How did Zeng Guofan get rid of the problem of lust? Netizen: You can let your husband learn!
When he was young, Zeng Guofan was also regarded as a teenager, although the examination was very unsuccessful, and it took many years to pass the examination. However, since winning the show, he was admitted to the lifting in the second year, and three years later he won the jinshi. At that time, Zeng Guofan was also "proud of the spring wind and horseshoe disease, and looked at the Chang'an flowers in one day", and immediately became a social master in the political circles of the capital.
There are many Hunan people who serve as officials in the capital, and there are many regular and irregular gatherings. In the circle of the Hunan Hometown Association, zeng guofan in his youth was a lively person who liked to make friends, but he was paranoid and could easily cause disputes with his fellow villagers, and even fights.
Gathering with fellow villagers is nothing more than drinking and eating, playing chess and listening to plays, of course, it is inevitable to gather crowds to prostitute. Literati prostitutes were a social trend at that time, and Liu Yong of the Song Dynasty took it to the extreme. The biggest feature of the literati Zeng Guofan was that he liked to write couplets and even poetry for prostitutes.
Zeng Guofan once sent couplets to prostitutes many times, such as "I might as well go back and ask Qing Yu Yiyun He", and "Immediately pipa has a thousand years of hatred, and the song and dance in the palm of the hand are light". He also wrote a letter for the prostitute aunt in his hometown: "If you are born like a dream, your aunt will lose her soul from here." He also wrote a letter for the prostitute Chun Yan in the capital: It is inevitable that there is affection, the wine is green, and it hurts Chun To go away; déjà vu, when will yan return?
After spending a few years in the capital, Zeng Guofan took the famous scholar Mu Zhang'a as his teacher and was deeply ashamed of his past behavior. So he changed his word to Di Sheng and began to keep a daily diary to reflect on his behavior. He also wrote in his diary that "all kinds of things in the past, such as dying yesterday; and all kinds of things in the future, such as today's life", hoping to wash his hair and change his face and go up again.
In his diaries of previous years, there are many such records, seeing the beautiful daughter-in-law or concubine of a friend's family, he will "squint repeatedly" and secretly look at it a few times. Sometimes he even scolds himself for being "lustful and can no longer be controlled", and criticizes himself for sleeping with his wife for doing something he shouldn't have done.
Zeng Guofan would go through his diary every day before going to bed to reflect on his behavior, reformulate his life plan and study plan, and constantly promote personal progress. Even he was self-critical of attending a friend's child's wedding and birthday, believing that his willpower was not strong.
There are many people with ideals, but very few insist on them. Zeng Guofan insisted on this habit for more than ten years, of course, his ideals are also very ambitious, as he wrote in his diary: If you are not a sage, you will be a beast.
The first secret of Zeng Guofan's precepts is to keep a diary as mentioned above, by recording what he did every day, and then reflecting and summarizing that night. The daily three provinces are zeng guofan's code of conduct, always doing criticism and self-criticism, and constantly improving his life cultivation.
The second secret is to maintain a positive attitude towards life. In his spare time, Zeng Guofan not only studied Confucian classics and masterpieces of science, but also read many books of the world that helped the people of the world. Through these studies, it not only enriched his own material and cultural life, but also allowed Zeng Guofan to learn a lot of practical strategies for governing the country.
The third secret is to always let yourself do those positive things, and the longer you do it, the more you can achieve added value. When Li Hongzhang was around Zeng Guofan, he found that Zeng Guofan got up early every day, organized exercises, and then began to deal with government affairs, and the evening time was used to teach experience to classmates and disciples, and also to read and study.
Zeng Guofan was originally an ordinary reader, and like most young people in today's society, he liked to eat and sing together and participate in various social activities. But he eventually found that these ineffective social networks could not promote his own growth, so he worked hard, new and new, and eventually became the first minister in the late Qing Dynasty, becoming an example for many people to learn. The abstinence is just a by-product of his efforts to rise, and the exact product is to become a generation of sages.