The phrase "the human heart is not enough for the snake to swallow the elephant" is very correct. People are never satisfied with the status quo. Always thinking about getting more from others, especially between relatives. They always feel that the two people are related by blood, so no matter how much they pay, they should do it.
But there is never anything in this world that should be done. Everyone is an independent individual, and no one should pay for others without complaint or even ask for anything in return.
In modern society, each of us is indispensable to human contact, as long as it is a person must live in society, and in society, if we live between relatives and friends, we have to face human feelings, so now in society with gifts has become a very common phenomenon.
Especially as a brother and sister, courtesy has also become an indispensable custom. However, the amount of gift money at the wedding is only a blessing that people give to the newlyweds, and the amount of gift money cannot be measured by the amount of gift money between two people. But there are always some people who will be estranged from their brothers and sisters because of the amount of gift money.
Recently, Liu Xiaoyan ruined her brother's wedding in her life because of the gift money.
Part-time work earns money
Liu Xiaoyan was born in a rural area and grew up in a very poor family, so Liu Xiaoyan chose to drop out of school to go out to work when she graduated from junior high school.
Liu Xiaoyan's parents are different from other rural parents, they do not have any patriarchal ideas, so they are also very fond of Liu Xiaoyan's daughter. Liu Xiaoyan also has a younger brother Liu Xiaogang, liu Xiaoyan has loved this younger brother since he was a child, so in order to let his brother go to school, Liu Xiaoyan chose to go out to work.
After Liu Xiaoyan went out, because her education was not high, the work she could do was also limited. At first, she worked as a waiter or even a dishwasher in a restaurant, but later, she went to a hotel and started as a waiter, that is, in this hotel she met her husband Wang Zhanghai. Wang Zhanghai is the chef in the hotel, after Liu Xiaoyan arrived at the hotel, Wang Zhanghai noticed her, and after the two people got along for a while, Wang Zhanghai finally plucked up the courage to confess to Liu Xiaoyan, and the two people came together.
Soon the two people got married, and after marriage, Liu Xiaoyan did not stop sending money to her family.
Brother's bride price
After two months, Liu Xiaoyan received a call from her parents, who said that her brother was going to get married, but now the family could not get the bride price money, but the brother's girlfriend was also very insistent on the bride price money, and if there was no bride price money, she would not get married. There was no way liu Xiaoyan's parents thought of her, hoping that she could add a little money to Liu Xiaogang.
Liu Xiaoyan's parents never took the initiative to ask their daughter for money, so Liu Xiaoyan knew that her parents must have no way to open their mouths to themselves. So she discussed with her husband and thought about giving her brother the dowry money of 100,000 yuan.
Wang Zhanghai knew his wife's idea and did not object, he knew that Liu Xiaoyan's family was not rich, and they now had the ability to make money, so he also agreed with Liu Xiaoyan's idea.
After Liu Xiaoyan knew that her husband agreed, she quickly called her parents and mailed back 100,000 yuan to her parents, so that her parents could take it to her brother to marry.
With this hundred thousand yuan, Liu Xiaogang's marriage was quickly settled.
The dispute over the lily money
After Liu Xiaogang's marriage was settled, Liu Xiaoyan's parents quickly called Liu Xiaoyan and asked Liu Xiaoyan and her husband Wang Zhanghai to return to the wedding when they had time.
Liu Xiaoyan's parents knew that the reason why their daughter was able to come up with this hundred thousand yuan must be because of the support of her son-in-law, so she kept thanking Wang Zhanghai on the phone, and said that she would definitely let Liu Xiaogang repay the money in the future, and she would definitely remember their goodness.
Wang Zhanghai listened to his father-in-law and mother-in-law's words, and felt very happy in his heart, at least the hundred thousand yuan was not lent out in vain, and his father-in-law and mother-in-law remembered his own goodness, which also made him very happy.
Liu Xiaogang's wedding was scheduled for one working day, so Wang Zhanghai and Liu Xiaoyan originally had jobs. But Wang Zhanghai felt that since his father-in-law and mother-in-law had said it, and it was the brother-in-law who got married, there must be someone to go back, so he let Liu Xiaoyan take a day off, so that Liu Xiaoyan could also go back to see her parents.
Liu Xiaoyan is also very satisfied with her husband's arrangement, but she feels that a day off is too long, and it is enough for her to go back to give her brother a gift, so she is ready to go back quickly, so that she can continue to work when she returns.
So on the day of her brother's wedding, Liu Xiaoyan drove back home. When she returned home, the home was already very lively, and Liu Xiaoyan quickly found her parents and talked to them for a while, and then hurried to the ceremony.
Liu Xiaoyan and her husband have long discussed it, because after all, it is his own brother, Liu Xiaoyan also wants his brother to live a better life after marriage, so he decided to give his brother a gift of thirty thousand, such a gift is already "sky-high" for them.
After Liu Xiaoyan finished the ceremony, because she was also thinking about her work, she hurriedly greeted her parents and began to rush back.
Ruined marriages
Liu Xiaoyan just went out not long ago, he received a call from his sister-in-law, originally Liu Xiaoyan thought that her sister-in-law was to say hello to herself because she did not meet her, but she did not expect that as soon as she picked up the phone, Liu Xiaoyan heard her sister-in-law say, "Sister, are you not working in a big hotel in the city, how can the gift be so shabby, your brother is married, you are only so little gifted, and you are not afraid of other people's jokes, I am ashamed for you." ”
After listening to her sister-in-law's words, Liu Xiaoyan was very angry, she did not know that the original sister-in-law was such a person, because she was afraid that her sister-in-law would mind, so Liu Xiaoyan did not tell her that the bride price given to her by her brother was given by herself, but she did not expect that she would humiliate herself because of her own gift money. Liu Xiaoyan felt that if such a girl married in, then her parents did not know what sins would be suffered, and such a marriage would certainly not last long, so it was better to ruin the marriage now.
Thinking of this, Liu Xiaoyan drove back again.
Seeing that their daughter had returned, Liu Xiaoyan's parents were very surprised, Liu Xiaoyan took them to her brother and told them what their sister-in-law had called herself, and after listening to it, Liu Xiaogang was very angry, he agreed with his sister's meaning, so he directly told the guests that the wedding was canceled and everyone was sent out.
Liu Xiaogang's daughter-in-law was very angry when she saw Liu Xiaoyan repenting, directly like Liu Xiaoyan rushed over to ask for an explanation, looking at the sister-in-law who kept crying in front of her, Liu Xiaoyan directly picked up the wine glass on the table and smashed it on the ground, which also successfully stopped her crying.
Then Liu Xiaogang sent his new daughter-in-law back and ruined the marriage.
People often say, "It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage." "Marriage is sacred, and it is fate for two people to be able to come together, so it must be cherished."
But there are also many marriages in life that are not worthy of blessing. In society, we can often see that some people marry an arrogant wife after marriage, so it causes the chickens and dogs in the family to jump and not be at peace. So instead of choosing to end the marriage after getting married, after being messed up at home. It is better to kill the flame of this marriage in the cradle before marriage.
Helping each other between sisters and brothers is supposed to be the right thing, but because of the relationship between sisters and brothers, you can't take your sister's dedication to yourself for granted. Especially as a sister-in-law, you should understand this truth.
The contradiction between the sister-in-law is actually a very common contradiction in life now. As the eldest sister, in fact, there is always a lot of love for the younger brother, so they have to pay generally not stingy. But such selfless efforts are not taken for granted.
As a daughter-in-law, you must understand this truth. Even relatives should not keep asking for it under the guise of affection. If only one party has been paying unilaterally, then even relatives will gradually become cold and more distant. In life, in the face of others' efforts for themselves, we should always be grateful and know how to reciprocate, rather than accepting with peace of mind.
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