preface:
Generally speaking, nannies are required to work from home, and the scope of work of nannies includes daily cleaning work at home, cooking work, washing clothes, and taking care of the daily life of the elderly or children in the family.
Of course, the service is also based on the actual situation of the employer's family.
So a nanny is a woman or a man who does someone else's job in housework or caring for children or the elderly.
Just hearing about the nanny, sometimes I feel uncomfortable, because there are many incidents about the nanny, and their hearts are resistant to the nanny.
There are also individual nannies who have done something they shouldn't have done in the employer's family, making people inevitably uneasy and worried.
The harm done to the employer's family by a few nannies is indelible, even irreparable.
Therefore, many people do not have a good impression of nannies, and even if they hire nannies, they have to install cameras at home, or they prefer to be busy with themselves and worry about themselves and resolutely do not hire nannies.
However, in real life, real nannies are through professional training, so they cannot be partial and comprehensive, nor can they hear some harmful events, thus denying the nanny industry.
In fact, the nanny is the employer's domestic helper, with the development of this industry and the needs of people's daily life, nannies are professionally trained to work. Of course, in some third- and fourth-tier cities or urban and rural areas, many nannies are introduced through acquaintances. But whether it is training or acquaintance introduction, there is a certain degree of professional ethics or good sense of responsibility.
Therefore, as long as each other is working hard and hiring hard, there will generally be no big problems, and the relationship between the nanny and the employer is like a superior and subordinate, just a cooperative relationship.
Aunt Zhao, a 56-year-old nanny, told us that nannies can provide more services, but we must follow these principles
first:
There should be a formal written contract between the employer and the nanny, some nannies and employers will only agree verbally, there may be a human relationship, there may be a face relationship, so only need to negotiate verbally, it becomes an employment relationship, but I require that there must be a formal written contract, otherwise it will not be engaged.
But for a long time to work as a nanny, for me, I will never accept verbal agreements, whether it is the employment between strangers, or the employment between acquaintances, only the responsibilities and conditions of both parties are clearly written, so as not to cause unclear things and problems in the future, especially between acquaintances, there must be a written contract, but it is conducive to the long-term stability of the employment relationship.
If there is only a verbal agreement and no written contract, in the unlikely event of a misunderstanding or other unclear matter between the employer and me, there will be no basis for judgment and clear responsibility. And between acquaintances, because there is no written contract, just like the qing officials are difficult to break the family affairs, many things are not clear, and in the end it will hurt face and hurt feelings.
If because the rights and responsibilities are unclear or misunderstood, it causes Zhang to say that Zhang is reasonable, and Li is reasonable to say that Li is reasonable. In the end, it is impossible to say clearly, but because of such a small salary, but also to seek legal help, it really can't be crossed. And both partners will shirk their responsibilities because of constant complaints, so such work is meaningless.
Therefore, instead of worrying about some uncontrollable problems or troubles, it is better to be a villain and then a gentleman, and sign a formal processing contract.
Even if something unclear happens, or trouble, or other problems, it is completely possible to judge the right and wrong of both parties on the basis of the contract and the content of the contract as the principle, which is also a responsibility to oneself and to the employer.
For me, having been a nanny for 20 years, I think that only by signing a real written contract can I be responsible for my own protection and employer, and I can also be regarded as a responsibility for the job.
second:
As a nanny, you can provide some paid services to your employer or some overtime services according to your employer's needs. But the basis and conditions of service must be reasonable, otherwise I will not accept it, even if I am dismissed for this reason, I will ask for reasonableness.
I also know that in real life, many people still look down on this nanny industry. But I don't feel inferior because everyone's lifestyle is different, and the living environment is different.
Therefore, no matter whether the profession of the nanny is noble or inferior in the eyes of others, but as a nanny, it is also a person and needs the same respect and understanding.
If the employer really wants to hire a nanny, and the nanny herself really wants to have the job. The most basic condition, then, is the premise of voluntary respect by both parties, without which all cooperation and subsequent long-term cooperation would be unrealistic.
On the basis of mutual respect, if the employer proposes some additional services or requires the babysitter to temporarily work overtime, then the nanny can negotiate with the employer through the difficulty and professionalism of the required work.
Just like me, although employers will also compensate for my overtime services or other additional services on financial terms. But as long as it is within the reasonable range, as long as the employer usually cooperates well with me, I can charge a little less money appropriately or directly help them for free.
Conversely, if I have extra urgent matters, or work too hard all day, in the case of involuntary circumstances, the work has ended, but the employer strongly demands overtime service, first of all I will and the employer sir clearly the additional financial compensation costs. Because our partnership is like a superior and subordinate, overtime is required. Of course, if I don't volunteer, I don't want to earn extra overtime pay, or if the extra service offered by the employer is beyond my professionalism or may exceed my own ability, I can completely refuse.
It's like I once cooked for a 72-year-old aunt, and it was agreed that I would only be responsible for her life, food, and living. Until one time, also coinciding with the Mid-Autumn Festival, my children came back from other places to accompany me to spend the Mid-Autumn Festival. And the aunt's children also came back to give the aunt a Mid-Autumn Festival.
So, my aunt offered me to cook another table of sumptuous meals in the evening just to welcome her children. But my children were also waiting for me at home, and they also came back on leave or on vacation that had been hard to remove. Therefore, I refused.
But what I didn't expect was that my aunt's daughter personally called me and said that I had no sense of responsibility and that I did not obey my aunt's arrangement. When I told her that I was leaving work at five o'clock in the afternoon, she did not respect me because of this, but said on her toes, I can give you overtime pay, don't you come out to work for money?
Such words obviously did not respect my wishes at all, and even some looked down on me. But I had my principles of being human, so in the end I still refused. Because I want to leave this precious time to my children, they should think in a different way.
third:
With regard to wages, this item must be included in the contract. Wages cannot be owed or deducted arbitrarily.
If in the process of work, there are deficiencies or dissatisfaction, it is completely possible to make suggestions, but it cannot be used as an excuse for arbitrarily deducting wages.
For me, going out to work as a nanny is not to say that the job of nanny is my hobby, nor does it feel that the job itself becomes very great.
Just because of the necessities of life, I need money to support myself.
Therefore, the fundamental reason for being a nanny is because I need money, and the sense of responsibility of being a nanny is also a demand for money, and the salary is the real motivation for a nanny to work, and it is the basis for a nanny to work seriously.
In fact, the most important thing between people and people is understanding and respect, and the process of work also requires trust and understanding.
Employers hire nannies to some extent is the trust of nannies, then nannies should be more attentive, dutiful to do their own work; similarly, nannies' trust in employers is that their wages can be paid on time, that is, they hope that the deficiencies in their work can be raised at any time, rather than deducting wages arbitrarily because of some small problems. For the nanny, the deduction of wages is the motivation to deduct her work, and it will also increase her inertia for work, which will cause the trust between the employer and the nanny to collapse, and eventually only mutual suspicion and mutual calculation.
Of course, because of a momentary forgetting, or because of a momentary turnover, it can be appropriately delayed for a few days. But it can't be delayed for a long time, and even the nanny needs to take the initiative to borrow money to give.
If wages are deductible, these should also be written into the contract.
In real life, there are indeed some nannies who have been lazy, not serious about work, do not care about taking care of the elderly and children, and even make other inappropriate behaviors. Then the deduction of wages is reasonable. However, the employer cannot deduct it by deliberately making it difficult, and if the employer is really not satisfied with me as a nanny, it can dismiss me directly, rather than finding some unnecessary reason from it.
Therefore, the smoothest, most stable and longest-lasting cooperative relationship between the employer and the nanny is the trust and understanding of both sides, the communication and exchange between the two sides.
In the end, the nanny is also very enthusiastic and motivated, and the employer can also relieve his worries and rest assured that he will entrust his chores to the nanny, so that this is a meaningful job, and the employer himself is also at ease.
fourth:
Employers cannot verbally harm nannies or arbitrarily satirize them.
If you encounter problems at work, the employer can give advice to the nanny and can also communicate with the nanny calmly.
Instead of casually slandering the nanny, it can not be considered that it is hired at their own expense, as long as they take care of their own bad mood or the pressure of life and work, they will be angry at the nanny for no reason.
It is also impossible to carry out verbal attacks and injuries.
Everyone is self-respecting and self-loving, and it is even more good-looking. You can accept the criticism and suggestions of others, but you can't accept the malicious slander of others.
Just like me, if the employer always says something unpleasant for no reason, first of all I will communicate with him about the problem, and communicate with him kindly, if the employer still wants to say how to say as always, completely without considering my feelings, then I would rather not do the job.
I once served a distant relative of mine, who was particularly wealthy, but her old mother was very uneasy at home alone, so she decided to hire me to be her house nanny. My kids are also older, and I said yes.
Usually I get along well with this old mother, I think I take good care of this old mother, and when I am idle, I will push her out to relax, blow the wind, and look at the scenery outside.
When cooking, I always cook some meals that she likes to eat.
However, over time, as long as my relative came home to visit her old mother, he would pick and choose me, and even think that I had been lazy, and that the increase or decrease in the old mother's body weight was her sense of responsibility and laziness in judging my work.
Once she lost a pound or less, her daughter would say something unpleasant, even thinking that I had swallowed most of her mother's nutritional products alone, and would deduct some of my salary.
I couldn't accept such rhetoric and results, so I quit my job decisively. As she left, the old mother took my hand and hoped that I would stay with her and take care of her, but her daughter had the final say.
summary:
Recently saw a Q&A on the headlines: Do you think it's humiliating to deliver food?
First of all, I don't agree with people who ask such questions.
Delivery and babysitting work or our other jobs outside are the same, there is no distinction between nobility and inferiority, no shame or no shame, can only be said that life is not easy.
Therefore, it is not only necessary to have an equal written contract between the nanny and the employer, but even if some overtime services are to be provided, it should be reasonable. The employer's wishes must also be respected for overtime and overtime matters.
At the same time, the ultimate purpose of each job is to pay the salary behind the job, so arbitrary deductions or arrears are very unfair.
Of course, as a nanny itself, you should always respect the employer's reasonable arrangement of work, be conscientious and responsible for your work, have a sense of responsibility, not be sloppy, and can not find reasons and excuses at will whether you have to leave your post or be late and leave early.
Any cooperation needs to be based on rules, but the rules are set by people, talent is the most critical factor in the process of cooperation, people only have a respectful and sincere attitude, no matter what they do, they have the look that she should be recognized.