Life is long, long enough to have endless chores
Life is short, short to the end of life
Everyone is an individual
Different personalities, different ways of dealing with things
Live for yourself or for your children
Nothing wrong with that
Don't overstep your own grievances
Don't let people bully easily
In this lifetime, to be alive is to practice
Heaven and earth are furnaces, and no one is suffering
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In the 1950s, 24-year-old Gui Mei (played by Yang Huishan) traveled alone to Treasure Island. This girl, who is still full of longing for love, has traveled across the ocean and come alone to find her fiancé.
However, the reality is always cruel and powerless, Gui mei did not find her fiancé, and she did not have the money to go home, she could only live in her cousin's house temporarily. Guimei's first half of her life was to find her fiancé, and now she can't even feed her life, and her thoughts have to be broken.
Guimei, who lives in her cousin's house, is extremely diligent and fast, and she not only endures her cousin's arrogant command, but also hides from her cousin's covetousness, but she still can't stand this kind of life under the fence.
The 27-year-old Guimei has suffered a blank stare at her cousin's house, and her fiancé has never been seen, and this generation can not "rely on" her cousin's family! There must be a way out! Gui Mei went on a blind date with a middle-aged man named Hou Yongnian (played by Li Liqun) under the arrangement of her cousin.
The other was an honest man abandoned by his wife, and three children, who looked so ordinary that he could not be found in the crowd. Guimei in the movie did not dislike Hou Yongnian, but she did not directly agree to marry him, she always felt that there were shortcomings, but said to get along slowly.
Later, Hou Yongnian asked Guimei to go for a walk in the park, and Guimei put on a white dress and newly bought shoes that she usually did not want to wear that day. She only cared about chatting with Hou Yongnian, did not look at the road under her feet, but stepped into the muddy water, her shoes were covered with dirty mud, Hou Yongnian squatted down and wiped the mud off Guimei's shoes with a handkerchief. At this moment, Guimei experienced the feeling of being cared for and loved.
Guimei saw Hou Yongnian's concern for her at this moment, and many years ago, Guimei, who had forgotten to be cared for, fell like this. She thought: This is the person in this life! She and Hou Yongnian were married.
If Gui mei at that time could examine Hou Yongnian more, maybe she could live another life in her life, but unfortunately there was no if. We all know that only a little bit of care in love can't survive the end of marriage, but Gui mei has endured a lifetime with Hou Yongnian because of this little concern.
Gui Mei is the heroine of the movie "I Have Lived My Life Like This", she is a poor and precious woman. Guimei went to Treasure Island alone in order to find her fiancé, and because of the embarrassment of life, she had to temporarily live in her cousin's house, in order to get rid of the life under the fence, she felt that this man was worth her entrusting for life because Hou Yongnian paid a little. She became the stepmother of her three children and had a temporary shelter, she thought that her life would gradually get better, even if Hou Yongnian's eldest daughter did not want to see her, Guimei also dedicated herself to the family.
If Hou Yongnian is an honest person, maybe Guimei's life will still be a little hopeful, after marriage Guimei and Hou Yongnian lived a period of peaceful life, because Hou Yongnian was addicted to gambling, the family's life was very embarrassing, Guimei had to go to Japan with Hou Yongnian to make a living after giving birth to two children. And because of the coincidence in a local Chinese restaurant to learn a good cooking, and later returned to Baodao to open a restaurant called "Xiafei Home", the days gradually improved under guimei's management, but did not want Hou Yong to be old and old and wrong again, even the eldest daughter said, you should not tolerate your father so much. Guimei, who had endured all her life, still chose to forgive.
Guimei in the movie is kind and generous, and her body almost has the female character that China has promoted for thousands of years, but I think she is sad and lamentable, I want to live a lifetime, I always have to live for myself, maybe this is very selfish, but I can't do Guimei's kind tolerance. Living is a practice, and if you marry a man and have to endure a lifetime of suffering, it is better to live well!
Many people say that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation, and Gui mei's second reincarnation in the movie looks so unwise and reckless; even if Hou Yongnian gambles the money she has given birth to, she can at most take a knife and shake a few tricks; the days are not easy to get better, Hou Yongnian is old and cute, she just chooses to forgive; the children are not filial piety and she does not say a word... She is like the "Old Horse" written by Zang Kejia, such an "old horse" is silent and thick, she uses her tenacity and tolerance to make a family cohesive together, and then Guimei fell ill, Hou Yongnian took care of her meticulously in the hospital, maybe this is what Guimei wanted in her life! It is too difficult for a person, and even if it is difficult for a family, there is a motivation to force her to keep moving forward!
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The heroine Guimei in "I Have Lived My Life Like This" has experienced a marriage that does not look so happy, her husband is addicted to gambling, cheating in marriage, and her children are not very filial piety, even if these seem to us to be intolerable, but Guimei still endures. She followed Hou Yongnian to exhaust her youth and took a happy life for a lifetime, willingly.
The film uses a very delicate lens to portray a mother who is silently stoic for the sake of the family and for the sake of the child, and whenever we see Guimi's patience and unwillingness, we will complain for her and hope that she will stay away from the scumbag.
Seeing Guimei's tortured life, she always thought that as long as she jumped out of this home, left Hou Yongnian, and bravely took her children with her, she would always be happy. But we ignore that the women in that era are still far from the independent consciousness of our modern women, if Gui mei runs away from home like Nala in "Doll's House", her life should be more than difficult! Gossip alone is enough for a single mom to drink a pot.
Even in the era we live in, what woman dares to divorce easily? What they fear is never the inability to support themselves and their children, but the fear that the child will resent her when she loses her father, and that she will be ridiculed and fooled by those around her.
An aunt from a neighbor's family has been married to her husband for more than 30 years, and when her son was 3 years old, she had separated from her husband, and now that her son has a family and children, she still keeps the marriage that exists in name only. I remember once chatting with her, unconsciously talking about this piece, asking her why she didn't start her life again? But the aunt said that most of her life has come, and this yellow map has been buried in half, so why bother? Later, I understood that some marriages survive and survive, even if they are so unbearable and unhappy in the eyes of outsiders, as long as they choose to kneel, they will be finished.
Remember the marriage of Wu Huifen (played by Zhang Kaili) and Gao Yuliang (played by Zhang Zhijian) in the TV series "In the Name of the People", in front of outsiders they are a couple with deep affection, but in fact, their marriage has long existed in name only, Gao Yuliang cheated on Gao Xiaofeng (played by Hu Jing) in marriage, and the two people have long been divorced. But Wu Huifen and Gao Yuliang are still maintaining this marriage, wu Huifen is for her daughter and for her own face. What about the other one? What is he for? Marriage is not easy, and do and cherish this sentence may say that this kind of obviously do not love, obviously the marriage is a chicken feather, but the two people still choose to support each other and go down together!
Gui mei and Hou Yongnian's marriage is also a chicken feather, but they still support each other to survive, this marriage that does not seem to us to be very happy, after Gui Mei entered the hospital, Hou Yongnian's meticulous care let us see a little warmth. Remember the sentence that Ma Yili said after the article cheated on the article, "Marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished", the marriage that survives the head will always have a little light that has warmed each other, and those who can be put down may be because there is no longer hope!
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In real life, no one's life can be smooth and calm; no one's life can easily obtain happiness. Tang monks and apprentices need to go through 9981 difficulties to obtain the True Scriptures; Cao Xueqin's "Dream of the Red Chamber" was deleted and revised for twenty years to become a generation of famous works; Qu Yuan was exiled to have the famous "Departure from Sorrow"; Cao Zhi, in order to survive, within 7 steps, could recite the classic verse "Boiling beans and burning beans, beans crying in the kettle" in order to survive... To be alive is a practice, the heavens and the earth are the furnace, and no one is suffering.
When I watched the movie "I Lived My Life Like This", I always couldn't help but cry, at that time I thought I was crying about Guimei's life, and then I found out that our own life may also be a mess, but we are all good at disguise, and others can't see it. Guimei's first practice in life was to cross the ocean to find her fiancé, she did not find a fiancé, there was no job to earn a living, there was no home to keep warm, a person in a strange place was helpless; the first practice in my life was the first time I participated in the work, clumsy and clumsy was scolded and cried many times, still did not change her original intention, it was difficult to work, but the family had an accident and had to resign and go home to take care of my relatives.
Gui mei's second practice in life was to temporarily stay at her cousin's house, being treated by her cousin's family as an inferior servant, and her suffering may only be quietly released every dark night! Otherwise, how could she have met a man who was only a little nice to her and easily married? The second practice in my life was that after changing careers, I didn't understand anything, the colleagues I met were not friendly, everyone was busy with their own work, and it was hard to win a single order but was robbed of the credit by the group manager, which was called: apprentice filial piety to the master. God knows what He taught me?
Gui mei's third practice in life is that Hehou Yongnian entered the marriage, a chicken feather marriage did not crush this strong woman, in the face of her husband's cheating, gambling as fate she can face calmly, even if the eldest daughter persuades her to leave her husband, she is still reluctant to exhaust the tired and tired family. The third practice in my life was a nonsensical love affair, meeting a person who looked very good in all aspects, but later I learned that he was just a wolf in human skin, and the hurt in my feelings made me dare not say love for a while.
Life is a practice, how to live, how to live depends on you, may you have the courage not to do it, but also to sacrifice the ego, to complete everyone's courage! In this life, it is not long to say that it is not short, how to live, you must have a number in your heart!