In a love, I believe that everyone longs for the other person to be able to truly love themselves and be conquered by themselves, rather than just thinking about how to betray and how to end this love.
The so-called "conquest" is just to let the other party accompany their own side single-mindedly, exchange hearts for each other, treat each other sincerely, and the couple state that seems to be normal in love has become the most difficult emotional state between countless couples.
Received a private message from a reader, the private letter mentioned that their own way of operating love, in fact, is also a lot of people in the management of love often appear in the mistake, always think that they have paid more, good for each other, "must" be able to conquer each other, so that the other party really fell in love with themselves.
But the reality is often not the case, many times the more you give, the end result is less satisfactory, the key lies in how you let the other party really be conquered by you.
What this reader actually wants is very simple, just simply hope that the other party will be by his side and be able to get along wholeheartedly, but only because of the wrong way, he has to let each other go their separate ways.
One always blindly enjoys everything the other party pays, one also feels too tired because of the long time to pay without responding, and when one party stops giving, the love seems to have come to an end.
In love, "conquer" each other's better way: three cold, sometimes your cold will not bring any drawbacks to your love, but will only make you know how to cherish each other better, I hope that everyone who is experiencing love can really understand.
01, stick to their own position, do not blindly "obey"
In a love, there are really very few people who can stick to their position from beginning to end, and many people will think that if they really love someone, they should take the other party as the "main field" everywhere, and blindly obey each other no matter what.
For example, when some couples encounter some problems in real life, one party will always take the other party's solution, even if the ideas in their hearts and each other contradict each other, they will not argue about anything, but will only listen to each other's opinions.
Many people will feel that this is true love, one side obeys the other side is the performance of loving the other party, but in fact this is just an illusion, you can imagine, when one party no longer obeys and begins to stick to their own singing, will the other party really continue to get along with you?
The answer is no, such love is often very fragile, and it is naturally not an easy thing to really conquer each other, but the final result will only be to make each other more contradictory.
Therefore, when a love begins, don't think that the other party is right about everything, and don't always blindly obey each other's everything, you must know that true love is to conquer each other and take each other.
Not blindly obedient will be more or less "cold", but at least you can know how to give, rather than let the love between each other become a one-way obedience.
02, learn to moderately "cold" to get along, maintain a certain distance
We often say that the longer we spend together, the weaker the feelings between each other, and it will also cause more and more contradictions between each other, after all, when your shortcomings are displayed in front of each other, it is often difficult to want each other to accept them for a while.
In real life, many people will always think that loving someone should be gentle with each other, rather than cold, so there is indeed no problem, but what you need to know is that sometimes the more gentle you are, the result is that the other party's "blind wantonness", but there is no benefit to the feelings between you.
The best way to get along with each other is to know how to get along "coldly" and maintain a certain distance, even if the feelings between you are deep, or how deeply you love each other, so does the distance often produce beauty.
If at the beginning of love, you continue to convey to each other how much you love each other, how clingy, how inseparable you are, in fact, you will not let them be conquered by you, but will make the other party feel that you can't do without them.
Then it will make the person you can't leave feel that no matter what he does, you will be by his side, and over time, your dependence on him will become deeper and deeper, and the other party will only become less sincere than it was at the beginning, or take your dependence and love for him to be arrogant.
What you know is that people will become, whether they can be long-lasting, often depends on the way you get along with each other, sometimes the more gentle you are, the result is that the other party blindly "wanton".
So learn to be moderately "cold", don't let the feelings between you develop too fast, get along slowly, slowly understand, it will always come, and what belongs to you will only belong to you after all.
03, do not blindly pay, know how to stop at the right time
In fact, people who blindly pay in a love are often envied by many people, and they must love each other so much that they want to give the best to each other, and such people are even more gentle people.
On the contrary, the more gentle people are, the more they do not know how to get along with each other, only know that they have to work hard, try to give the best to each other, and thus lose their own position, and ignore what they really want.
Many people will think that giving will definitely conquer each other and enhance their feelings for each other, but this is not the case, and it is not always as simple as you think.
Sometimes you have to understand that the more you try to get things, the more they will be cherished, and those things that can be easily owned for a long time, the final result is often not to know how to cherish and scatter.
A real relationship does not require you to give excessively, only you need to be sincere enough, enough to exchange hearts for hearts is the best state of love, true love is always mutual, and always conquer each other.
If you want to conquer the other party, first of all, you must know whether you are conquered by the other party, and whether you clearly know how deeply the other party loves you in his heart, and at the same time of conquering the other party, it is definitely not blindly conquering, but to judge according to the depth of each other's feelings.
Some people do not belong to you, naturally no matter how you do it, it is just useless, even if you pay more, no matter how deeply you love, you will only be moved by yourself, how can you let the other party be conquered by you?