The two grandmothers of Ning GuoFu and Rong GuoFu are not a heavyweight at all in terms of identity background.
The presiding grandmother of Ningguo Mansion, You Shi, can be said to be a "three no-lady", she has no children, no powerful mother-in-law as a patron, and even the favor of her husband Jia Zhen; Wang Xifeng, the presiding grandmother of Rong Guo Mansion, is a young grandmother who wants everything and can suppress you everywhere. She gave birth to a daughter Qiao Sister for her husband Jia Lian, and a powerful mother's family as a backer, Jia Lian was also both spoiled and afraid of her own wife.
For a long time, You Shi could not be compared with Wang Xifeng, although she was Wang Xifeng's sister-in-law, although she was an upright lady of the Commandments. However, with the development of the story, we can't help but slowly find that You's limelight is becoming more and more popular, while Wang Xifeng's limelight is becoming more and more decaying.
You Shi, the "three no-lady" who has no children, no backers, and no husband's favor, can catch up with and surpass Wang Xifeng's limelight, relying on an emotional trick - kindness.
Wang Xifeng has everything, she has money, when she married Jia Lian, the Wang family accompanied Wang Xifeng with a large amount of rich dowry and four dowry maids, and there were several escort rooms; she had eloquence, Wang Xifeng's sharp teeth, the most famous in "Dream of the Red Chamber", she could not only coax the angry Jia Mu in anger into joy, but also the Lady Wang who came to the door to find trouble, said that she was convinced; everyone in Jia Mansion admired Wang Xifeng's eloquence, heard that Wang Xifeng wanted to tell jokes, and all the big and small servants rushed forward; she had brains. Although Wang Xifeng had hardly studied when she was in her mother's house, she had also learned a few words when she was a housekeeper in Jia Province, and more importantly, thousands of things in Jia House every day were in Wang Xifeng's mind, and she didn't even have to read the ledger, just listening to the dictations of those people, she could find out who had made what mistakes and whose accounts were wrong; she also had a very powerful arm - Ping'er.
Ping'er is the most outstanding handmaiden in "Dream of the Red Chamber", not only loyal to Wang Xifeng, but also smarter and more capable than Wang Xifeng, with Ping'er's assistance, Wang Xifeng can have no negligence and be thorough when she is a housekeeper.
In comparison, You Shi was inferior to Wang Xifeng in every way. She had no money, and even her mother's family had to rely on Jia Zhen to raise her; she had no eloquence, and she was always overwhelmed by Wang Xifeng; she did not have a strong arm, and Jia Zhen's concubines did not seem to pay too much attention to this housewife.
However, with her own kindness, You Shi finally gained a foothold after more than ten years of hard work in Jia Province, and her situation gradually surpassed that of Wang Xifeng.
You's kindness is true kindness, and the people she helps are those who are looked down upon by others, such as Aunt Zhao and Aunt Zhou.
Wang Xifeng's birthday, thinking of trying to "detain the two aunts' meager monthly money to let's have fun", but You Shi secretly returned their money to them behind their backs, because You Shi knew very well in her heart that the life of these two women was not easy, and she was even willing to carry the pot for these two women, "That is, Feng Yatou knows, there is me."
And the people in Jia Province. In the eyes of other masters, the little ladies are just "cats and dogs", when the owner is happy, you can tease them for a while; when you are unhappy, scolding or ignoring them, they are also by the nature of the master, but in You's eyes, the servants are also people, she does not let those servants kneel on the ground to serve themselves, as far as possible to provide them with some convenience. Even if the next people brought you the lowest-grade rice, Youshi did not say a word, and took it and ate it.
Because it is too strong, because it is too domineering, the distance between Wang Xifeng and her husband Jia Lian is getting bigger and bigger; because of generosity, because of kindness, the distance between You Shi and her husband Jia Zhen is getting smaller and smaller, and this change of distance occurs quietly, and it is infiltrated in a way that "moisturizes things silently".
Wang Xifeng's reputation in Jia Province is getting worse and worse, but You's reputation in Jia Province is getting better and better. With the kindness from the heart, "Three No Lady" You Shi, won Wang Xifeng steadily.