The movie I want to talk about today can be said to be one of the best youth films in recent years, and it is also one of the favorite youth films of the fungus.
Because it is the portrayal of my youth, the portrayal of every youth that has been treated roughly.
Dog Thirteen
Dog Thirteen, the story of a 13-year-old girl and a dog.
The protagonist of the story, Li Play, is just thirteen years old.
Like all ordinary thirteen-year-old girls, the gradual bulging breasts, the stubble of stubble on the forehead can not be squeezed endless pimples, the homework that cannot be written...
Life is mediocre and tedious.
The difference is that Li Play grew up in a single-parent family and was brought up by his grandparents.
The father remarried and had another son.
When my brother was born, the family discussed taking a name.
Grandpa said:
"At that time, Li played, it was all your nonsense name. We're a male doll, and the name can't be too casual. ”
In a word, the stereotypical thinking of the older generation of men and women.
Grandparents raised Li play, but for more than ten years did not know, she did not drink milk.
Li played like physics, but her father forced her to attend an English interest class.
Growing up in such a family environment, Li Play's relationship with his family is estranged and indifferent.
In order to close the distance with his daughter, the father bought a dog for Li to play.
Lee fell in love with this lonely little guy like her and named it "Einstein".
The two are inseparable and sleep in the same bed.
This cute and soft little life has become the most important emotional sustenance for sensitive and lonely girls in their long adolescence.
But the good times did not last long, and due to Grandpa's carelessness, Einstein accidentally lost himself.
For adults, dogs are lost.
The life of a dog, like a toy, is not enough to hang teeth.
But as far as Li Play, who looks at it as if it is fatal, it is as if the sky has fallen. She went crazy all over the street looking for dogs, sending dog inspiration... However, her family did not understand her pain, and no one helped her find a dog.
Li played did not find the dog, and let Grandpa sprain, Grandma lost.
In order to "educate" his daughter, the father broke out into a sudden violence.
Watching Li playing in the late night, the father changed the image of a loving father in the past, and "snapped" to break the wine bottle in his daughter's hand.
Ignoring her daughter's cries and the old man's persuasion, she insulted and slapped her fists and greeted Li Play together. The father grabbed his daughter's neck like a puppy and forced the child to bow his head and admit his mistake.
The face is vicious, and there is no trace of mercy.
When the fungus saw this place in the movie theater, she heard some of the audience sobbing and saying that it was cruel.
But in my opinion, it is not cruel at all. Because these things have really happened to me. Lee played a reflection of my thirteen-year-old.
Because my father was grumpy and irritable, being beaten was a common occurrence for me.
When I was five years old, I was slapped by my father to vomit because I couldn't memorize the nine-nine multiplication table; countless times, my father slapped me in front of many people, and in the end I was numb.
Even Li played with his father's apologetic words after calming down, I am not unfamiliar.
"Dad beat you because he loved you. When you grow up, you will understand. ”
"Do you think Daddy is willing to hit you?"
"Hit you, hurt in Daddy's heart."
"Will Daddy still hurt you?"
"If you don't fight, you can't make it, and Dad hates iron and steel."
…………
I can finish these words for Lee's dad, because the words are still in my ears!
I really suspect that the director spied on my adolescence – being forced to enroll in interest classes, being forced to toast to friends and family, being domestically abused, being torn off novels...
In fact, this is how each of us came.
It is okay to beat or scold, or to deny you, as if no matter what harm they do, as long as they use the banner of "love you", they can shut everyone's mouth.
When you grow up, you are chosen to be a profession, you are chosen to work, you are blind dated, you are married, you are born with children...
Like the domestic violence of beatings as children, these are the "atrocities" that we take for granted and in the name of love.
When I talked to friends around me, I found that the important factors that form most of our negative personalities, such as sensitivity, timidity, inferiority, and suspiciousness, are often the "love violence" from the original family.
After experiencing a series of violent carvings in the name of love from the adult world.
Like each of us, Li Play has learned to "understand things" and learn to "grow".
The adults were delighted by Li Play's transformation, she did not refuse, did not resist or take a stand, but silently accepted the instructions.
She accepted the intolerant milk and began to be the toast killer at the dinner party of her father, the little girl raised her glass, and the uncles and uncles who were kind enough to refuse.
She began to eat a piece of dog meat that an uncle had ordered for her when all her family thought she was going to have a seizure.
She was crying in her heart, but there was a smile on her face.
She had silent blood and tears in her heart, but her mouth was obediently saying", "Good uncle, I eat."
This is Li Play's compromise on the adult world, and it is also the way most people grow up under the traditional Chinese education.
Regarding this growth, there are actually many metaphors in the film.
For example, bats killed in the classroom, "birdmen" dragged away by 120 upstairs, and so on. If you choose confrontation, you will be scarred forever. Only by obedience can we pretend to live easily in the hypocritical adult world.
There is no growth in this land, only castration.
For thousands of years, Chinese have been castrated in this way, and traditional family ethics have inherently created an asymmetry between parents and children. In Chinese families, parents most want their children to be sensible and obedient.
The subtext is "in the face of disagreements, children know what to do, just shut up and do it", you have to learn to hide your true thoughts, watch them act in the eyes, and please them. Those silent grievances, helpless forbearance, and finally with the seemingly healed scars, were brushed by the so-called "growth".
At the end of the movie, Dad drives Lee to play.
Suddenly, the father covered his daughter's eyes with one hand, burst into tears, and said: Your father is not a good father!
I seemed to see that my father, who couldn't help but cry in the car, was the future of Li Play. And in the future, there will be more Lee play one after another.
This act of harming a child in the name of love is destined to become a hereditary tragedy.