Although family affection is a difficult bond in this world, not every family can get along harmoniously, because everyone's ideas and personalities are different, so once there is any misunderstanding in the expression, it is easy to cause family conflicts.
Le Le is a very well-behaved little boy, whether it is the adults in the community or the kindergarten teachers always praise him as a good child who understands things.
On this day, after lele came home from kindergarten and saw a large table of delicious food on the table, he told his father that he was hungry and wanted to start eating immediately.
Lele's father told Lele that he couldn't start eating now, and he had to wait until his aunt's family came to start eating together.
Unexpectedly, after Lele heard this sentence, he immediately cried and cried, saying that he hated his aunt for coming to the house for dinner, and his father coaxed him for a long time to stop Lele's tears.
After the child's mood calmed down, the father patiently asked Lele why he didn't like his aunt.
Le Le said that every time her aunt came to the house, she would always say that he was not as smart as his brother, and he would take Le Le's toys home to his brother without Le Le's consent, as long as Le Le expressed dissatisfaction, she would say that Le Le was too stingy.
After saying that, Le Le asked his father with a naïve face: "Doesn't it mean that a family should love each other?" But why do I always think that my aunt doesn't like me? ”
After listening to the child's words, Lele's father could not help but fall into meditation, is it possible to get together for a meal every New Year's Festival to represent that the family is very harmonious?
Chinese value family affection, even if the children grow up and start their own families, they will gather together for a meal and chat during the New Year's Festival, but this bond does not mean that they can complain and ask for it unconditionally.
The real deep feelings should be more for the sake of relatives, rather than adding blockage to the hearts of others. But the truth is that what someone says often intentionally or unintentionally hurts others.
1. Maintain a polite attitude
Whether the child is polite or not, whether he is educated or not, can be seen from the child's words and deeds.
Parents should educate their children in peacetime, whether they are relatives or strangers at home, to maintain a polite attitude, not to throw tantrums at will, and to know how to respect others.
2. Resolutely refuse when it should be rejected
The reason why Lele in the above article hates his aunt so much is because her aunt took his beloved toy without his permission.
And Le Le is usually a very obedient child, his parents asked him to be polite to his aunt, he could not express his reluctance generously, resulting in a lot of grievances in his heart.
Therefore, parents should also pay attention to telling their children that politeness does not mean that there is no bottom line of generosity, and when it is time to refuse, they should resolutely refuse and directly say "no". Although the feelings between relatives are a kind of bondage, they also need to be maintained.
1. Be honest with each other
As a family connected by blood, it is natural to show 100% sincerity and honesty, of course, this is not unilateral.
Only by being honest with each other can the bond between the family members become more and more condensed, and at the same time, it will not hurt the feelings of one party.
2, to have a certain sense of boundaries
Although everyone is a family, after they become a family, the connection between life will be much less, and the focus will be on their own small family.
But if you only think of your own small family and pay attention to your own interests, and ask others without guilt, there is no sense of boundary, but it will cause a rift in the relationship between relatives.
Family affection can not be chosen and can not be changed, as a parent should correctly guide the child how to get along with the relatives at home, so as not to hurt the child, but also to deepen the feelings between each other.