Once upon a time, there was a "symptom" circulating on the Internet, which made most "patients" feel the same way, and unsurprisingly this disease was "social cow disease". The so-called social cattle refer to those who have strong social skills and can cope with different situations.
Adult society often has to meet different scenes, contact with different groups of people, many people can not eat, and some people are happy in it, whenever there are people around the social cattle, usually will cause a lot of people to envy, and even become a symptom that everyone wants to get, there is no lack of "social cattle" people in life.
Stars in the entertainment industry let many people pay attention, in fact, many times celebrities also have their own private space, some stars are more afraid of the reporter's sudden questioning, making themselves overwhelmed, often appearing unexpected news.
Hu Xianxu, who has a social cow, seems to be completely unafraid of the reporter's microphone and questions, and in the face of sudden problems, he responds freely and opposes the reporters.
In a question on the shooting scene, Hu Xianxu and Li Randi were asked by reporters, seeing the expressions of the two people is very relaxed, is the shooting process very smooth?
Li Randi was silent, and Hu Xianxu immediately smiled and asked: My expression is relaxed and natural, can you see her expression? The reason is that Lee Randy wears a mask and hits the reporter's brainless problem hard.
In fact, Hu Xianxu's "social cow" personality can be seen from a young age, he can naturally and generously perform in front of the whole class in elementary school, and he is not afraid to talk about the camera interview, at that time, how could he think that he would become a star in the future?
In fact, not only celebrities, but also many children around hu Xianxu also have "social cow disease", and are more popular in life and school.
I remember when I was a student, the class ran for the literary and art committee, two women competed at the same time, introduced their advantages and showed their talents in the class, a girl with slightly less talent fell generously, and talked and laughed with the classmates in the class; and another singing girl was red-faced, naturally she lost.
Social fear and social cattle as two opposing social states, many people have a similar situation, but which is better?
Authoritative sources have given an explanation: children with strong social skills are more successful in learning, while children with weak social skills are less likely to be inferior in academics.
Comparatively speaking, the children of the social cattle can get more opportunities, but it does not mean that the social fear must be completely transformed, and the children's acquired social skills can be cultivated in this way.
★ Children will be more confident when they have strength
Self-confidence is an important support for children's social skills, many times children have stronger strength, will increase their own confidence, in the treatment of people and things will be more relaxed.
Parents should observe their children's interests and hobbies, pay attention to cultivating their children's strengths, let their children stand out among many peers, and constantly show their strength, so that their children's social skills will also unconsciously improve.
★ Parental recognition and support is the confidence of "social cow" children
Some children have an introverted personality, and they are relatively ordinary, and they feel inferior in interpersonal communication and will not take the initiative to take the first step.
The psychology of inferiority dominates, and many times once the brave first step is taken, it is hit and hurt, and it no longer dares to socialize, which requires the recognition and support of parents, encouragement and motivation of children.
Affirmation from parents will strengthen children's confidence and courage, parental recognition will make children feel that they are understood, and their families are their strong backing, which will allow children to continue to export and exercise their social skills.
★ Empathy and emotional intelligence are the strengths of "social cow" children
Parents should consider the problem from the perspective of the child, parents look at the things experienced by the child from their own starting point, think that it is irrelevant to the size, will not feel the difficulties and difficulties faced by the child, and will be heart-to-heart, putting themselves in the shoes of the child.
Even if the child's social skills are not strong, it should not be too reluctant, improve the child's emotional intelligence, and let the child know where his value lies.
Sugar Mother's heart words:
Many careless parents do not know to pay attention to the child's heart, do not know what the reason for the child's refusal to socialize, what is the child's unspeakable secret, pay attention to the child's psychological state, it is likely to open a new door for the child's social circle.
Each child is a separate individual, do not compare the social cow and the social fear of the child, but the family happy child personality is more partial to the "social cow" attribute. Therefore, parents still have to actively run the family, and children will naturally be more inclined to social cattle.