This issue of the emotional story "Love becomes friendship, friendship becomes cold, that sentence I wait for you to come back will still be realized", the story begins.
Before, my husband and I just met not long ago, he was sent by the unit to study in a foreign country for a year, only when he rested, he could return to his hometown to meet me, although the gathering was less and more, but the feelings of the two people were very deep. When we met for half a year, he learned that I was laid off because of the restructuring of the unit and only said "It's okay, I will support you later", and then handed me the salary book. At that moment, I was really touched by him.
After getting married, our relationship was still very good, and when he went to work, I would clean up at home and then make a meal and wait for him to come back. After dinner in the evening, we walked hand in hand around the streets of the town, and the little life was simple and happy.
In June of XXXX, the birth of our daughter shattered our otherwise peaceful and leisurely lives. In the face of the housework that can't be done from morning to night, I hope that my husband will share some of it for me, but he feels that he is tired enough to go to work for a day, why should he ask him to do this and that? And I naturally feel wronged in my heart, my daughter is not my alone, why let me take it alone? In this way, my husband and I often quarrel over some trivial matters in life.
But after the quarrel, the child always has to be brought, and the life has to go on. Slowly, my temper became more and more irritable, especially when I was angry, and I always couldn't help but say something hurtful to him. In the face of my mouth, he chose to endure in silence, sometimes even for several days will not take the initiative to say a word to me. Every now and then, I began to regret that I shouldn't have done that to him, so I offered to show him kindness until a smile appeared on his face.
"Over the years, after every argument, I took the initiative to coax him, which is also the place that makes me feel most sad."
In such a quarrel, my daughter grew up day by day, and my relationship with my husband and I slowly changed from the original love to family affection.
In order to let my daughter receive a better education, my husband and I decided to buy a house in the county. Because I have not worked for many years after marriage, the family of three lives on the salary of my husband, even if I am diligent and thrifty, the family's savings are far from enough, fortunately, my parents reached out to us in time and finally bought the house.
After buying a house, because I had to repay the loan every month, the family's economy suddenly became tense, and in order to supplement the family, I had to go out to work. At the beginning of last year, my husband's work place has changed, I can only come back once a month, and I have to work and take care of my daughter, the degree of busyness can be imagined, but every time my husband goes home, he either thinks that it is not clean here, or that it is not neat there, and the fire in my heart is rising, the tone of speech is naturally not good, and the two people inevitably have another quarrel.
Before the Spring Festival of X Year, because of the trivialities of life, we had a fierce quarrel again. This time, without my consent, he quietly took away the salary book that had been given to me for 16 years, and did not find out until I repaid the loan the next month.
On April 1st, because I rushed to work in the morning, I didn't care about folding the quilt and went out, just after work, he asked me why the bed was so messy like a pig's nest and didn't clean up, maybe because I was too tired after a day of work, and my stomach was hungry.
In the process of arguing, I completely hurt him with the words "If my parents hadn't come up with the money, you would have been able to afford a house", and when he told me in tears that he had endured me for more than ten years, and that he never wanted to go on such a day, I froze.
"The moment he left the house, I suddenly had a strong sense of fear that he would never come back."
For the next month, every time I called him, he was always impatient to ask me what was wrong and hang up if it was okay. At the beginning of May, my father-in-law was sick and admitted to the hospital, and I immediately bought nutritional products to visit after I knew, but he asked me: "What are you here for, my own father will take care of myself." "When I went to the ward, when he showed my father-in-law what I had bought, and looked at him with a happy look, I thought, maybe he has forgotten the unpleasantness between us?" But after coming out of the ward, he started to be cold to me again.
On May 23, he still ignored me when he returned, and in order to ease the relationship between husband and wife, I called my parents to the house and hoped that they would help persuade him, but my mother scolded him involuntarily. After his parents left, he burst into tears again: "For more than ten years, my heart has been in this family, but you have made me sad again and again, you know? During the days when my father was hospitalized, every time I thought of the hurtful words you said to me, I was eager to open the window and jump down, and that would be a hundred..."
The moment he walked out of the house, I cut my wrist with the fruit knife on the table, because I was completely desperate. When I opened my eyes again, he told me coldly, "Since even you have given up on yourself, do you think it is necessary for me to go back to this home?" Then he left without looking back.
By now, I don't know what to do, I just know that I don't want a divorce, I don't want the family to be separated. As long as he is willing to come back, I promise not to argue with him again, and I will clean up the house and cook him his favorite dish..."
In fact, when the initial passion of marriage is consumed by the trivialities in life, only responsibility and affection are left, the marriage relationship between two people has also entered a relatively balanced and stable period, just like people's left and right hands, although there is no heartbeat between each other, but they will always wait in the nearest place to each other, as long as they can reach out, such a marriage relationship has a different kind of blandness and happiness.