Author/Pond Fish
"I don't cry. Losing me should be his loss, because in the days to come, he may never meet another person like me who thinks about him and loves him deeply. And I'm just losing someone who doesn't love me. A girl said.
This is a four-year relationship that ended in a breakup, and her heartfelt difficulty and unwillingness became the "gift" of the breakup left to her by this relationship.
In short, it was the man she had loved for four years, she had thought of him in all kinds, did not want him anything, stayed with him, wanted to be with him for a lifetime, and finally it was she who was abandoned. And the girl, who had only known each other for two months, had never done anything for him and was always asking him for all sorts of things.
It was also after the separation that she reacted, this love that seemed to her to be unforgettable, the boy did not even send a bouquet of flowers for her.
It's just his own love, just a halo on him. She used to think he was good and deserved more of her own goodness, and she loved him wholeheartedly, but she forgot to love herself well.
You love someone, you think it's your own business, you think that if you take it seriously, you will be rewarded, but in the end you will always find that the things of the world, regrets and misses are commonplace.
Many girls, when they love a person, think that as long as they do not seek money and feelings, as long as they are good to him, the other party will cherish you and love you for a lifetime.
In fact, when you do, he will also think you are a good girl, but that's about it.
After you miss, or he takes the initiative to give up on you, maybe his heart will temporarily be indebted, will express his regrets, and even in the middle of the night, he will suddenly miss your goodness. But believe that His love for you alone is far less than you think.
People are profit-seeking animals, especially in most cases, boys are more rational than girls when facing love. At no time, test human nature. When you pay infinitely, when you repeatedly compromise, give in, please, and even start to give up your own principles for the sake of the other party, whether your own value is greater than his, your value in his heart has mostly been greatly reduced, which is the reality.
Your tears, your sincerity, can't impress him at this time.
If, in an intimate relationship, you try to keep a person with only the heart, you will most likely find that the heart may be the least valuable thing in the world.
Any sincerity, want to be cherished, have a certain premise, and the process of two people getting along, there is mostly a game, it is impossible to just pay regardless of their own disregard, you can occupy the upper hand in the game, or maintain the basic balance, sincerity can become the icing on the cake. Otherwise, your sincerity may only touch yourself, and eventually even become a weapon to hurt yourself.
At that time, you are all wounded, but the other party may tell you that everything is voluntary, and no one forces you.
This is not poisonous chicken soup, but a love that can finally be cultivated regardless of the effort, and I really haven't seen it together in my life.
No matter what kind of relationship two people have, if a relationship is to be long-lasting, it must not just be good for each other, but there must be some mutual restraints between each other, absolutely pay each other, sink some costs, and even have a source of crisis in the other party, which is more stable than blindly being good to each other.
Especially as a woman, if you don't know how to touch the switch of "he pays for you", it is basically impossible to rely on your own goodness to impress him forever.
Of course, this does not mean that you can't be good to each other, and it is a very normal thing to be good to each other in love, but you have to control a certain degree, if you pay too much, it is a process of extremely negative things.
True effortless love depends on attraction.
Therefore, any person, no matter how much you love each other, you must deal with your emotions, do not expose your needs too much, do not always look like you must, do not want the other party to step on your bottom line, you are still foolishly thinking about each other, thinking that such a self is a good lover.
Before you love someone, you must first love yourself.
Instead of spending time to please each other, to figure out each other's preferences, to change according to the way the other party likes, it is better to use these times to improve yourself, your sense of value has come up, you have more things, and the whole person's confidence and mental state will definitely be different.
And the people you love will definitely be able to see this.
Ten thousand steps back, even if you are like this, you still can't keep this person, that can only show that there is really no fate between you, don't be too demanding, sometimes heaven lets you lose a person, in fact, it is to make a new preparation for the next correct encounter. Moreover, your own heart is strong, you have seen more things, your vision and heart are open, and you will naturally no longer indulge in all kinds of love and love all day long, crying and crying, thinking that someone you missed will be your own regretful life.
No, what you miss is just one person, and your life is never decided by others, but your own mentality.
Throughout their lives, many people are always looking, longing, hesitating and wandering in the love and being loved, just to touch a soul similar to themselves, no matter what the mouth says or does not care, but always have hope in their hearts. Although many people do not necessarily cherish it when they meet it, this process of searching will exist for a lifetime, but it is only realized in different people.
Because very few people can resist all the loneliness and loneliness of the rest of their lives alone.
People need to be alone, but people also need to socialize, need love, need to touch warm and beautiful things, which is a human instinct.
May you be able to harvest love at the same time, but also in the right way to love someone, so that your love is not betrayed, and at the same time become more valuable.
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