01.
Wang Lihong is divorced.
On the morning of the 15th, Taiwan media reported that at the end of November, they had received revelations that Wang Lihong and his wife Li Lianglei had completed the divorce procedures and ended their marriage for many years.
As soon as the report came out, Wang Lihong's agent stood up for the first time to deny it. She said that according to her understanding, there is no such thing as an agreed divorce between Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei.
However, what the agent did not expect was that not long after she responded, she was punched in the face.
On the afternoon of the 15th, Wang Lihong sent a Weibo, and the divorce was officially announced:
"Lianglei and my private life is very simple and simple, so I will not respond to any media again." In these years of marriage, I have done too much and regret it. Now we have different ideas and plans for the future way of life so we decided to live separately. Although the application has been made, we will always be a family. ”
A tweet says it all.
First, he and Li Lianglei decided to live separately because of their different lifestyles and plans.
Second, there is no so-called tearing face, and the two will still be family in the future.
......
Married for eight years, with three sons, and still tied up.
Finally, as Wang Lihong once sang in the song: "The lovers are divided into points and combined, but the more we love, the deeper we love." ”
It's a pity, and it's a shame.
This time, he and she, only divided, not together.
02.
In the hot search of #Wang Lihong's response, many netizens mentioned the three words "divorce rate".
I found that in today's society, whether it is real life or the floating entertainment industry, there are more and more people who have the courage to divorce.
As for why.
In the final analysis, there is no escape from these three words: I can't bear it.
There is forbearance here, both for others and for oneself.
Let's start with others.
We all know that being in love is a matter of two people.
Today you want to talk about the wind and snow moon, tomorrow you want to pick the stars and pick the moon, as long as you want, you can.
But marriage is different.
Marriage is more often a matter of many, many people.
Just like Wang Lihong, at the beginning of the divorce news, many people speculated that the reason why Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei came to this step today was Because of Wang Lihong's mother.
Yes, as you might think, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are at odds.
There is gossip that when Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei first got married, the Wang family did not like Li Lianglei, and later because Li Lianglei gave birth to two daughters and a son one after another, the divorce was postponed again and again, and it was postponed until now.
The authenticity of this news has yet to be verified.
But it is undeniable that in a marriage, the family members of one party will indeed affect the success or failure of the marriage.
For example, I once watched a Japanese drama:
The man in it talks about this problem very soberly, in his opinion, men and women are married, and the objects to deal with are not only each other, but also parents and relatives.
"They're going to come and take care of your business, especially women, and they're going to be asked when they're going to have kids, when they're going to quit when they're going to work, and that's the kind of question." In the end, maybe you will have to teach you how to make miso soup by hand, and these three sisters and six wives will point fingers at you all their lives..."
And whenever this happens, the vow made in church to love each other forever will begin to fall apart and gradually deteriorate.
You will find that you begin to pray.
Never go that far.
For a lifetime, a little faster, a little faster.
03.
Of course, in addition to others, the failure of marriage is more because of oneself.
It doesn't have to be cheating, and it doesn't have to be poor.
It's just that at a certain moment, you clearly feel that you and ta are no longer the same selves as they used to be.
Pan Guoling said:
"You think that love is poured into the only one. Who would have thought, and later, that lovers would become objects of substitution. That substitution can even be sudden, suddenly replacing the lover, in fact, it also means that the sudden replacement of oneself. ”
Simply put, it's changed.
Or Wang Lihong.
In the divorce Microblog, Wang Lihong said that he and Li Lianglei had different ideas about their future lifestyles and plans.
Many people see this and are deeply skeptical. After all, we have all lived together for 8 years, we should understand everything, can we change again?
But in fact, such a situation is real and exists.
There's a classic line that goes something like this:
"Marriage doesn't die out in an instant, it always goes on pathologically for a long time before it's braided."
Those that seem to be sudden, but in fact, they have been planned for a long time.
Open Wang Lihong's Weibo and you will see that the last time he was Aite Li Lianglei was in June 2019.
And open Li Lianglei's IG, you will find that Wang Lihong has "disappeared" for two years.
Unbeknownst to everyone, he and she drifted apart.
But I would say that such pathologies are sometimes not a bad thing.
It is a reminder that the feelings between people and people are renewing.
And life also needs to change like the seasons.
04.
Think of a reader who got divorced two months ago.
When it comes to this divorce, she actually uses the word "easy" to describe it.
The reader's name is Xiaolan, and she has been married to her husband for four years. In the first two years of marriage, she and her husband stood at the same starting point, they were both ordinary part-time workers in the big city.
I don't have much ambition, I just want to have a warm little home, have a loved one by my side, and eat a hot meal.
But I don't know when my husband changed.
He is very motivated, he is very hardworking, and he has a better plan for life and career.
Fortunately, he put Xiaolan into his plan.
Unfortunately, Xiaolan did not want to be planned by him.
In the letter, Xiaolan said:
"Too tired, Kaigo, you know?" In today's terms, I am a salted fish, my life is only ordinary, there are not so many great ideals, but my husband is different, he wants me to work as hard as him, we both have a better future, I know he is for my good, but this good, really makes me feel tired. ”
In the long run, their marriage still lit up the "red light".
The day I decided to divorce, it was calm.
It is undeniable that they still have love for each other, but this kind of love is not on a horizontal line.
This reader's story reminds me of a passage heidegger said:
"In love and hate, people are lost in chance at first, and finally return to themselves. When man is captured by love, he is thrown into his own existence. Latin love means: I want to exist. ”
In this life, love is not all.
True love, knowing that it exists, is actually letting the other person have a complete self.
It's loving each other.
At the same time, I am also loving myself.
05.
Wadang wrote in the Three Verses Sutra:
"The melancholy is a river chasing the setting sun, the sudden spring, and the people who will never see each other again."
In recent times, we have witnessed love, and we have also witnessed the disappearance of love.
But what I want to say is that it's not melancholy, it's sunny.
I and you, though, never see each other again.
But we all have a new spring.
Right?
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