We finally turned "marriage" into "family."

◎ Seven Yan

When I got married, I thought about all kinds of possibilities in the future, but I didn't expect that you would become a good wife and mother

The birth of my son disrupted all my wife and my plans.

We were both the same age, avant-garde in thought, and had planned never to marry for life. After being pressured by the family and determining each other's personalities, we finally hurriedly got the license at the age of 36, but agreed: to be a Dink family, we must not lose a dashing life because of our children.

But one afternoon in the spring of 2020, my wife came out of the bathroom with a pregnancy test stick and crossed me in horror and said, I'm pregnant. I fell asleep, and then, in less than ten minutes, we agreed again that since we had created this life, we could not fail to be held accountable to him.

Pregnancy preparation is flustered, we sorted out a lot of maintenance methods from the Internet, and then went to the best hospital department to hang up the expert number for the whole check, afraid that the small life in the stomach will be lost.

Fortunately, I spent October pregnant safely, and at the beginning of this year, the baby was born smoothly. It was only then that my wife and I were reminded of a serious question: Where does the follow-up income come from? Before, both of our professions were very cool, I carried notebooks around the mountains, writing for some media, my wife worked part-time for construction companies to do bidding meetings, and rode motorcycles around in a windy way. Both are freelancers, have precarious incomes, and have little savings.

On the eve of labor, the milk powder and diapers prepared for the upcoming baby spent our last deposit. My wife made a grimace and asked me with a bitter smile, what will we eat next time?

The rare thing about our marriage is that the three views are surprisingly consistent. In the face of difficulties, we can always quickly reach an agreed solution. We decided to sell my wife's motorcycle first, at least 70,000 or 80,000 cash, and then in a quarter, the royalties and shares of my published books would also be collected, and the miscellaneous miscellaneous things would add up to enough for us to live easily for a year.

If it had been before, we would have gone out to eat a big meal, but now the wife holds the sleeping baby and asks, what about later? This time, after waiting for a full week, I made up my mind: no more tossing, I went to work at a friend's company to earn money.

Now, the baby is nine months old, and my wife and I are living a life that we never thought of before. We used to be night owls, I wrote all night, my wife had to play midnight games every night, and the next day I got up at noon. Every time I go back to my hometown, my parents will ask me why I am in such a bad spirit.

But after the baby was born, except for the first two months of the day and night upside down to toss us fiercely, from the third month onwards, the child's feeding, work and rest gradually stabilized, and we both followed his rhythm to live.

Now, at six o'clock in the morning, the baby wakes us up with a humming and chirping, and the day begins. Although I have my mother to help, but breastfeeding, changing diapers, walking with the baby... The wife must be personal. And I, get up to help until eight o'clock, and then hurry to the company, because I am a new recruit, I have to do my best to make achievements first.

Such a busy day until nine o'clock in the evening, after the baby went to bed, we were all tired, slept next to each other, and slept until the next day. Open your eyes, the baby is lying in front of you smiling at you, and we are refreshed on the new day.

In the past, everything was simple, dirty clothes piled together to wash uniformly, eating or ordering takeaway, or going to the restaurant to splurge. But at the beginning of pregnancy, the wife takes the initiative to ask for cooking, and since she wants to be a parent, she must give the baby the safest care.

From diet to daily care, my wife and I couldn't get enough of it. Seeing my wife busy in house clothes, I joked that when I got married, I thought about all kinds of possibilities in the future, but I didn't expect that you would become a good wife and mother.

The most important thing is that we have finally turned "marriage" into a "family".

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, we discussed that everyone had been tired for nearly a year, and this time we let the families of both sides get together to celebrate. The wife sent a video to the mother-in-law, saying that she could not sew a red belly to carry over, and the baby was wearing auspicious clothes.

The mother-in-law shouted over there, "Aren't you particularly against these superstitions?" In fact, I was already ready, but I didn't dare to give. You see, in addition to the red belly pocket, there are cloth tiger pillows, small flower hats..." The mother-in-law moved the video to a large number of gadgets to show.

The wife said: "You take it, the baby must like it, and when he grows up, he will know that these are the loves we give him." ”

The mother-in-law "giggled" over there and smiled like a child.