with the officialdom, and there were thorns everywhere." Later, he changed his course and felt a little at ease. ”

This sentence also precisely explains the wisdom state of Zeng Guofan's increasing maturity and accommodation accident.

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There is such a vulgar but very appropriate analogy, that is, we have to imagine the world as a dog, if you provoke this dog, it will chase you and bite, but you can not blindly compromise with it, let alone exaggerate to kneel for this dog, because then you lose your dignity as a human being, and the most appropriate way is to follow it, appropriately throw it a bone, let it be used for you.

Therefore, it is not enough for a person to have character and ability, but also to have the wisdom to understand the rules of the world, and this wisdom is the middle way that many people often refer to.

The so-called moderation is not a simple compromise, but a relatively tolerant and humble posture to accommodate the rules that should be observed between the world.

A person can never be better than an era, and only by abiding by the rules of the times can he make achievements in this era, which is the most appropriate attitude towards the world.

There is a saying in "Cai Gen Tan": Standing tall and standing a step, such as vibrating clothes in the dust, muddy feet, how to surpass? How to be happy if you don't take a step back in the world, such as a moth throwing a candle, antelope touching a clan?

This means that if you can't stand in a higher realm, it's like shaking your clothes in the dust and washing your feet in muddy water, how can you be otherworldly? If you don't take a step back, like a moth thrown into a candle and a ram with its horns against a fence, how can there be a happy life?

If you are simply for a thing or in a direction, then you only need to maintain a one-sided attitude, for example, you can cling to your own position, you can also stick to your own prejudices, and even when you have a slightly extreme attitude, you will do a better job.

But life is not a simple thing, nor is it a single direction, it is a complex intertwined network, in this "net", both to have a good and keep, but also to be able to let go of their own paranoia, in order to access the worldly rules.

In this way, we can gain something while compromising, while improving our one-sided ability, we can take into account the development of more directions, and finally provide ourselves with more room for growth while avoiding those obstacles and disasters that are not expected.

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