At the very beginning, people's hearts are almost full of vitality and vitality. When I was a child, most of them were also naughty, and they were bear children in the eyes of their parents.
But with the passage of time, many people's personalities have changed dramatically compared to when they were young. They are no longer lively and cheerful, but they become taciturn and do not take the initiative to talk to people. The reason for this personality is often because they have experienced suffering.
Not everyone is born to be a quiet and silent person, people know that children who love to cry have sugar to eat, and when they were young, in order to get the attention and love of their elders, they always loved to cry and make trouble.
Growing up slowly, I also love to laugh and play, like to make friends, and like to be noticed by others. In fact, this is because they have not yet experienced the hardships of life, and they still live happily under the protection of their parents.
However, the person who has experienced suffering, the optimism and fuss in his heart are snuffed out, and he grits his teeth and insists on life, and more intuitively feels the cruelty and ruthlessness of reality than his peers.
When everyone around him is still discussing gossip, shopping and traveling, who is with whom or breaking up, he himself is already suffering greatly, and his original cheerful personality is gradually disappearing. The gates of his heart were closed, and no one outside could get in, and he didn't want to come out.
Some people are very lucky, encounter difficulties in life, and can still talk to friends and have friends to comfort. However, there are also some people who can only survive slowly by themselves, and although there are thousands of kinds of pain in their hearts, no one can say anything about them.
Gradually, they also shut up, others could not understand the thoughts in their hearts, and the bridge of communication between them was hindered, and they could only silently distance themselves from each other.
People who are silent in their hearts are actually because they have experienced too much suffering, they are looking down on their unfortunate encounters, and they are calmer about those gains and losses, and they are becoming more and more silent.
Friends who used to be very good, because of those encounters and far away from him, himself began to understand that people's hearts are changeable, feelings are too weak, obviously so good before, but now they are far away one after another, because those people are afraid of themselves entangled with them, afraid of being involved by him.
At the low point of life, the most likely you have to see the snobbery and cruelty of this world, the more you can see the hypocrisy of the human heart. When feelings also become worthless, the only thing that can be done is silence.
Others don't want to listen to you, and what you say doesn't actually solve the real problem. Once you understand this truth, you will understand that silence is the best way, no longer need to feel the hypocrisy and courtesy between people, and others do not have to pretend to care, false and snake.
In the past, you may also be a very cheerful and lively person, but when you encounter suffering and feel the reality, you will understand that in fact, you are the most loyal to yourself, because you yourself will not betray and will not pretend to care.
The person who knows you best is yourself, and the person who loves you the most is also yourself. Talking to unrelated people is just a waste of time and feelings, so why talk nonsense and make everyone unhappy.
After experiencing too much suffering, the heart will definitely be affected, and their three views may also change accordingly, the former heaven, the current hell, the sense of gap in the heart is too big, it is easy to cause psychological distortion, more and more silent.
Hurt by the indifference and reality of others, the wounds in the heart are difficult to heal, and they will be more vigilant about the proximity of others, and they will think about the purpose of others' approaching, and will no longer let others easily hurt themselves.
Having walked too long in the darkness, bearing too much alone, being hurt too much by others, the sky that used to be bright, now gray, can not see the sun, can not see hope.
Even if we get out of trouble now, there will be no more suffering. But the trauma left in the heart is too great, and the sequelae are difficult to eradicate, so they become more and more silent, and they do not like to talk to others, let alone show their emotions.
No one should go near them, they will not provoke anyone, an invisible barrier between them and others, others see them like this, but also feel that this kind of person is very silent, do not like to communicate with people.
After experiencing too much suffering, I have a certain understanding of the indifference of human nature, and I also look down on the need to interact with others, and I hope that I will be alone.
When disappointment accumulates to a certain extent, all that remains is a calm and silent silence. After too much suffering, a lot of the bustle will not have the original curiosity, because it is like that, all the prosperity and joy will disappear, and everything seems to be less important.
Naturally, there is nothing to say, there is no friend to make, to be alone, no one to provoke anyone, just leave yourself alone, look at this is the normal world of loss and recovery, see others happy but their own life without feeling, and stay out of the matter, silent.
The more silent, in fact, the more mature, the more comprehensive and real the world will be, the laughter will eventually disappear with the wind, and the truest appearance of the world is often cruel.
But I have seen this cruelty, I have experienced suffering, and the rest of the time, I don't have to force myself to socialize, I don't have to force that ridiculous sense of community and belonging. Be your truest self, even if it's a silent, unlikable person.