Experts talk about indulging in games

"The Character of Children" (subtitled "Positive Psychology for Parents"), written by Professor Peng Kaiping, dean of the School of Social Sciences at Tsinghua University.

Professor Peng Kaiping analyzed the games that thousands of parents hate:

"That's a big problem.

The game itself is a new form of entertainment for humans.

If you think playing games is a waste of time, isn't it a waste of time for your parents to watch a six-hour series in front of the TV?

It's the same.

In a way, when we blame a child, it's not because he's relaxing and playing games, but because playing games and entertainment has a negative impact.

So what we have to solve is not to play games, but to solve the negative effects of playing games.

And what are the negative effects of this?

1. Too long.

2. Hurt the eyes.

3. Harm the body.

4. Delay in learning.

So, what are the ways to make children play games without negative effects?

First, control the time.

So I think that parents can allow their children to play games, but not for too long, which is a rule that can be negotiated and communicated with their children.

Therefore, "discipline" is actually not only "management", but also "teaching". "Teaching" is to make him realize what the rules of this family are.

The second is not to let playing games affect children's learning.

If the child's playing games does not affect learning, I don't think it is a problem.

However, if it affects learning and the child's performance declines, then parents must control the child's behavior of playing games, because the excitement generated by playing games has affected the enthusiasm of children to learn.

If playing games affects the health of children, then we must find ways to improve physical health.

All in all, controlling the negative effects of playing a game is key, not controlling the behavior of playing a game.

Some people even mistakenly combine the child's behavior of playing games with the punishment of electric shock, which is not only wrong, but also has no scientific basis.

Most importantly, this will create a huge psychological shadow for the child.

The act of playing games seems to be gone, but other negative effects are still there.

So I still think that games, as a new form of entertainment, should allow children to play, but not excessive, excessive, can not have a negative impact.

Tell your child: We don't care that you are not making you happy, but because this excessive happiness will have a negative impact. ”

The above theory is analyzed very well, which can make parents who are anxious to the six gods and no masters find the direction and method to solve the problem.

Of course, for children with mental illness, parents should consider flexible application, on the basis of maintaining a harmonious parent-child relationship, and friendly consultation with children.

Of course, the more fundamental way is to love unconditionally, awaken the child's heart to love life, and automatically and spontaneously establish life ideals and goals. Then, the happiness and glory of the virtual world will naturally become boring.