Everyone has been born in society for a long time, and it is inevitable that there will be enemies - the so-called enemies are not something you can avoid if you don't provoke him, and sometimes he will take the initiative to provoke you, such as Yang Zhi selling knives and encountering rogue Niu Er.
And how should we treat our enemies?
Some people have said, the old saying is good, to solve the hatred in the heart, draw the sword to kill the enemy, just like Yang Zhi, a knife to kill the provocative guy is called painful, but is this really the best way to solve?
Of course not, not to mention the current era of the legal system, killing people is not allowed at all, even if you beat him, in the end it is not good to accompany the other party to bad luck, just like Yang Zhi, for a while can't help but kill a scoundrel, but he also went to jail, self-destructive future, had to take another road - to be a thief.
Then some people said, we must repay virtue with resentment, and use our great virtue to impress the enemy.
If you can really reach this realm, then you can only worship you under the circumstances - this is the realm of the Buddha, and then please go out and turn right and leave.
After all, there may not be one in the ten billion people in the world who can reach this realm, most of them are just lip service, or just ask others to do it, besides, Confucius also said:
How to repay grievances with directness, how to repay morality?
So, what is the best way to repay the avengers?
Marquis Han Xin of Huaiyin gave us the best answer.
The best way to repay the avenger is to far surpass him, to reach a state that he cannot reach at all, at this time you will naturally not put him in your eyes again - because you are no longer a person of the same level, you can ignore him, and forgive him will win a good reputation.
Everyone knows that Han Xin was very poor in his early years, especially devoted himself to studying military books and learning swordplay, and he would not grow land and vegetables to do business, so his life was also very miserable, he ate a meal without eating, and he often went to a familiar pavilion chief (the director of the rural police station) to rub rice, plus the help of a big sister who washed clothes.
Marquis Han of Huaiyin, Huaiyin people also. When he was clothed, he was poor and had no way of doing anything, and he could not be elected as an official, nor could he rule the merchants, and he often sent food and drink from people, and many people were tired of them.
At this time, no one would have thought that this poor and destitute young man would be able to be crowned king and worship a prince in the future, and even have the opportunity to rule the world!
Therefore, there is a young man in the same township, it is estimated that he is also the kind of person who has nothing to do when he is full of food and support, and when he sees that Han Xin is not pleasing to the eye, he brought a bunch of brothers to find Stubble, saying Han Xin, your boy carries a sword every day to pretend to be like a man, and he is tall and big, but Lao Tzu thinks that you are a coward.
Ordinary people have long been angry when they encounter such provocations, and many people can quarrel or even fight when they are squeezed on the bus, not to mention the insult of this kind of red fruit?
But Han Xin ignored the other party, because he didn't feel that the other party was a person at the same level as himself--Yan Que An Zhi Hong Hu Zhi Ya?
But this young man became even more aggravated when he saw that Han Xin did not return his mouth, and felt that Han Xin was a silver pewter gun head, and said even more provocatively in front of many people: "Han Xin, you are a waste, if you want to have a kind, you will stab me with a sword, if you don't have a seed, you will drill under the crotch of Lao Tzu's pants!" ”
Doesn't that sound familiar? Yes, it was very similar to the rogue Niu Er who provoked Yang Zhi, Yang Zhi did not resist killing the other party with a knife at that time, and how did Han Xin do it?
After carefully looking at the other party, he didn't say a word, and really drilled through the crotch of the other party, and everyone laughed and laughed, laughing at Han Xin as a waste.
This passage is clearly recorded in the "Chronicle of History".
There were insulting believers in the Huaiyin Massacre: "If you grow up, you will carry a sword, and you will be afraid of your ears." The insults of all: "Faith can die, stab me, cannot die, out of my hakama." "So he believed in it, and went out of the hakama, and put it down. Everyone in the city laughed and believed that they were timid.
Maybe some people think that Han Xin's swordplay is not good, there is no self-confidence, that must be that he has not read the "History", what was Xiang Yu's position in Han Xin at that time? Lang Zhong, that is, his own guard captain, with Xiang Yu's vision and strength, could Han Xin get this position without two shots?
and Xiang Liang Duhuai, the letter staff sword from it, under the drama, notorious. Xiang Liang was defeated, and it belonged to Xiang Yu, and Yu thought that langzhong was langzhong.
So why didn't Han Xin do anything to the young man? The reason is very simple, because he never feels that the other party is the same person as himself, he still has great ambitions, how can he destroy his future in order to fight with this kind of person?
What is a pattern? That's the pattern.
Next, Han Xin flew Huang Tengda, and even his former boss Xiang Yu was defeated and committed suicide by him, so he was crowned king of Chu by Liu Bang, and then he returned to his hometown with infinite scenery, repaid the favor of his drifting mother, and also found this young man.
At this time, this person was already frightened and unincorporated, lying on the ground waiting for death--with Han Xin's current position of power, killing him was completely easy, even if he destroyed the Nine Clans, who would dare to disagree?
At this time, the ordinary people had already let their subordinates pull this person out and cut it into meat sauce, but how did Han Xin do it? Not only did he not kill him, but he made him the captain of his guard.
Puzzled, Han Xin told them, when this brave man insulted me, couldn't I kill him? No, it didn't make sense to just kill him, so I endured a momentary insult and achieved today's work.
Faith to the kingdom, summons the mother from the food, and gives a thousand gold. And the head of the Nanchang Pavilion in the countryside gave a hundred dollars, saying: "Gong, the little man is also a pawn for virtue." "The young man who summoned himself made the crotch man think that he was Lieutenant Chu." Tell the generals: "This strong man also." When Fang insults me, I would rather kill the evil? Killing is nameless, so endure it. ”
What is a big husband? This is called the big husband, far more than the courage of Xiang Yu, who can be called the first warrior in the world, I don't know how many times bigger.
Red Dust Jun said
Han Xin told us that the best way to repay the revenge is to remember this hatred, and then strive to be strong, far beyond the other party, rather than arguing and fighting at that time - then all with this anger will be vented.
For example, many young people now fall in love, grit their teeth in anger when they break up, and are eager to complain to the world, saying that the other party is a scumbag (scumbag), and then they cry bitterly, complain, and stagnate...
Is this useful? It's useless, will the other party care? No.
Instead of that, why don't you work hard to become a far better person than before, and leave the other person far behind? At this time, you will find that the other party is simply an insignificant existence, which is just a small stumbling block on your way forward.
And at that time, if you can't get it right, the other party is crying and weeping, kneeling at your feet and begging for your forgiveness.
This is the best way to retaliate.