Just as the so-called "family has a virtuous wife and no transverse affairs", it means that there is a virtuous wife in the family, who thinks thoughtfully everywhere and can prevent disasters before they happen, and the husband can live a carefree and peaceful life. Don't say you don't believe it, there was such a person in the Tang Dynasty, it was because he listened to his wife's words that he escaped the disaster of killing himself twice.
This incident was recorded in the "Asano Youzai", and the credibility is still very high. The original text is as follows:
Then the Heavenly Dynasty, the servant Qing came to the strength of the Junchen, and the officials looked sideways. Shanglin ordered Hou Min to be partial to things, and his wife Dong Shi advised: "The thief of the Junchen state is also unstoppable, and once things are bad, the traitorous party suffers first, and the king can be respected and far away." Min retreated slightly, junchen was angry, and went out to fuzhou Wulong Ling, Min wanted to abandon the official return, Dong Shi said: "But go to Mo to stay." "Go ahead, go to the state, stab the general of the state, and write a piece of paper wrong." The state general looked at the words behind the tail and angrily said: "If you can't fix the name, why is it a county order?" Without putting it on, Min was worried and depressed, Dong Shi said: "But live and don't ask to go." "After fifty days of suspension, the Chungju thieves broke Wulong, killed the old county order, and slightly exhausted the family mouth, Min Yi was not allowed to get the whole, and then Junchen was reprimanded, and his party was expelled from Lingnan, and Min was spared.
It probably means that when Wu Zetian was in power. As we all know, Wu Zetian is a generation of empresses, a woman, in ancient society, it is absolutely unimaginable for women to govern. Wu Zetian wanted to become emperor, facing not only the Manchu Dynasty Wenwu and Li family people, but also the whole society, which shows how much pressure she was under.
Therefore, in order to be able to maintain her own rule, our empress had to use unconventional means - cool officials. The use of cool officials to maintain their own rule, Wu Zetian dynasty, there are many cool officials, we are familiar with Lai Junchen, Zhou Xing and so on. In particular, Lai Junchen is the most famous and the most ruthless, so there are many people who are begging him.
Among the many people who came to Junchen was a man named Hou Min. Hou Minguan is not big, for the Shanglin Order, probably equivalent to an ordinary department-level cadre in the Ministry of Agriculture now, mainly responsible for managing vegetable cultivation. Hou Min also has ideals, and if he wants to climb up, he naturally wants to seduce Junchen, and he runs to Junchen's house without a problem, and is close to Coming to Junchen.
Hou Min's abnormal behavior was clearly seen by his wife. One day, when Hou Min returned from Junchen's mansion, his wife began his ideological work: "Junchen, the thief of the country." Once the dynasty is defeated, the party will suffer first, and the king can be respected and far away! ”
Probably means, husband, don't you know that Lai Junchen is a fierce and vicious traitor? Don't look at him now, he is very popular, powerful, one hand covers the sky, he has formed a party for personal gain, he has mutilated loyalty, he has done many evils, there will always be a day when he loses his power, the trees are scattered, you better stay away from him.
Hou Min carefully pondered his wife's words, felt very reasonable, and promised his wife that he would not deal with Lai Junchen again in the future. Since then, he has gradually kept a distance from Lai Junchen.
Lai Junchen was also a careful person, and he was a little unhappy to see Hou Min staying away from him, and said angrily: "I don't know what to lift, I wanted to mention you, but you are so ignorant of good villains?" If you don't give some color, you don't know how thick the sky is. ”
Therefore, Lai Junchen told Wu Zetian that Hou Min was very incompetent, and took advantage of his position to steal the fruits and vegetables from the royal vegetable garden and enjoy themselves. Wu Zetian was furious and ordered Hou Min to be driven to Wulong, Fuzhou (涪州, in modern Wulong, Chongqing) to serve as the county magistrate.
From a small county order that was demoted from a Beijing official to a remote place, Hou Min felt very depressed, and this official did not want to be. After his wife knew, she immediately came to persuade not only to be, but also to speed up the past, "Go fast, don't ask for it." ”
Under the persuasion of his wife, Hou Min took the whole family and went to Chongqing. According to the custom, before the new county magistrate takes office, he must send a letter of introduction to the competent leader, that is, the governor of Fuzhou.
Hou Min did not want to go, so when writing the introduction letter, he deliberately wrote the wrong format. As a result, after the state government saw Hou Min's introduction letter, it was very angry, thinking that he could not even write the introduction letter, how could such a person be the mayor of a county? In a fit of anger, he ignored it and asked Hou Min to stay at the station.
Hou Min was a little unhappy, seeing that her husband was unhappy, his wife came to comfort her again, saying: "Husband Jun does not have to be angry, there is a way that Sai Weng lost his horse, An Zhi is not blessed, this may be a good thing, Husband Jun just stay, do not leave." ”
So Hou Min's family temporarily stayed, and this stay was more than fifty days. Suddenly, one day Hou Min heard a shocking news: Wulong County Ling and his whole family had been killed.
Originally, Junchen thought that Hou Min had taken office, and in order to further retaliate against him, he colluded with local bandits to kill the "Hou Min" family. It seems that this Lai Junchen is indeed a villain, and he will kill you when he escapes to the end of the world.
But Lai Junchen made a mistake, because Hou Min did not go at all. At this time, Hou Min thought in his heart, thanks to listening to his wife's words, otherwise he would have died on the street.
Soon after, another piece of news came that Lai Junchen had been taken down by Wu Zetian. Because Lai Junchen had done all the bad things, Wu Zetian felt that Lai Junchen had no use value, so he brought him to justice, and after Lai Junchen was killed, his henchmen who followed him were either killed or exiled to Lingnan.
Hou Min listened to his wife's words and did not join the Lai Junchen Group, so he was safe and sound, and escaped the disaster.
Therefore, it is reasonable to say that "the good daughter Wang three generations, the virtuous wife and husband have few misfortunes", Hou Min is precisely because he listened to his wife's words and twice escaped the disaster of killing himself.
Therefore, friends are very lucky if they marry a virtuous wife.
Friends, welcome to pay attention!