Raising boys must give them enough of these 6 "nutrients", so that they can grow up more smoothly and have a better future

Ao Dad talks about education

2024-05-11 23:16Published in Fujian

Due to the nature of boys, we all know that raising good boys is not easy.

Boys face many challenges and confusions in their growth, from the curious exploration of childhood to the identity of adolescence.

They need to face various issues such as social expectations, gender role positioning, emotional expression, etc., and parents play a very important role as guides in this process.

How to raise boys well, so that their growth will be smoother and the future will be better, is naturally the educational mission of parents.

Children need nutrition when they grow up, and in the same way, children also need "nutrition" if they want to become talents. In my opinion, it is important to raise boys with the following 6 "nutrients" to ensure that they grow up with all-round development.

01 Boys need to be gentle

Although boys are praised as little men from an early age, they, like girls, cannot grow up without the tenderness of their parents.

The tenderness of parents towards boys not only shapes their personalities, but also influences their behavior and interpersonal interactions.

Of course, being gentle does not mean that the child should be indulged unprincipledly, but rather that parents show a caring and considerate attitude towards their children.

Society often expects boys to be stronger and more manly, but it often ignores the emotional needs of boys.

The boys also crave a psychologically safe space where they can freely express their emotions, which is certainly not a sign of their cowardice.

As parents, we need to learn to listen to boys and truly understand their needs and feelings. At the same time, respect their feelings and independence, and give them enough room to grow.

A boy who is treated gently can fully feel that he is accepted and cherished by his parents.

Such an environment will inspire confidence and courage in boys, making them more and more confident.

02 Boys need boundaries and rules

Boys are born with curiosity and energy, and the importance of needing boundaries and rules is self-evident.

For boys, the boundaries and rules tailored for them are not constraints, but compasses that allow them to learn to distinguish between right and wrong and shape the right values and codes of conduct.

It is these boundaries and rules that can help boys establish the right values and codes of conduct so that they can grow into self-disciplined and responsible people.

Therefore, parents need to discipline boys effectively and set clear boundaries and rules for them when raising them.

Parents help boys understand what is appropriate and what is not.

This clear boundary not only helps boys build self-control and self-discipline, but also keeps them away from danger and harm.

Just like a certain "no wild swimming ......" rule, it seems to be a constraint on the boy's freedom, but this rule is to protect the boy from drowning tragedy.

Learning to follow the rules is the first step for a boy to become a responsible member of society.

Parents can boost their self-esteem and self-confidence by praising and rewarding boys for their positive behaviour in following the rules.

At the same time, appropriate punishment and restraint are also necessary for boys who do not follow the rules, so that they can recognize the consequences of their mistakes and learn from them.

Through this combination of "positive motivation" and "consequences", parents can help their boys develop the right patterns of behaviour and promote their healthy development.

03 Boys need respect

Respect has a profound impact on protecting a boy's self-esteem and self-confidence.

Parental respect makes boys feel recognized and valued, and their self-confidence will radiate from within, building a positive sense of identity with themselves.

When boys feel respected by their parents, they feel more confident to explore the world, express their ideas, and build healthy relationships.

This increased sense of self-identity is a powerful motivation that motivates boys to pursue their dreams, overcome difficulties, and develop a positive mindset.

Conversely, if parents lack respect for boys, it can be like a shadow hanging over boys, causing them to begin to doubt their abilities and question their own worth. This self-doubt and low self-esteem can be an obstacle to their mental health and social skills.

In addition, parents should also teach boys to respect themselves, including protecting their own rights and interests, expressing their opinions, and refusing unreasonable demands or violations, so as to grow up to be responsible and attractive men.

04 Boys need to take risks

There is no boy who does not love adventure, boys are naturally curious about the unknown and challenges, and they are eager to explore every corner of the world and discover new things.

For boys, adventure is like opening a door to the unknown, full of endless possibilities and novel experiences.

Adventure can spark a boy's curiosity and desire to explore. Through adventure, they can experience a variety of different situations and experiences first-hand, thus expanding their horizons and experiences.

Taking risks can develop courage and self-confidence in boys. In the process of facing challenges and difficulties, boys need to have the courage to face and challenge their abilities and limits. Each successful venture allows them to feel their own growth and progress, which in turn boosts their self-confidence and dares to take on greater challenges.

During the adventure, the boys will encounter a variety of problems and challenges that require flexibility to think and solve.

When we transfer this risk-taking spirit to the field of learning, boys are able to face the challenges of learning.

We can also encourage boys to go beyond their comfort zone and participate in activities such as outdoor adventures, sports, art, and more, so that they can feel challenged and grow in practice.

Of course, parents also need to be concerned about safety and ensure that the boy is not harmed or endangered during the adventure.

Giving boys the courage to take risks and explore will lay a solid foundation for their future development.

05 The boy needs to suffer a little

Whether it is a boy or a girl, they need to endure some hardships, but as boys who will stand up to the sky in the future, they must integrate hardships into their blood.

Enduring hardship is a kind of experience, from which boys can learn to persevere, not to give up easily, even if they face great difficulties, they can easily solve them, and become a strong person in their hearts.

Enduring hardship is also an ability to adapt to the environment, and through enduring hardship, boys can better adapt to various environments, including adversity, and maintain a positive attitude no matter how big the setbacks are.

Of course, not all parents are willing to let their boys suffer a little, and some parents prefer to let their boys live in their comfort zone.

But in fact, if you don't dare to let go and let your child suffer, this is a short-sighted behavior.

Because, boys who have lived in their comfort zone for a long time and lack hardship experience will inevitably lack intellectual curiosity and exploration spirit, and will inevitably not be able to withstand the blows of setbacks and failures.

Dare to let the boy suffer a little, is the visionary parent.

Boys who experience moderate failures and setbacks will grow up to be strong-hearted and strong-willed people who will lay a solid foundation for future success.

06 Boys need patience

In terms of boys' personality traits, there is no doubt that they need to be patient.

The growth of a boy is a gradual process. Whether it's early childhood, childhood, or adolescence, each stage is accompanied by specific physical, psychological, and social development needs.

In early childhood, boys may need more attention and pampering; In adolescence, they are more eager to be independent and autonomous.

At different stages, parents should give boys enough time and space to grow and constantly encourage them to develop their interests and talents.

Understanding the characteristics and needs of boys at different stages of development can help parents better cope with their behavioural and emotional changes and build a good relationship with boys.

For example, teenage boys often face identity challenges and emotional swings, and this is when they need more support and understanding. This means that parents learn to listen to them and build trust and understanding with each other.

Boys inevitably face various difficulties and challenges as they grow up, and the patience of parents can help boys get through these difficulties more smoothly.

epilogue

Raising boys is not only an important responsibility for parents, but also a meaningful and impactful educational mission.

Parents play a key role in this, and their words and deeds, love and care will profoundly affect the trajectory of boys' growth and future life.

Let's work together to pave a path full of hope and possibilities for the boys' future.

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