The other day, I went to a friend's house for dinner and was surprised to find that her 8-year-old son still needed his grandmother to chase him to feed.
My friend helplessly told me that grandma was always worried that the child would not have enough to eat, so she insisted on feeding herself, saying how many times she did not listen, and now that the children are so old, they still do not eat if they are not fed.
According to the child's growth and development law, the child can try to eat with a spoon around the age of 1, although it will eat everywhere, but if you let the child eat it himself, soon he will eat steadily and quickly.
However, in the eyes of many parents, they do not think so.
They think that children can't eat with unstable spoons, get it everywhere, too dirty and too troublesome, and like to feed their children for them.
They always think that the child can't eat enough on his own, and only by feeding can he really eat enough, so he holds the bowl and follows the child to feed himself!
They think that the child can't call out how to play, and will be hungry, so they sit next to the child with a bowl and chopsticks, and let the child play while feeding.
It seems that feeding a child a meal is nothing, but as everyone knows, the child is in the "feeding", will form a lot of bad diseases, and even affect the health and habits after growing up.
There is a problem with your child's health
Especially in the eyes of the elderly, they always think that "the child is not full of food, I am fed to be full", even if the child eats by himself, he must feed two mouthfuls at the end to be at ease.
It seems that the old man has a good heart, but in fact, he has harmed the child. The elderly feed their children, often according to their own standards of food, so if they are not careful, they will let the children eat too much!
Although the child is small, but what is hungry, what is full or know, obviously has put down the bowl chopsticks, have to eat a few more bites, do not underestimate these few bites, for the delicate gastrointestinal children is a great burden, if you often eat too much, it is easy to accumulate food, damage to the spleen and stomach, but will cause children indigestion, malnutrition. So many of the babies who are fed up look and eat a lot, but they are still very thin!
Even those babies who are born with a strong spleen and stomach have a very strong absorption capacity, and long-term overeating may cause excessive obesity in children, which also affects health.
Children have particularly poor concentration
It's time to eat, how to call the child can not hear, just take care of their own game. So in order not to delay the child's play and eating, parents choose to feed while letting the child play. It seems to be the best of both worlds, but in fact, it really hurts children.
If children are used to double-mindedness, it is difficult to have good concentration.
My friend told me that his baby must eat while watching TV every time, otherwise he would not eat. After going to school, I found that my child's concentration was not good, he wrote homework at home, and he liked to write while watching TV, otherwise he would cry and make trouble.
2-6 years old is the golden age of children's concentration training, the most important thing at this stage is to let children understand that one heart and one use, not one heart and two uses.
Children who are accustomed to doing two things at the same time will have great problems in their attention after school, unable to concentrate on doing the same thing well, and always unconsciously distracted!
Poor independence and strong dependence
Children who are accustomed to being fed will become more and more dependent. They are accustomed to opening their mouths with food, and slowly, they will reach out with their clothes, and their independence will become worse and worse.
Some people say that "children are not used to it", in fact, it is very reasonable, today you help him do this thing, he can let you do another thing for him tomorrow.
Don't underestimate the child eating by himself, for the child, this is an important sign that he has begun to be independent, when he finds that I can do a lot of things, achieve satisfaction and pride, his sense of independence, growth rate will increase.
Parents feed, is to block the normal growth of children, he has never experienced the happiness and satisfaction brought by his own meals, once he is used to his parents to help him do things, he will slack off, slow down the pace of his independent growth.
He has an arrogant personality and does not know how to be grateful
Families who are accustomed to parents feeding are often too tolerant of their children, they will tolerate children to play when they should eat, tolerate children who are very large and do not have the ability to eat independently, to put it bluntly, they are too arrogant to their children.
Children who are too arrogant and indulgent are prone to appear arrogant and unreasonable when they grow up, take their parents' efforts for granted, and do not know gratitude.
Some parents think, "Isn't it just feeding?" What's so exaggerated? ”
A small thing can reveal the parenting philosophy of parents, and a small thing can affect the growth of children, especially this small thing starts from the most critical period of children's character behavior!
Get it all over the place, scrub it again!
Not enough to eat? Children will have a long memory of sex after the next meal!
Kids patronizing play or not eating? This shows that the child is not hungry now, and it is no big deal to eat later!
Return the rice bowl to the child, return the right to eat to the child, he can grow into a child with strong independence and rules!