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Someone asked me, I broke up with my boyfriend, what can I do to best get revenge on him and make him forget me for the rest of his life?
I replied to her, very simply, the best revenge is not to hurt with all your strength, but to gently let go, from now on the end of the world, do not pay attention to it.
When this person completely withdraws from your life, when even the memories delete all the existence related to him, from now on you live your life, he has his tomorrow, and it has nothing to do with you, such a seemingly peaceful ending, but it is the best revenge for every ex.
Yi Shu also said in "The First Half of My Life": "The best revenge is not hatred, but the coldness of the heart." ”
Because from the moment of separation, you are already strangers, and from then on there will be no communication in life, just like two parallel lines, and there will be no more intersections in your life. If this is the case, why bother to hate him, to resent him, to find ways to retaliate against him?
When you make any move, good or bad, as long as there is something about him, it is enough to prove that you have not really let go. When you really let go, it's not love, it's not hate. Instead, forget everything about his existence, continue to live your life in peace, even if he appears in front of you one day, you will only say hello lightly like an ordinary friend, and then continue to miss.
02
Zhang Xin and her boyfriend have been together for more than three years, but just because of a text message, they announced the breakup of the two people.
The content of the text message is also very simple, she saw it on her boyfriend's mobile phone, signed by his ex-girlfriend, and there is only a short line on it: See you at the old place at eight o'clock tonight, I have opened the room.
Zhang Xin went from panic at the beginning to anger later, and finally gradually calmed down. The boyfriend also confessed to her that after separating from his ex-girlfriend, he had actually never really broken off with her, that is to say, in the three years of his relationship with Zhang Xin, he had been secretly chen cang with the girl.
It took Zhang Xin less than a second to make the decision to break up. She thought she could have such an atmosphere when she left, but there was still a raging anger in her heart that could not be extinguished. She couldn't help but admit that she hated these two men and had created such a big lie, like a net, that had trapped her for three whole years, and she felt as if it were a joke.
During the time when they just broke up, Zhang Xin couldn't sleep all night. She also thought about how she was going to take revenge on the dog man and woman, change her mobile phone number to send threatening text messages, or mail some terrible things to their residence, just thinking about it can make her feel incredibly happy.
But calm down, she vetoed them one by one. She gradually realized that no matter how much hatred there was, she should let go from the moment she broke up, because she still had her new life and a long way to go, and there was not so much time to remember the people and things of the past.
Another year later, in that city, the three men met again. At this time, Zhang Xin looked calm, as if nothing had happened, and even greeted them with a smile.
That night, Zhang Xin received a text message from her ex-boyfriend: Have you had a good time during this time? I miss you.
She just replied, I am doing well, don't bother you, don't contact me again in the future, I blocked the other party's contact information.
When she did all this, her heart was unexpectedly very calm. Until this moment, she completely understood that the hatred that had been there, the unbearable ones in the past, she had already really let go, even if they were reunited again, Zhang Xin could treat them calmly in front of their faces.
Such calmness, such coldness, may be the best revenge for the ex-boyfriend. But for Zhang Xin at this moment, she never deliberately thought of retaliating, just continue to finish her own road, after all, in this world, whoever leaves will live a normal life, when you leave, this is not the final end of my life.
03
When a relationship ends, two people who once loved each other come to an end, and when there is no possibility of starting over between you, then blindly standing in the same place and tangling and nostalgia is useless.
And if they hurt each other when they are separated, it is meaningless to hold a heart full of wounds and live the second half of your life with hatred.
When we are separated, we always think in our hearts that I will definitely have a better life than you in the future, and some people will even curse in their hearts and vow to leave their ex alone for the rest of their lives.
They think that for the rest of their lives, they can spy on his life, like a cold poisonous snake, wishing that the other party will never emerge again, why should those missed happiness be borne by me alone, and why should the harm you have caused me be completely buried with the passage of time?
But you must know that love is like this, you can't tell right from wrong, and you can't tell a reason. Two people who love each other have gone to a strange road, and the two are separated, and it is time to put down everything in the past and look down on it.
Those so-called revenge, so-called revenge, the hatred hidden in your heart, should also be relieved with time, and letting go is always the best answer.
04
Yishu said that the best revenge is the coldness emanating from the bottom of his heart. When we one day forget everything about the past, not to make a play, not to disguise, but to really erase them from life, you will find that the new life is much easier and happier than you think.
Even if one day, they are reunited, they can still look calm and talk with the one who used to be. What is the most frustrating thing in this world? It is in a relationship that one person is still trapped in the past, and the other person has already gone far, may we all be able to be the one who let go of the past and welcome the new life.