While traveling in Bali, the heroine, Leeds, is predicted by the witch doctor that she is a globetrotter, will lose the money she now has, and that her marriage will change. After returning home with such a psychological hint, I began to feel indescribably confused in the face of the marriage that had entered a period of burnout, and constantly looked for the motivation to insist on this marriage like a chicken rib. But this couple, who had a principle of proximity, neglected the continuous operation of the intimate relationship, and the farthest distance was that you were by my side, but they did not understand what each other wanted. In the end, Liz decisively gave up everything without being understood and supported by his relatives and friends around him, ending his first marriage.
Liz expected to get rid of the emptiness and confusion after the first broken marriage through a fierce spark of emotion, thinking that he had found the so-called true love. But the result was even more disappointing and injured for her. Do your best to give enthusiasm, after the passion, every emotion will tend to flatten, and the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Because of this emotional relationship, Liz no longer believes in the heavens and the earth, but her heart still longs for the perfect love in her heart, but she must find the brave self from the lost.
A chance encounter with a language teacher in Italy ignited a moment of emotional yearning for Leeds, because of fear and because of friends, she chose to "turn off the fire" blessing. Healing herself with the intimacy of food and friends, the Indian practice and the wedding of friends allowed her to gradually begin to be brave enough to reflect and face the two emotions of the past, and to try to reconcile with the past. Gradually coming out of the haze, Liz returned to Bali to live alone, and happened to meet Philip, because Philip met Leeds's mate selection criteria, and because of the principle of proximity and similarity, the two had a wonderful and warm love, but the original uncontrollable and failed sense of love made Liz quickly decide to give up. Just when this relationship is about to be sealed and disappeared, the witch doctor says: "Losing balance because of love is also a part of a balanced life", allowing Liz to have an epiphany of reasonable expectations of emotions and bravely pursue beautiful love.
Marriages that consume each other are like boiling frogs, and over time they lose the consciousness and courage to resist. Until even the strength to resist was gone. This point should be learned from the heroine, love herself, know the love and life she wants, do not accommodate, do not compromise, do not worry about breaking the balance, because love is also part of a balanced life...
How many couples in real life struggle for the sake of children, for the sake of worldly vision, for the sake of property, but do not have the courage to step out of the marital relationship that has not been nourished in any way. This is not loyalty and persistence in love, cowardice, weakness, dependence on the status quo; it is not dare to break the balance, dare not face change, do not want to experience the pain of breaking the old self, establishing a new self, and breaking out of the cocoon. Change is hard, unpredictable, and full of good expectations.
May we all have the courage and strength to break through the cocoon into butterflies, either learn to grow, or change the breakthrough status quo!
No matter what, live in bloom!
PS：
The classic sentence in the film is shared:
1, down-to-earth, as if you have four legs, so that you can stand in the world.
2. Don't look at the world through the mind, but look at the world through the mind.
3. God exists in my heart and becomes me.
4, face smile, heart smile and even liver smile.
5) Sometimes, losing balance for love is part of living a balanced life.