The news of Wang Xiaofei's divorce from the eldest s has recently spread all over the sky.
As soon as the news came out, it was not surprising that an unbalanced and unequal relationship collapsed only a matter of time.
In the past, I used to read Weibo, and I could often brush up on Wang Xiaofei's dynamics.
In his dynamics, in addition to work, he is basically a family.
People who pay attention to him can also glimpse that he is a good leader who is responsible for his work and employees.
Privately, he is also a good father who is very responsible for the family and loves his wife and children.
Such a family-loving man would brand his children as a divorced family.
Wang Xiaofei's choice surprised many people.
"Happiness Trio" big s and Wang Xiaofei's promotional photos.
Two of the celebrity couples who participated in the "Happiness Trio" have gone through divorce.
Although we can't know exactly who initiated the divorce, since the divorce has become a fact, it means that both people have been uncomfortable in the relationship to the extreme.
In "Happiness Trio", Wang Xiaofei and Das got along, making it difficult for me to believe that this is a couple who have known each other for 10 years.
The woman was criticized by netizens for being contrived and squeamish
The man tolerates it indefinitely
The scene is slightly awkward
I didn't see flowing love and their heartfelt mutual care, I saw an unequal, slightly morbid relationship.
In a divorce event, both parties must have injured parts and growth parts
While making decisions, parents must not ignore their children's psychological feelings.
In the event of divorce, the most hurtful thing is the child.
In recent years, the more popular family ethics movie "Dog Thirteen"
It reflects the general psychological and living conditions of children of divorced families today.
The film tells the story of Li Play (the protagonist), who is twelve years old, has just entered junior high school, and lives with his elderly grandparents.
Her mother left home when she was young,
The father remarried and gave birth to a younger brother to his stepmother.
The father is anxious about how to tell Li play about the arrival of the newborn, but accidentally has a dispute over schoolwork, so the father decides to buy a puppy to coax his daughter.
Li Play's relationship with the puppy deepens day by day,
But the puppy went missing in an accident,
Li played sadly, and his family could not be at peace for this.
In order to appease Li Play, the family replaced the lost one with another puppy of the same breed.
Under the pressure of the whole family, Li Play became more and more silent.
The addition of his stepmother and new brother makes Li Play feel like an outsider...
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I used to feel this way when I was a child, and although adults were very tolerant of children, they didn't care at all.
For example, when they sit together and talk, a small child takes off his shoes and steps on their legs, one person, one pair of legs, although they do not count a small point on their own legs or step on the past, usually they will issue an exclamation: "Ah, this child is so cute", but I can feel that they always care about their own conversation, and finally it is usually the child's relatives who rush to take the child away, pretend to be angry and punish the child, and then apologize to the guests.
Maybe the same is true of children from divorced families
Everyone thinks you're cute and pathetic, but no one really cares about your situation and inner feelings.
Even some parents will think that the child is so young that he doesn't understand anything.
I would like to say that in fact, your children understand everything, but you don't believe it.
As adults with some ability to act, we have an obligation to care for the children of divorced families around us.
Countless statistics and media hotspots are telling us,
How high is the divorce rate in China,
Open Weibo, every year there are several well-known celebrity couples divorced.
I used to be a homeroom teacher at the school
We have children from divorced families in our class
Among some of our classmates, friends, relatives, and neighbors, there are always some divorced families.
How should children from divorced families be treated?
Nowadays, we go to the Internet to search, and when we turn over the books, there must be a lot of perfect answers.
But what I value most is the intention.
No amount of brilliant skills can compare to a pure heart.
People are not machines, and children are not props
Treat it with heart, everything has an answer.
Parents play an undeniably key role in the development of their children, and we hope that you will be kind to your children.
The 7 family education guidelines for divorced and restructured families in the "National Family Education Guidance Outline" are shared with friends in need:
First, parents should learn to regulate and control their emotions, do not show dissatisfaction with divorced spouses in front of children, and cannot simply and rudely or unprincipledly accommodate and dote on children;
Second, communicate more with children, give children the opportunity to be masters of their own affairs, and encourage children to participate in social activities;
Third, regularly allow non-guardians to meet with children, and constantly strengthen the image and emotions of parents in children's minds;
Fourth, mobilize gender resources among relatives and friends to give children an appropriate impact and help them fully develop their gender roles.
Fifth, couples who reorganize their families care, help and are close to children, help reduce children's psychological pressure, and help children face up to reality;
Sixth, mutual respect, mutual love and mutual trust, and set a positive example for children;
Seventh, couples who reorganize their families should treat both children equally, strengthen communication between family members, and create a peaceful and harmonious family atmosphere.
In the divorce incident between Big S and Wang Xiaofei,
The most innocent are their children.
Let's forward this article to call on more people to pay attention to divorced families and divorced children.