The psychology of human nature - Stockholm

Such a case occurred in Stockholm, the capital of Sweden, in the last century.

The robbers took three hostages at the bank, two men and one woman, and confronted the police.

The two sides negotiated for several days, because the bandits had three hostages in their hands, and there was no way, the police had to let the bandits have a way to live.

The bandits fled along the route designated by the police, who laid ambushes along the way. When the police's strategy of killing two birds with one stone (saving hostages, catching bandits) is about to succeed. An unexpected situation occurred.

The three hostages actually covered for the bandits along the way, and what the police could not have dreamed of was that one of the hostages stood up as a robber to block the gun.

Seeing this, you probably have opened your mouth and said that you would not believe anything, and even the police could not understand it, but this is what really happened.

Why are the three hostages willing to help the robbers escape at a critical point of death? Why do they have no distinction between right and wrong?

Social psychologists have found that if a terrorist takes a hostage, the hostage's life is threatened and he dies.

During their imprisonment, they saw the brutality and unreasonableness of the terrorists, and they hurt other people indiscriminately, but they did not hurt themselves, but they were not good to themselves.

Because these hostages know that their lives may be taken by terrorists at any time, over time, these people will begin to entrust their lives to terrorists.

Being a hostage, eating every bite of food, drinking every sip of water, as long as the terrorist does not interfere, the hostage will feel that the terrorist has a generous grace for him.

This is the bottom line that human nature has when it suffers from fear.

The hostages clearly saw the brutality of the terrorists, and saw that they were unreasonable and wantonly killing people.

But he was not killed, and even the bandits gave themselves some tolerance, just a little bit was enough.

When the terrorist is a little better to the hostage, the hostage will magnify this little bit of goodness N times, and this little good will become a great gratitude.

Although hostages succumb to their violence against terrorists who kidnap themselves, when their fears turn into gratitude to him, they easily become a kind of worship.

Kidnapping and imprisonment, threats of death, extortion of money are no longer crimes in the eyes of the hostages.

Instead, they will give rationalized explanations, and they will think in their hearts that these terrorists actually have unavoidable suffering

heart.

If they hadn't been cornered, I'm sure they wouldn't have been terrorists, I sympathize with them, I think they're good people, and I'm grateful that they let me go.

This symptom can also be used to explain why many women who have been beaten in the case of domestic violence have never been able to escape the control of the domestic abuser.

For example, you can completely run away from the abuser or divorce him, but most women don't.

Many women who are beaten, another liar will appear in the brain to rationalize the explanation for the domestic abuser

For example, children are still young, I don't want children to grow up in such a broken family, children of single-parent families are problem juveniles prone to crime.

I love my family so much that he doesn't have me, a man can't take care of children and so on a whole bunch of explanations.

I have a friend's sister who was abused by her husband when she wiped his wounds with tears.

The liars of her brain will run out to find rationalization, in fact, my husband still loves me, and you don't see the side of him who loves me.

The final rationalization is even more outrageous, and she will say this, you see he hurt me, he wiped my wounds with tears, this is his gentle side.

Even though I was beaten by him, I saw this gentle side of him, and I still chose to forgive him.

In fact, these people are deceived by another liar of their own brains, and finally engage in their own right and wrong.

Clinically proven domestic violence men can not change, just like a man every day to quit drinking, quit smoking, quit gambling, there are several can quit successfully.

Only one situation can be successfully quit, either lung cancer, or liver cancer, or have lost the family, or the body has obviously felt that it is not good, there is a chance to quit successfully.

There is an old saying that dogs can't change eating. Leave those who think about eating every day.

You must understand that human nature is despicable in its bones. If you are always good to him, it becomes a habit, and it is difficult for him to feel it.

If you're not that nice to him, sometimes a little bit better, he'll be grateful to Dade.

You are very generous, often invite others to dinner, a few times you forget to pay, he is easy to blame you.

You are usually not very generous, rarely invite others to dinner, and suddenly you invite others to dinner, he may remember for a long time.

Strong culture, to the point!