The classic film "I've Lived My Life Like This" won four important awards after its release: Golden Horse Awards for Best Picture, Best Director, Best Actress and Best Adapted Screenplay.
The film mainly tells the heroine Guimei's life of hard work, and uses Guimei's personal life trajectory to skillfully show the history of Taiwan's decades of change. The timeline of the whole film spans from the 1950s to the 1980s, with a strong breath of life.
During the war, the young Guimei came to Taiwan alone from Nanjing to find her fiancé, but the whereabouts of her fiancé were unknown, and she could only temporarily live in her cousin's house. In order not to cause trouble for her cousin, she kept doing housework every day, and even then she had to endure her cousin's arrogant instructions and her cousin's brother-in-law's covetousness.
In order to leave the incapacitated cousin's house, Gui mei hurriedly married a middle-aged man Hou Yonghou and became the stepmother of his three children. After getting married, she worked hard to manage the housework, but Hou Yongnian had already become addicted to gambling, which made the family, which was not rich in the first place, worse.
In order to continue gambling, Hou Yongnian pawned his family's belongings regardless of his wife and children. In order to pay off the gambling debt, Gui Mei took out the little jewelry she had left. The child was about to be born, Gui mei borrowed a loan shark, did not think that such an important money was also taken by her husband to gamble.
The casino frustrated Hou Yongnian's temper is getting worse and worse, and he scolds Gui Mei. Soon after, Guimei gave birth to a pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses, plus the three children of Hou Yong's former wife, and the arrival of the dragon and phoenix fetus made the family's life more difficult. Gui mei did not escape but bravely assumed the responsibilities of the family, working hard and complaining as a good wife and mother.
Extreme poverty forced Guimei and his wife to go to Japan to work as a maid for a wealthy businessman. After working hard for a few years, I finally saved some money and returned to Taiwan to open a small restaurant with good business. Finally, the bittersweet came, but the husband not only returned to his old business but also cheated.
Gui Mei can't bear to want a divorce, as soon as she leaves the house, she is messed up, she can't bear to watch her children suffer, even if there is a lot of pain, she can only choose to return to the family.
The small restaurant business is getting better and better, another Western restaurant has been opened, and the five children have also started a family. After a lifetime of hard work, when she could finally rest and enjoy the happiness of the world, Guimei had uterine cancer for a long time.
Industrious and virtuous: The heroine Guimei first appeared in the movie in the kitchen of her cousin's house, her nephew asked her to go out on a blind date, she skillfully poured water, carried coal balls, and put a kettle, and the long shot truly recorded Guimei's living conditions.
Bright and honest: When she was on a blind date, she confessed to Hou Yongnian that she had a relationship with her fiancé, if you mind, forget it. One of the things she mentioned repeatedly was: I don't want to hide it from you.
Hard work: In order to live after marriage, she held up a big belly and took her children to do handicraft work and supplement the family. Even so, life is still getting more and more difficult, and Hou Yongnian wants to let his eldest daughter drop out of school as an apprentice to reduce the burden on the family, but Gui mei disagrees.
So as soon as Guimei's dragon and phoenix fetus was born, she found a job for herself and her husband to go to Japan as a maid to solve the family's predicament.
Impartial: Katsurami and his wife can take two children to Japan, at this time Katsurami's dragon and phoenix fetus has just been born, so it is reasonable to bring the most need to take care of the biological child.
But for Guimei, which two of the five children to take with is undoubtedly a painful choice, left and right, Guimei chose to take the eldest son and one of the twins, because the eldest son was not admitted to junior high school, to Japan can continue to study, and the little double is sick and needs to be taken care of. The husband cruelly let Gui Mei publish it.
Gui mei secretly cried bitterly that night by biting the quilt alone, and swallowed all the pain raw into her stomach.
Not humble: Hou Yongnian works in a restaurant, usually packing and bringing some leftovers back to eat, Guimei can not accept eating other people's leftovers all thrown away. Hou Yongnian was very angry, and Guimei said, "We can still eat our own, so we don't want others to leave it." ”
No matter how hard and tired she is, she is not willing to accept anyone's help, because in her heart: as long as she can eat her own, she does not want what others have leftovers.
When Guimei was a servant, her wife suspected that she was having an affair with the boss, and Guimei felt that she had been greatly insulted and immediately left their house. Prefer to be a hard waiter than bow your head, although the waiter is hard, but earn more, you can return to your country as soon as possible.
Guimei has a tough personality, has an assertive attitude when encountering things, and is not afraid of difficulties. These beautiful qualities allowed her not to be beaten by life in the most difficult times, and only then did she have a life that gradually improved.
The word "An", a treasure cap on it, means home, which is to tell men that there is a woman in the family, and your heart can be at peace and you can feel warm.
The family is like a harbor, and women are the guardians of the harbor. The elderly should spend their old age here, the children should be cultivated and raised here, and the men should be replenished and maintained here.
For the mother, the hand that pushes the cradle is also the hand that pushes the world.
The mother's three views are the source of the three views of the children and affect the family and children. Zeng Shiqiang, a master of traditional Chinese studies, said: "The root of home education is in mother education" Family education is the education of "the beginning of man", which is the education of life, and the mother is the teacher and demonstrator of the child's character, habits and character.
Children grow up with their mothers for much more time than fathers, so the mother is the best teacher of the child, there is a Chinese saying "look at the child, first look at the mother", it can be seen that the mother has its extremely huge, profound and long-term influence on the child.
For the husband, the husband is the pillar of the family, and the wife is the "needle of the sea god" of the family.
Hou Yongnian had no plans for the future, and he listened to Guimei. Whether it is going to Japan, returning to China, or opening a restaurant, It is Katsurami's decision. Therefore, the stability of a family depends in a sense on the role of women, and the relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family relationship.
The trivial life of the family is handled by her, and the joys and sorrows of the family require her to care, and she not only has to go out to do a good job, but also runs a good family when she enters the door. Wife, hiding the blessings of the family.
In addition to love, the feelings between husband and wife also have the righteousness of taking care of each other, the tacit understanding of not abandoning, and the unforgettable kindness!
After having savings, Gui mei and his wife returned to Taiwan and opened a restaurant called "Xiafei Home", and finally came to their end.
At this time, Hou Yongnian not only began to play cards again but also derailed. Xiao San held the child and came to the door, and Gui Mei, who couldn't bear it, filed for divorce. But as soon as Guimei left, the whole family was scattered, and the family was in a mess.
Hou Yongnian could not cope, and took the child to ask Guimei, hoping that she could go home for the sake of the child. Guimei's heart is a million unwilling, but she can't bear the shattering of her hard-earned home.
There's a line in the movie:
When your husband has another woman, you only have two choices, leave him, or forgive him, but she feels neither is good.
Sometimes there is no better choice in life, and Guimei finally chooses to be patient and returns to her family. Gui Mei is old and running out of time. Hou Yongnian finally stopped gambling and did not mess around with women. The children also grew up and lived in abundance.
But what did Guimi, who was lying in the hospital bed, get? She had worked hard all her life, and after a few good days, she was going to say goodbye to the world again. Guimei thus lived her hard life and left all the good endings to others.
How many women have lived their lives like this. Happiness depends entirely on the husband and children who have taken care of him all his life. Looking back on my life, I am barely strong.
"I have lived my life like this" only seven words to cover all the years of my life, after watching this somewhat heavy movie, in addition to the pity for this woman's hard life, there is also a helpless feeling as a woman.
At the end of the film, Guimei is lying on a hospital bed, at this time she is already full of hair, she said: "People, it turned out to be old, when they were young, they never thought of it, and they would get sick." Filled with her helplessness about the impermanence of life.
A woman's life seems to be a life of dedication, and after marriage, she must marry and teach her children, and be diligent and thrifty. He was also required to honor his in-laws and have a decent job.
If your child does not learn well, you will not be able to teach your son to have a way, and the husband cheating on you is that you will not dress up. Work blames you for not having time to take care of the family, when the full-time wife blames you for not sharing the pressure, no matter what you do, you can't meet everyone's expectations. That being the case, we can only do our best to live this life well.
So women need to do the following:
Health, health is the most important thing at all times, with a good body, you have the opportunity to let yourself choose how to live. Only then will you have the opportunity to live the rest of your life well.
Money, "before there is love, there must be money". Money is no better than love. But, when there is no love, it can make its own life secure.
Live for yourself, no matter what kind of life you choose, learn to live for yourself, pay for your own life, bravely make every choice in life, not be imprisoned by the world's vision, not bound by feelings.
Loving herself, the innate maternal aura and kind temperament, so that women, whether in life or work, especially in love, will involuntarily prioritize the feelings of others, and then make some sacrifices and dedication. In the end, you find that you can't get thank you in exchange, but in exchange for a reason. Usually, women who don't know how to love themselves are good women in the traditional sense.
Growing up, after the full-time wife broke away from society, there was no growth. And their husbands, because they have to bear the family's financial resources, tend to accelerate their growth. One does not grow, one accelerates growth, and the last two people who are right at the door become strangers can understand.
How do we live this life? This is the ultimate proposition of mankind, from the dignitaries to the pawns of the traffickers, and few people may dare to say that they have really lived this life well.
In life, what kind of life should be pursued, our ancestors have already given the answer, that is:
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