In the eyes of many parents, the child's destructive behavior is deliberate, so parents see the child destroying things, either yelling at the child, or beating the child's ass fiercely, and finally the parents are breathlessly cleaning up the battlefield, and the child is also aggrieved and scared.
In fact, the behavior that the child does not meet the expectations of adults does not mean that the child is deliberately engaged in destruction, but this simple, rough criticism and scolding behavior of the parents hurts the child's heart and self-esteem, and will also have a bad impact on the parent-child relationship. Parents should be a little more patient, give their children a chance to explain, and listen to their inner thoughts.
Li Ping plans to send her children to school to rush to the interview, so she has been urging the child to come to dinner quickly, Li Ping while busy packing her son's school bag, while busy dressing herself, but found that her son was still squatting on the ground fiddling with toys, immediately angry, shouting her son's name, yelling at her son, the child was scared silly, stunned in place, still holding blocks in her hand, and finally reacted to start crying, Li Ping looked at her son crying or felt very angry.
This is Li Ping's cognition of this matter, now let's take a look at the child's views on this matter.
Mom is usually very hard, has been at home to take care of me, cook for me, play with me, send me to school, today mom is going to interview, I hope my mother can succeed.
I heard people say that making a wish to the stars can be fulfilled, and I want to use blocks to spell out a star for my mother before going to school, and wish my mother a successful interview today. But before I could finish fighting, my mother rushed over and scolded me, rudely throwing the blocks in my hand and the stars on the ground into the toy box, and I was very sad and scared and cried.
Li Ping stood on her own point of view to see this matter and harvested a bad and angry morning, if she can be more patient with the child, listen to the reason why the child is doing this, you can find the child's sincere love for the mother.
Compared to Li Ping's other mother, who did a good job, this mother bumped into her own child and spread the freshly washed and dried sheets on the ground, jumping around barefoot on it, she was very angry but still tried to calm herself down and ask the child why she did this?
The child replied excitedly to her: "Mom, look, I am dancing on the clouds." The child jumped, spun, rolled on the sheet, intoxicated, looking at the child's excited appearance, the mother also put down the matter in her hands and watched the child's dance seriously and cheered him on. The mother gave the child patience and time, and then harvested a happy time with the child.
Children's hearts are pure and beautiful, they have no intention of destroying, or even not realizing that they are committing sabotage, if we use the perspective of an adult to criticize and scold, it will stifle children's creativity and imagination, and will also hurt children's hearts. Therefore, when you see your child "wreaking havoc", don't be anxious, be patient, and listen to what the child has to say.