How to improve the level of concentration: cultivate bottom-line thinking and maintain boundary awareness!

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When things are not panicked, not impatient, calm and easy to deal with, I think this is the mentality and ability that everyone wants to have, which also shows that this person has concentration.

How to be determined? The first is not to panic, because "panic does not fight food", panic, there is no proper response, can only be an instinctive defense. Secondly, it is not chaotic substitution, there must be a sense of boundaries, because "adults mean taking responsibility", if the arrangement is replaced, it will be physically and mentally exhausted, and finally make a mess.

Therefore, to improve the level of concentration, we must first understand what concentration is, that is, the "emotions and thoughts" said in yesterday's text, that is, emotional stability and reasonable thoughts, which is fundamental, and then to understand what concentration is not, that is, not to panic and not to replace, the third step is how to do, how to deal with.

Here, to give you some personal experience, to see if you can train to improve some of our concentration level.

One is bottom-line thinking training, accepting the worst possible consequences.

"University" gives a warning, "Know and then have concentration", which we can popularly interpret as if you want to have concentration, you must first learn to stop.

What is stopping? It is to stop ineffective behavior, to cultivate bottom-line thinking, to estimate the worst consequences, and then to see how to deal with it.

Examples.

Attending the meeting, seeing that it must be late, it is impossible not to be in a hurry, then honestly accept the reality, accept the bad consequences of being late, and then immediately call the organizer of the meeting to explain the situation and let the family know as soon as possible.

For another example, if there is an unfavorable situation in the organization of an activity, it is necessary to take a plan, the so-called plan is to deal with unexpected situations, which is why a certain sand table deduction, consider the worst situation in advance, so that you can not panic.

Parents and students of college entrance examination anxiety consult cases, directly point out whether the assumption that the college entrance examination is not satisfactory or not acceptable, which is to show the worst situation, and then think about the best and most likely outcome, alleviate the anxiety situation, and deal with things rationally.

The above approach is to stabilize emotions, emotions are out of control desire, poor expectations of high results must lead to negative negative emotions, early warning response is the right way.

The negative example is Su Shi's story of "eight winds blowing, a fart across the river".

Another is border awareness training, accepting whose things are responsible.

Wang Yangming said, "People need to grind in things before they can stand, and only then can they move and be still and fixed," which means that concentration training is not empty talk, but must be implemented in specific matters.

If bottom-line thinking focuses on the possible consequences of things, including the best, the worst, and the most likely, boundary consciousness focuses on whose responsibility things are, including their own affairs, other people's affairs, and God's affairs.

There are many people, no matter whose scope and responsibility they encounter, are eager to deal with things, and they are substituted for packages, and the results are not gratifying, and it is not interesting to ask for themselves.

Family education, learning is the child's business, parents are anxious, eager to learn for the child, this is the most ineffective, allow the child to make mistakes to go slow, guide the child's learning interest, give the right to choose, feel the sense of achievement, determine the reasonable goal, this is what parents can do.

Children have established a family, the most common is to arrange instead, parents go to the child's home to take care of the grandchildren, not impossible, but can not be unprincipled, take all the things in the child's family down, bend and seek the whole lest the child is not happy, the result of their own tired resignation, but also personally cultivated the white-eyed wolf, hoping that such a child will be filial piety is difficult in the future, because "a person will not remember the person who waded through the mountains and rivers to see you, only remember the person who waded through the mountains and waters to see."

For example, when parents are old, they should do their part of filial piety, and they cannot ask others to do anything, nor can they replace their parents to reduce their suffering.

Do your best to do your own thing, less interference in other people's affairs, accept it in God's affairs, and that's it.

The above bottom line thinking and boundary awareness are the foundation, human nature is positive, with these as the underlying code, self-effort, according to ability, with people good, help others for fun, when things have concentration, it will come to fruition.