This weekend, the sister ran to the cinema in Laoyuan to see a "youth film". In the first half an hour, many people around the demolition sister directly walked away, and the demolition sister who did not understand the film shooting background before was also confused and unclear.
However, when the last minute after watching the movie, the sister of demolition sat directly in the movie theater and cried, the long end of the film ended, the screen became a blank, and the sister of the demolition still did not sort out her emotions. Believe me, if you don't find a single shadow of yourself in this film, then you are either one of the lucky few, or you have become accustomed to this "horror" and have even been assimilated by it.
Dog Thirteen
As early as 13 years ago, the film was still called "Dog 13", full of hostility.
For some special reason, it waited a full five years before it was officially released. The name was also changed to the relatively gentle "Dog Thirteen".
But the proposition of rebellion, compromise, and growth of the girl has never changed.
First, let's take a look at the director, Cao Baoping. What he is best at is to tear off the most realistic wounds of this society one by one and hang them in front of you to show you.
In 2008's "Li Mi's Conjecture", the female taxi driver spent four years searching for her suddenly disappeared boyfriend, and finally found that her beloved boyfriend turned out to be a drug dealer.
In 2015's "Burning Heart", the former murderer became the representative of justice - the police. Let you see the most ambiguous gray area between human nature.
The year before, an experimental black crime film "The Pursuer" revolved around the murder case in the border city, allowing people to see the absurdity of reality.
In "Dog Thirteen", there is no tragic murder, no violent character conflict, just in this ordinary family, a girl's story, but let people chill behind their backs, fall into the most helpless reflection, and the most deadly pain.
"Dog Thirteen" is, in general, a history of the growth of a young girl.
At the beginning of the movie, it is the scene where the father forces his daughter Li to play and change the interest group.
Although I misremembered Mr. Li's last name, and although I had no idea what my daughter liked, a typical Chinese father's approach was to push her away irritably and change her choice rudely.
"Although you like physics, but your English is not good, you should go to make up English, I left work in the morning to accompany you to meet the teacher, what are you not satisfied with?" 」 This is Dad's subtext.
Li Play was obviously not satisfied with such a result, but in the face of Li Play's resistance, the father did not try to communicate with her, nor did he try to reason with him, his way was to take out a stack of money in a flattering way to his daughter.
When the daughter did not accept it, the father complained to himself - "How can this not be good?" ”
He took it for granted that his daughter was a business partner in the liquor store, thinking that everything could be solved with money. But what he ignores is that people who can be coaxed with money often only care about your money.
But what Lee needs to play is to be respected!
Just because the father naturally believes that the 13-year-old child should not have his own independent personality and has no right to make judgments, Li Play will be forced to accept everything she is not willing to accept.
There will be more such things in the future!
In order to alleviate the father-daughter conflict, Li Play's father gave Li Play a dog.
At first, the resistance could not resist the dog's coddled and clingy, and Li Play soon became friends with it and named it "Einstein".
In the years of living with her grandparents, even if her grandparents take meticulous care of Li in life, they can rarely enter her heart, even if Li plays the habit of not loving to drink milk, they know nothing after thirteen years, or they will force her to drink milk every morning, and when she vomits, she also complains about her tyranny.
It can be said that Einstein accompanied Li Play through those days of not being understood and recognized. But not long after the good times, the first tragedy occurred - Grandpa accidentally lost Einstein while walking his dog.
Lee plays with his dad, grandparents, stepmother. The whole family sat around, thinking not about how to get Einstein back, nor how to feel sorry for Li Play, but how to appease Li Play's emotions and let her continue to "rules and regulations" without making trouble.
After all, it's just "a dog!" ”。 Buy a pair of roller skates, say two good words to coax, you Li play should obediently accept, do not understand things, has been like this, what else can you do?
Yeah, what else can I do? Grandpa is old, you can't blame him. As soon as morality and value go up, you should accept our faults and compensation, what do you think, is it important?
So, when Lee asked that, did you ever look for Einstein? When the whole family is ignorant, the dog is lost, why should I go to find it? So, when Lee ran out the door like crazy and shouted Einstein's name in the streets and alleys, her family did not help her find it together, but advised her to obey, accept reality, and go home immediately.
Not only that, but Lee's stepmother came up with a more awkward idea — buy a dog similar to Einstein's. In this way, Li Play should always accept it. When the whole family insisted that the dog that was clearly not Einstein was Einstein, Lee play broke out.
At this time, Li Play's self-worth still exists, she is not willing to accept such an arrangement, why does the whole family open their eyes and talk nonsense, why does she have to accept this shameless deception? She erected her thorns and resisted with all her might in her own way, posting dog revelations all over the street, not going home and running outside to drink, these seemingly childish behaviors were full of all the ways she could think of resisting.
But this resistance was obviously useless, and when her father slammed her hand holding the bottle against the door, the violence began. Because Li played away from home, the grandmother who had not been out of the house for many years went out of the house for the first time and lost, after finding the grandmother, the father closed the door for the first time, pinched, kicked, smashed, after a violent beating, the father pressed Li play in front of the grandparents and forced her to apologize.
Dare you say you never secretly shed tears in the bathroom alone after being beaten up by your parents? All the grievances, unwillingness, and pain, in this silent vent, slowly from the outside to the inside, we finally learn to slowly put away the thorns on the body, no longer prick people, by their soft hearts slowly dissolved.
So, when Li Play walked out of the bathroom, her father held her in his lap and used the clumsy words of his parents all over the world, "Daddy beat you for your own good." When the time came, Li Play just nodded quietly, and then was silent.
Lee played her first transformation, he was forced to accept the lies of the adult world, accept all the "don't make trouble" behind "for your own good". Since then, she has stopped being sharp.
However, there will be more such things in the future!
Lee played English as she wished to take the first grade, and on her happiest day, her father took her to the Astronomical Museum, only to find that she had misremembered the date. Then, he took Lee Play to the skating rink, where, unsuspectingly, he threw a heavy bomb at Lee Play's life – in fact, your stepmother and I bore you a younger brother, who is 2 years old!
The demolition sister looked forward to Li Play's resistance, expecting her to yell at the ice rink and then drop the bag away, but Li Play did not, she just smiled, watched, suffered this and was ignored again and again at her brother's two-year-old birthday party, and then turned around and accepted betrayal from all over the world.
Then, the younger brother rightfully moved in to live with Li Play, sharing this small space with her, when Li Play saw the fake Einstein who was originally locked in the toilet being beaten with a stick by his brother and stabbed by his father with a mop, she began to sympathize with the fake Einstein for the first time, holding it with her head down and calling softly, "Don't be afraid, Einstein." ”
However, this did not prevent it from being sent away one day, and when the stepmother held her brother and shouted to take it to the dog meat restaurant, she understood the reality that she could not even keep this fake Einstein, and she could only compromise again, crying and shouting to her father: "Please don't send it to the dog meat restaurant!" ”
She had no right to say no, she could only beg for forgiveness.
Later, when her father delayed taking her to the Astronomical Museum because of the meal, when a table of people took her favorite "A Brief History of Time" as a joke, and her father blindly catered to it, Li's self-play disappeared, and she began to learn to understand things, learn to cater to the set of rules, that is, the so-called, learn to grow.
As mentioned earlier, Li Play has not drunk milk since he was a child.
However, when Li Play was ridiculed, despised, and ignored, she began to swallow the milk one by one, and her trembling appearance made her sister look extremely distressed.
When you get used to being abused, people start to masochistically.
So, when the movie was seen at the end, in order to celebrate Li Play's qualification for high school, a group of so-called "uncles" served her that plate of braised dog meat, the sister knew that she would swallow it.
Without tears, resentment, and resentment, we replace ourselves so plainly and naturally.
Where there is so-called growth, it is only when we hold up the golden hoop stick and smash it at the demons and ghosts, only to find that our weapons are originally paper paste, and they are so vulnerable. So we learned to pretend to meet each other, false and snake. In the end, we accept its helplessness and even become it when we grow up, continuing this tragedy.
To this day, it's still happening in countless families around us, isn't it?
Many people blame this tragedy as the sadness of Chinese-style education, but sister Demolition wants to say that if you only understand this layer, it is inevitably a little superficial. The scariest part of this movie is that everyone seems incredibly "right." Parents will say that this is so that their children can adapt to the world more quickly, but they ignore that how to adapt to the world and how to face such a change with their children is also very important.
Tearing down the sister does not deny that the child needs to master this sleek ability to face the dangers of this society, but this should be a difficult problem that parents and children face together, parents should not stand against the child and open a long rift, but should stand behind the child, put all the challenges and difficulties on the other side, and grow up with the child.
When everything is premised on mutual respect, the problem will be much easier to solve, won't it?