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Between people, there must be a sense of proportion.
There is a pair of girlfriends, and their relationship is so good that there are no secrets between them.
The intimacy was so close that they became extremely dependent on each other, and at first they all thought that this friendship would last a lifetime.
However, the end result was that they ended up resenting each other and separating themselves.
Why is that? To sum up: the tube is too wide.
A always asks B to know everything, whether B has the desire to talk or not, as long as he sees that B has something on his mind, he will ask the end.
Once B went out on a date with a boy, A knew and asked the boy carefully.
In A's view, B is his best friend, and such a big thing as making a boyfriend must be personally checked.
So, every time B went out on a date, what he said to his boyfriend, when he had a fight, and to what extent, he had to report to A.
Not only love, but other aspects B must also be subject to A's constant supervision and control.
Finally one day B broke out, and A officially proposed to break off relations.
In this relationship, A feels that it is B's fault, and B feels that it is A's fault.
In a way, both men are wrong.
A should not treat B as his own private "property" and control everything, and B should not acquiesce to the way A treats himself from the beginning.
If A is not as controlling, or if B is less dependent on A, and the two people keep an appropriate distance, the friendship between the two people can continue.
It's a pity there are no ifs.
Between people, a sense of proportion is crucial.
There is still a need for a sense of proportion between family members, and everyone needs their own personal space, especially between friends.
You can be nice to one person, but you can't control the other person's whole life, and you can express your own ideas but you can't impose them on others.
Everyone yearns for freedom, and if your concern disturbs the freedom of others, feelings will fall into a desperate situation.
Two people who go too far are easy to become strangers, and when they go too close, they are easy to become tired.
02
Don't care, don't care.
There are boundaries between friends.
For example, no matter how good a friend is, you must also pay attention to some things that cannot be managed.
A friend had a conflict with his girlfriend and watched him rack his brains, and I gave him some advice but didn't tell him what to do.
Because you can't understand what a person really thinks in his heart, whether he wants to reconcile or break up, or if he has already put up with it, but you want to persuade him to be generous, these are all inappropriate.
Some words, after all they say, are not accepted, and they are the freedom of others.
For example, if your friend wants to start a business, you are not optimistic about that industry, and you are very disapproving in your heart, but your friend has already made up his mind, what will you do?
If the other person has already firmed up, the only thing you can do is support and encouragement.
Because there are some things that you can't manage.
Between friends, the most important thing is to hug each other for warmth, not to hinder each other.
Do not do to others what you do not want, this sentence comes from the Analects, and is the philosophy of getting along with each other.
A little more heart-to-heart can avoid a lot of harm.
Shutting up when necessary is a form of courtesy and even more of a form of respect.
03
Plain as water, deep as the sea.
The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and you will understand this truth when you reach a certain age.
Human feelings are very complicated, especially human nature, there is a bright side, there is also a dark side.
Moderation is the basis for maintaining feelings.
However, friendships that are as plain as water can also be as deep as the sea.
In the long years, there are always some people who have been watching you from a proper distance and are always around you.
The best friendship is to be able to keep the right distance, use the right way, say the right words, and fulfill each other's commitments.
Don't do things that hurt your feelings, don't say words that sting your heart, but there is no less sincerity.
If you want a person to stay with you all the time, you need to create enough comfort.
A bland relationship can also be very reliable.
May the affection not be betrayed, and may the ending be worthy of paying.
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