Oh my God, He Jie once again proved that her tear point was really low! Recently she was on the marriage and love variety show "Honey, Get Married!" In just one episode, she cried four times, making it impossible to guess whether she was having any problems with her marriage.
However, He Jie, who seems to be "emotional", has a fairly rational view of marriage and love. Before, papi sauce once said that he and her husband have been in love for 10 years and married for 5 years, but the parents of the two families have never met, showing the public: the original marriage can still live like this! Coincidentally, He Jie is also in "Honey, Get Married!" " said: Marriage is a personal matter, as long as you can bear the choice. When Asked by Cai Kangyong whether she would interfere with her daughter's marriage, she said bluntly: This is not my business.
Modern people's marriage, looking around, because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the contradiction between mother-in-law and son-in-law, etc., is generally bitter, and it seems that how to get along with each other's families after marriage has become a standard skill in marriage. Falling in love is just a matter for the two of us, not two families, what does it mean for a young couple?
It means that no one will criticize you - your parents are not doing right here, what they are doing there is not right; there will be no criticism - how much more your wife's mother's family should pay... At the same time, it also means that two people take care of everything on their own, completely on their own, whether it is good or bad. Such a partnership is actually both a freedom and a challenge, and the two are two sides of the same coin.
To be happy, you must first have the ability to take responsibility for your own choices. "Honey, get married!" The couple in the show is actually a good example, Zhang Tong and Lu Piqiang have actively transformed because the modeling career has entered a bottleneck; the sun is young and very aggressive, and the ideas are endless. When the three couples in the show are getting closer and closer to the state of marriage, they do not blindly rely on their parents' support, but actively realize their self-worth and be responsible for the other half, and the efforts of the couples also infect every guest on the scene.
Lin Yun and Mao Xiaotong also shared their struggle stories, Mao Xiaotong once filmed three plays in a row, and as a result, he directly fainted during the play, and finally went home to recuperate for three months, and Lin Yun also fainted because of running 20 roadshows in a row. When asked if he had adjusted his plan because of this, Lin Yun's answer, although he was heartfelt, was extremely true: "It seems that young people don't have a choice." Sometimes, when you have enough ability, you will have enough courage to choose the person or thing you like.
Of course, this does not mean that we do not need to pay attention to the feelings of our parents, after all, we all want our marriage to be blessed by our parents. However, everything should be based on one's own thinking, not the instructions of one's parents. And "Honey, Get Married!" Zhang Tong's parents are also called "good parents in China", respecting their children, knowing how to let go, and happy to see their children's self-growth and self-independence. When Zhang Tong's parents said, "The hukou book is for you, deng does not register for their own decision" and "put down the little girl's petite, to change", they clearly know that their daughter can get their marriage, they don't need to worry too much.
At the end of the show, Li Bo'er ushered in his own wedding. On the eve of the wedding, He Jie saw Li Bo'er's mother combing Her hair, and she thought of her daughter who couldn't help but cry again, saying, "Because I am a woman, I know how difficult it will be for her to come." Despite this, she still hopes that her daughter will fall in love sooner and understand what "love" is and what she wants. Parents have a thousand ways to live, teach children "respect", teach them to live happily through life, enough.