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This year's mood has really grown a lot, and I like my current state.
In the past, I had an attitude of not accepting defeat towards anyone and everything, but this year, I have slowly given up this "must not" mentality.
It is becoming more and more clear that forbearance and compromise are the norm of life, and it is always necessary to allow some relationships not to go as I wish.
Whether it is life and work, or the relationship entanglement in feelings. More and more intensely, I feel a sense of solidity in my heart, and I feel that I am becoming a stable adult.
Especially in the way feelings are handled.
In fact, the past two years have not been smooth, on the contrary, I have encountered many bad things, but it is this part of the experience that has given me a new understanding of things that I could not think of before.
In the middle of the year, I officially ended my relationship with the boy I liked, and although it had been half a year, there was still a faint discomfort when I thought about it.
How to say it! So far, there is still a little reluctance, but deep down I also understand that this relationship is difficult to have results.
It's also good to get tangled up with two people so that they don't connect anymore. At least that, both men knew.
I love it, but it's not necessary.
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But when I think back to my first relationship, breaking up was an unacceptable act for me.
Remember when two people simply thought that as long as we liked it enough, nothing could separate the relationship. Even foolishly feel that it is difficult to feel happy without each other's lives.
But when you really break away from this relationship, you find that it doesn't seem to be a big deal, and there is no "dead and alive" scene described in the TV series novel.
We can still live well, we can still find beauty in things, and we can still meet the next person we like.
What was originally you had to do, can be replaced later.
It is becoming clearer and clearer to feel that there are too many people and friendships that we cannot commit to.
Knowing how to accept unsatisfactory feelings is the norm.
Don't always shackle yourself or the other person and feel as if all of this is something you can't do, in fact, we know that there is nothing in the world that must be you.
Anything can be replaced.
In fact, I can understand that when I like someone, I really feel like I don't want to be separated from him in this life.
But there will indeed be many problems in the future.
For example, the weakening of feelings; for example, the migration of careers; for example, the emergence of more favorite people...
Really, the older you get, the more exposed you become, the more you understand. It is not easy to make a promise like "I have to do it with you".
This year, I also have a lot of feelings myself, and I prefer to go with the flow.
What I hope is that we get to the point where I like you more and more in our relationships, rather than telling each other bluntly that I've only been with you in my life.
In fact, whether it is emotional or other things, we must also learn to concede and compromise.
I know that many people are not willing to lose, but I don't think that losing is failure. Instead, losing is a better place for me to start.
I can accept defeat, but I will not give up the review, I always have to grow up in the fall, and I will always meet people who go hand in hand in the next part of the journey.