There is an old Chinese saying called "the dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse will punch a hole", that is, everyone's descendants may inherit the genes of their parents, whether it is good or bad, there will always be inheritance, but there are always exceptions to reality.
Not necessarily the descendants of good people are good people, nor are the children of bad people bad people, and the descendants of the elite are only starting higher than ordinary people, able to contact the knowledge and connections of high-level people, and the children of ordinary people are not rich enough in resources
However, even if it is an intellectual family, the children and grandchildren born are not necessarily talents, and sometimes, the Kochi family will also appear "scum"
On December 29, a mother in Beijing shared her parenting experience, which caused many netizens to discuss it. Mom said that she and her husband are 985 master's degree, and their son who is in the third year of high school has become a "scum", but also in Beijing's such a good educational conditions, so good educational resources, he is located in Dongcheng District 70% of the rate of a book, now not to mention one, three books can not be passed, can be mixed with a high school graduation is good.
Because the child is bored with school, this makes her miserable. Even if the study is not good, it is still a bar spirit, every day with you to lift the bar, everything must be managed, her husband was angry twice, got a heart attack, so the quick-acting heart-saving pills they are often prepared on the bedside table, she now has no expectations for the child, and now the mother can only hope that the child will grow up healthily.
The highly educated mother said that the child has been carried by the father since childhood, instilling knowledge, helping the child write homework, for a long time, the child is somewhat disobedient, but also likes to work with the parents, and even feel that going to school is not interesting, although the parents are Kochi, but the child feels that the parents are not different or even very ordinary
For her own education out of a scum, this mother is very helpless, may be this condition makes many students envious, but there are always people in the blessing do not know the blessing
Some things are really hard to ask for, the bully is born, comes with the factory settings, they have the desire to learn in their bones, willing to read books, interested in the knowledge of the teacher, a little guidance is the bully. The same is true of school scum, who is born to resist learning, no matter how parents and teachers teach, it is like a steel plate blocking the entry! Be interested in anything, but as soon as you get to learn, you'll be naturally shielded!
Some people say that there is a problem with the parents' education methods, there are serious problems with learning from an early age, and the children lose the fun of solving problems by themselves, and they lose their interest in learning. This is my experience. Let go and let the child solve all the problems by himself, he will have the joy of exploring and solving the problem, there will be fun to solve more problems, he has always maintained the interest in learning, and it is very important to remain interested
This also shows a phenomenon that parents may be excellent, but also give birth to some "scum"
Parents are too good children will have pressure, will not relieve the pressure of the child will give up on themselves, because he feels difficult to surpass, always in the inferior, it is better not to work hard. Many bully parents come with anxiety. Prematurely stifling a child's curiosity and enthusiasm for learning. Love to learn is really to see talent, not to accompany the supervision can change. Both concentration and competitiveness are innate. If a child of Buddhism and laziness cannot eat the suffering of learning, he should not bother.
Man has ten points of wisdom, leaving three points to his descendants. The words handed down by the old man make sense to know. Don't be too smart.
There are also problems with the way of education. Ninety percent of the one-on-one tutoring assignments don't have good results. Learning is an autonomous, automatic, self-conscious process. Before school age, pay attention to the guidance of habits and methods, and then you should let go and let him learn to learn on his own. The most important thing for people is to learn the method of learning, not the academic performance
This phenomenon is also normal, the mean reversion is just that, the fathers are so excellent, the children are most likely not as good as the fathers, closer to mediocrity; otherwise, after a few generations, the strong are strong, and the human race tends to perish; this is the overall will of the race to maintain the survival and continue to evolve.
Things must be reversed, so it is better for children to let them choose freely, parents are only a guide, can not be too restrictive of their nature, this is also a natural law.