My son came back from school at the weekend and proudly told me: Mom, I got into a fight with the bunk, I won, he now has a 180-degree turn, he is kind to me, even in the classroom, he will give me priority to give me lectures, and we are now getting along harmoniously.
Then, my son told me what had happened: the child on the top bunk, there was a box of milk stuffed under the mattress at the head of the bed, which may have been stuffed in the summer at the beginning of the summer, it had expired, and the box was broken, so there were many drops on the window sill at the head of the son's bed.
After the next night's self-study, the son asked him to quickly wipe it clean, and when he came to see it, the son found a cookie bag on his bed, so he was even more angry, saying: "Pick up the garbage you threw away!" Unexpectedly, the classmates in the upper bunk flat denied that he threw it.
The son then said, "Who just came back and licked his face and asked someone else for biscuits to eat?" So he pulled the upper bunk and went to the classmate who gave the cookie to ask for verification.
After the classmate said that he gave one, the classmates on the upper bunk could not deny it, so they reluctantly picked up the biscuit bag, at this time the son did not forgive, asked him to continue to wipe the milk on the windowsill, did not expect that the upper bunk classmate turned to go (or may be to go to the back of the cabinet to get paper, the son thought it was a trick not to wipe), just blocked and did not let go, at this time, the child of the upper bunk first angry, the son is not willing to show weakness, the two wrestled together, and finally the son is tall, strong, victorious, The students on the upper bunk also honestly wiped the milk clean.
Since then, the relationship between the two has been harmonious. The son stuffs the fallen garbage back, and the upper bunk will honestly be delivered to the garbage basket.
Speaking of this upper bunk of the son, the son is a belly opinion, saying that this child is particularly selfish, and good performance, as soon as the school starts, he takes the initiative to ask Miao to be the head of the house, but he does not care about anything, he is not responsible at all, and even his own hygiene is not good.
Every day the bed was a mess, stealing food in the bed at night, all kinds of garbage always fell on his bed, and then the garbage basket in the dormitory was at the door, he didn't bother to throw it, always throwing it in his son's garbage bag.
Just after the beginning of the school, everyone is not familiar with it, and my son is not embarrassed to say anything, so he picks up the things that fell on his bed, and then takes the initiative to throw away his garbage bag every day, which belongs to two people.
After a long time, the son can't bear it, let him pay attention to it in the future, don't always fall on his bed, what if the inspection of the dormitory is deducted points? But the upper bunk did not restrain at all, and the son was very angry, so when he saw the garbage that fell, he directly stuffed it under the mattress of the upper bunk, and after the top bunk was found, he threw it back into his bed, and the two people were on the bar.
This matter my son said several times in front of me, you can see that he is very distressed, and then the first monthly examination, the son is the second to last, saying that the upper bunk is even more contemptuous of himself, so he does not take his words seriously.
I enlightened him at that time: Son, we are manly, be generous, don't worry about him; no, let's salute first, when you go back to school, give him a garbage bag, let him throw the garbage into the bag every time, mainly this kind of triviality, we are not worth talking about in front of the teacher, or we should find a way to solve it, the son affirmed: Mom, the method you said is useless.
Then he and the bunk have been stumbling along for several months, did not expect that this time he solved it himself, it can be seen that the son came back this week, the mental state has changed a lot, although there are other reasons, but with the upper bunk ice release of the previous suspicions, let him feel a lot more relaxed.
The son came to the conclusion: Some people are bullying soft and afraid of hard, do not give him some color to see; people do not offend me, I do not offend, but if others do it first, I will never be polite; academic performance is not all, just be yourself, there is no need to inferiority.
To tell the truth, after hearing that my son himself solved this problem that bothered him for more than three months, my heart was still very surprised, in the stumbling, the child will eventually grow up, many things, need to be experienced by themselves, rely on their own ability to solve, so that in the future to encounter similar problems, he will be at ease.
And the child's poor grades, not necessarily IQ problems, and the relationship with classmates is not handled well, it may also be one of the reasons, and this big obstacle has finally been swept away!