Today I saw a topic on the Internet, is it important to like when in love, or is it appropriate to be important?
I saw that the comments section was one-sided and most of the people chose "appropriate".
But I don't agree, I think choosing the right person is really too idealistic, do you really think that when you meet a person with the right door and good conditions, even if you don't like each other, you can make a living, sooner or later you can grind out family affection?
According to the examples around me, if you can't be emotional for a long time, you will only have more boredom, and those who choose the right ones will not be happy in the end.
Why?
Because you have come to talk about business from the beginning, each has its own small calculations, and you all want to make yourself comfortable, and you have not thought of making everyone comfortable.
I have a good friend married to the family to arrange the object of blind date, the man is in business, the woman is a primary school teacher, the two families are very satisfied, the two people are similar in age, they rushed to get married, at that time everyone congratulated her, saying that she has a stable job, and engaged in the education industry, it is convenient to take children later, the man makes some small money to support the family, which is appropriate.
As a result, within a few years, she began to make a fuss about divorce, she said that at first it was okay, and then the man's business became bigger and bigger, and he began to guard her inside and out, and it was to sign a property agreement, and it was income confidentiality, and often disliked her as a poor teacher, who did not show up for a lifetime, and could only rely on him to raise.
So, do you think that two people who seem to be suitable can help each other and support each other?
There's a key point in this, called "I do."
You are a partner who gets along day and night, there will always be unpleasant places, there will always be times when tolerance is needed, and you have to face countless troubles, trivialities, and bad things together, but how can a person who does not like you at all be willing to pay and sacrifice?
He had no motivation at all.
Why some small two mouths are "big trouble is about to fly separately", some small two can share happiness and suffering, is the same reason, because some people come together because of love, and after the passion fades, a relationship of responsibility, companionship and support has sprouted between the two people, but some people are because it is appropriate to come together, and when you find that the other party is not as perfect as you think, it is not suitable anywhere.
And I never felt like it was a multiple choice, in a good relationship, like is the beginning, appropriate is the end.
If you and this person don't have a common topic at all, then how can you like him?
If you don't like him, where is the right one?
Is it suitable for material conditions?
When you take it out to fall in love, why do you have to pay your heart and lungs to be good to others, show your charm, directly look at the resumes of both sides, the education is comparable, the job is appropriate, the age is similar, you can be together.
I admit that if two people want to have a good result, they are inseparable from the reality factor, but if you don't even have the most basic call, it is to force yourself to demand.
In this relationship, you have to force yourself to kiss and hug someone who is completely uninterested, and you must ensure that even if you meet someone you like later, you will start and end well, and you will never cheat, you also have to pretend to love him very much, tolerate all his little problems, and see others love each other, only you are lonely.
Believe me, the only person who can achieve this state is God.
Even if someone is really rational and chooses to find a suitable person, but in a moment in the future, they still can't resist the impulse of the heart and have feelings for the person they like, which is the instinct of people.
So ah, don't weigh whether it is important to love or appropriate, just like a line in the love apartment: "Feelings are a process of seeking common ground while reserving differences, if you can't seek the same, you can't go together, if you can't save differences, you can't go on." ”
Only when you first meet a person you like, let two people love each other in the process of getting along, can you have the motivation to sacrifice yourself, willing to change yourself for each other, especially when the feelings are problematic, when you think of the past ups and downs, you can be more sure that each other is the right person, I believe that since two people can come together, they can also work hard to make both sides more suitable.
Instead of finding a suitable partner in the name of love, when encountering differences and setbacks, the two people can't even work together, but complain about each other: "You have no use value around me." ”
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C