It is often said, "The dead are great." On the one hand, it means that after the death of someone, relatives and friends must put down their work and rush to accompany the deceased in the last few days of the world, also known as funeral; on the other hand, when dealing with the aftermath, we must try to respect the wishes of the deceased before death, or completely follow the wishes of the deceased.
That being said, sometimes, some things are hard to get in place. For example, some people may not be able to attend the funeral for various reasons after the death of a close friend; for example, after the death of some people, the last words left behind make it more difficult to deal with the aftermath. The last words left by the woman Wang Ling before her death caused great controversy.
Because Wang Ling was frail and sickly from childhood, when she reached the age of talking about marriage, her parents considered that it was convenient to always take care of her problems, so they married her to Liu Zhen, who was not far from home. Liu Zhen is 4 years older than her, and her brother is a good friend from childhood to adulthood, so she is very aware of her situation, and has taken care of her like a sister before, and after marriage, she is even more caring.
Liu Zhen, who was originally working in other places, in order to better take care of his wife Wang Ling, found a job in a small town closer to home after marriage. Almost every day, he would get up early to prepare his wife's breakfast, and then go to work, and after work, he would rush home as soon as possible to make dinner and do housework, and at lunch he would tell his wife to go to her mother-in-law's house or her mother's house to eat.
In the face of her husband Liu Zhen's love, Wang Ling is also grateful in her heart, but also more dependent on her husband, and the couple's feelings are getting deeper and deeper. Unexpectedly, in the sixth year after the two married, the husband died in a car accident on the way to work, leaving behind a 5-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son.
Since Liu Zhen's unfortunate death, the grief-stricken Wang Ling has had the idea of taking her own life many times, but considering that the two children are still too young to let them lose their mothers at the same time as they lose their fathers, they have worked hard to survive under the persuasion of their relatives. However, there was rarely a smile on her face.
Looking at Wang Ling, who was not in good health and was depressed all day, both her mother's family and her in-laws were very worried about her, so a year after Liu Zhen's death, she tried to persuade her to give her child to her parents on both sides to help take her, let her go out to find a suitable job, and make her forget the pain in her busyness.
Later, Wang Ling listened to everyone's opinions and found a job as a cashier in a supermarket. But after a year of drying, everyone found that she was still sullen and silent all day. A friend was kind enough to introduce her to kindergarten, hoping to infect her with the innocent smiles of the children and bring her own young son into the kindergarten with her.
Maybe it was the influence of the children that made her mood better, or maybe she disguised herself too well, after 5 years in kindergarten, although it was usually difficult to see her smiling face, she still smiled when she was with the children, and occasionally opened the conversation box to chat with people. However, according to her mother-in-law, she is often seen crying involuntarily at night.
Friends and relatives who cared about her considered that she was young and could not let her stay alone for the rest of her life, they proposed that she find a suitable man to remarry. At first, she expressed strong opposition, and later, unable to withstand the persuasion of many people, she accepted everyone's kindness and selected a divorced man Liu Li, ten kilometers away from home, from several blind dates.
After the two married, Wang Ling moved to Liu Li's house, and the two children were taken care of by her mother's parents and the Liu family's parents. Because the Liu family is far from the kindergarten where she works, and her youngest son is already in primary school, she quit her kindergarten job and became a housewife.
Since remarriage, although Wang Ling still has a look of not smiling, everyone is relieved to see that she and Liu Li's life is quite stable. Unexpectedly, less than a year after remarrying, she had the idea of taking her own life again.
After a wrist cut, she was saved by sending her to the hospital in time, but was told by the doctor that she had suffered from severe depression and not only needed treatment, but also had to prevent her from taking another life.
To this end, Wang Ling's parents took her home and took turns to accompany her, and the relatives around her often came to chat with her and unraveled her by the way. But one night, after her mother, who was lying next to her, was asleep, she jumped off the building desperately and gave birth, and her life was frozen at the age of 37.
In addition to grief and regret, everyone found a suicide note from her pocket before she died. Roughly speaking, she knows that she is sorry for her parents and children, as well as other relatives who care about her, and she also wants to try to let go of the past, but she can't forget every bit of being with Liu Zhen.
She originally thought that after remarrying, she might slowly get better, but whenever it was late at night, liu zhen's figure would always appear in her mind, so that she could only stare at the eyes and wait for the dawn. Even if she falls asleep occasionally, Liu Zhen will come to her dreams, and when she wakes up, she will feel that her remarriage is very sorry for Liu Zhen. Such a day made her really unable to survive, so she chose to be liberated. And the most striking last words are that at the end of the suicide note, she said: Please bury me next to my ex-husband.
After the contents of the suicide note were transmitted, it immediately caused a lot of controversy. Some people think that she has such a deep affection for her ex-husband that she should fulfill her wishes, but some people think that she is now Liu Li's legitimate wife and should be buried in the ancestral tomb of the Liu family.
Others say that the question of where to bury her involves the issue of taking care of the aftermath. It is reasonable to say that her subsequent affairs should be handled by her current legal husband Liu Li, but if she is buried in her ex-husband, it is a little unfair and inappropriate for Liu Li. If the Liu family handles the aftermath and then buries her next to her ex-husband, it is equivalent to putting her current husband Liu Li aside, which is not appropriate.
After listening to everyone's controversy, Liu Li said that he was willing to abide by his wife's last words, but there was a request, he felt that since his wife died in the family of his in-laws, the funeral ceremony was held at the parents-in-law's house, and he could pay part of the burial costs and then bury his wife next to her ex-husband. As soon as this statement came out, although some people still felt that it was inappropriate, most people thought it was OK. Wang Ling's mother-in-law's father said: You can't do this.
According to the father of the Wang family, he is also very sad about the death of his daughter, and he can also understand her deep affection for her daughter, and he also wants to obey her will, but people die like lights out, and they cannot disrupt the living order of people because of her last words, and then cause criticism and fall into the handle.
In his opinion, since the daughter is now Liu Li's legal wife, she is a member of the Liu family, and if she holds a funeral ceremony at her mother's house, it is very unreasonable to bury her next to her ex-husband. In the end, he made a decision in a non-negotiable tone, and Liu Li was responsible for taking care of his daughter's affairs, and then buried her in the ancestral tomb mountain of the Liu family, which was also worthy of the ancestors of the Liu family.
Afterwards, although some people said that Wang Ling's father did not think of the deceased as a greater person and did not let his daughter fulfill his wishes, he was a cold and heartless person. But most people still feel that he is not wrong to do so, after all, the deceased is dead, and several families cannot be plunged into the land of right and wrong because of her last words, which are not very reasonable.
The same thing, because of different positions, naturally will produce many different opinions, the key lies in the final choice of those who have the right to decide. Right or wrong, as long as the matter is a foregone conclusion, after a period of baptism, it will soon be forgotten.
For this matter, the real sadness is not where she was buried in the end, but that she gave up her life at a young age. While many people shed tears for it, they can't help but sigh that in this world, what is the love that people have word of mouth, and what magic power it has, making people willing to live and die so desperately!
In fact, in real life, there are not a few people trapped by love, but some people will slowly come out of pain after a period of healing, while some people will let themselves blindly sad, and eventually accumulate into diseases, and even choose a road of no return invisibly.
Someone once said, "When you can't change the facts, the only way is to change yourself." "On the long road of life, it is inevitable to encounter some unbearable sad things, but excessive sadness is only torturing yourself, even if you end up depressed, you can't change the facts that have happened." Therefore, after we are sad, we must bravely accept the reality, and then adjust ourselves, as far as possible to let go of the past as soon as possible and meet the new life.
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