Seeing that the due date is approaching, but the family's money has been lost by her husband Hou Yongnian's gambling, Guimei can only borrow a usurious loan.
A few days later, Gui mei went home and saw two children playing cards in bed. She was very angry and immediately scolded the child for not allowing gambling games, and she hated gambling. Subsequently, Guimei went to look for something, only to find that the loan shark she had borrowed was missing.
Guimei asked the child if she had seen her wallet, and both children said that they did not see it, and Guimei immediately had an ominous premonition in her heart. She immediately rushed to the place where Yongnian was playing cards, and the money was really stolen by Yongnian to play cards.
Gui Mei was so angry that she picked up a knife from the table next to her and aimed it at Yongnian, crying for Yongnian to return the money. At this time, Guimei's amniotic fluid suddenly broke, and she felt a bout of abdominal pain, and then fell down.
Zhang Yi's film "I Have Lived Like This", starring Yang Huishan, Li Liqun and Wen Ying, tells the story of 27-year-old Gui Mei, who travels from Nanjing to Taiwan alone to find her fiancé. Because she did not find a fiancé, she married Hou Yongnian, a divorced man with 3 children, and then spent her life.
The film won four awards at the 22nd Golden Horse Awards for Best Film, Best Director, Best Actress and Best Adapted Screenplay, with a Douban score of 8.4 points.
01, Gui Mei went to Taiwan and did not find her fiancé
In the 1950s, the young and beautiful Guimei traveled from Nanjing to Taiwan to find her fiancé and temporarily stayed at her cousin's house. Later, when she did not find her fiancé, Guimei had been living in her cousin's house, and her cousin was not happy.
The cousin treats Guimei like a maid and constantly calls her to work, and Guimei is busy. The cousin was still afraid that she would seduce her husband, so she guarded her everywhere, and Guimei's heart was very uncomfortable.
In order to let Guimei move away as soon as possible, the cousin entrusted someone to introduce Guimei to an object. The object is Hou Yongnian, divorced, with three children, the eldest son Zhengquan is 10 years old, the daughter Zhengfang is 8 years old, and the younger son Zhengxing is 3 years old.
Gui mei did not want to live under the fence at her cousin's house, so she agreed to look at yongnian everywhere.
That day, Gui mei wore a new dress and new shoes to go on a date, and accidentally soiled her shoes on the grass. Yongnian immediately squatted down and used a handkerchief to help Guimei wipe the mud stains on her shoes. Such a small act made Guimei, who was alone, very moved, and decided to marry Yongnian.
Love is the most wonderful emotion in the world, and sometimes one look, one word, one action can make two people feel excited. But love is simple, it is difficult to get along, when love enters marriage, life is a different look.
02, Gui mei married a divorced man with 3 children
Gui mei does not want to hide anything, she tells Yong Nian that her first night has been given to her fiancé, if Yong Nian minds, then she and Yong Nian will forget. Yongnian of course doesn't mind, he is a divorced man, with 3 children, what qualifications do you have to mind?
Under the cousin's Zhang Luo, Gui Mei and Yong Nian married. After marriage, the two stepsons quickly accepted Guimei, but the stepdaughter rejected Guimei very much. Gui mei didn't bother with her, after all, her stepdaughter was still a child! Guimei cooks and washes every day, takes care of three children, and works in the restaurant for a long time.
One day when it rains, Gui mei goes to give an umbrella to Yong Nian and finds Yong Nian and a few colleagues secretly gambling. When Guimei left, Yongnian brought home the leftover dishes that the guests ate, and Guimei walked halfway to the road and threw the leftovers away.
When Yongnian returns home, he is angry when he learns that Guimei has thrown away the leftovers. Guimei said that she felt that her family could still afford to eat, so she did not eat the leftovers of others casually, and Guimei also advised Yongnian not to gamble anymore, and Yongnian agreed.
Any person with self-esteem wants to survive on his own strength and does not want to eat the scraps of others. People must support themselves, rely on labor to eat, straighten their waists, and be human, in order to live with dignity.
03, Gui mei gave birth to a pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses
Yongnian verbally promised Guimei that she would no longer gamble, but in fact she was still gambling, and was fired by the boss. At this time, Guimei was pregnant, and the family's expenses were all counting on Yongnian's salary, but Yongnian was unemployed.
It is reasonable to say that Yongnian should immediately go to find a new job, and there are a lot of people in the family waiting for him to raise it! But he didn't look for a job, and either slept at home or gambled. Gui Mei had no choice but to borrow a loan shark, who knew that he had been stolen by Yongnian to gamble.
Guimei broke the amniotic fluid due to anger, and after being sent to the hospital, Guimei gave birth to a pair of dragon and phoenix fetuses. At this time, the family has 5 children to raise, and the burden is even heavier. Yongnian wants Zhengfang not to study and go to work as a maid, but Guimei does not agree, she does not want to wronged Zhengfang.
After Guimei was discharged from the hospital, she took the children to do some manual work at home to supplement the family. Later, the cousin said that the man in the Wei mansion was going to Japan to do things and wanted to find a couple to help, and Gui mei heard that the treatment was good, so she immediately took over the job.
There are 5 children to raise in the family, and the husband is not working well to earn money, which can be imagined. In this case, as long as she can earn money, as long as it is a legitimate job, Guimei is of course willing to do it. This also means that Guimei bravely assumes the responsibility of supporting her family, and she has to support a family.
04, Katsurami and Yongnian took their two children to Japan to work
Katsurami convinces Yongnian to go to Japan, which not only makes money, but also makes Yongnian quit gambling. Just can only take two children, according to the theory should take two small ones, but Gui mei is afraid that others will say that she only brings her own children, not stepchildren. Finally, with the oldest and youngest children, the other children were entrusted to her cousin, and the living expenses Guimi sent back from Japan.
After arriving in Japan, the couple worked in the Wei family, worked quite leisurely, and never gambled again. But Mr. Wei and his wife have a bad relationship, they are the kind of couples who look very loving on the surface, but actually have their own lives. Gyumi and Yongnian are sandwiched between their husband and wife, and it is often difficult to do things and is also wronged.
Later, Gui Meixin resigned with Yongnian and went to work in a Chinese restaurant. In the Chinese restaurant, although the work is hard, the income is quite high, and Guimei also learned the skill of cooking. It's just that the couple doesn't have a work visa, and every time the police come to check, they have to hide in Tibet.
The eldest son, Zhengquan, did not like to read and was very interested in cooking, so Guimei simply sent him to learn cooking.
After several years of hard work, the couple had a sum of money in hand. Because she missed her children in her hometown, Gui mei resigned again with Yongnian and then returned to Taiwan, and the family was finally reunited.
People who work outside always miss their hometown and their relatives, so those wanderers have to fall leaves and return to their roots. Gui mei misses the children at home, and after the conditions are better, she can't wait to go home, and the children will always be the people she cares about the most.
05, Gui Mei ran away from home and wanted to divorce Yongnian
After returning to Taiwan, Gui Mei and YongNian opened a restaurant called "Xia Fei Home", because Gui Mei's craftsmanship was good and the business was very prosperous.
The material conditions are better, but between Guimei and the other three children, because they have not lived together for a long time, the feelings are very weak, and Zhengfang has not accepted Guimei until now. Guimei blamed herself and felt sorry for not growing up with the children.
Zhengfang is in middle school and has fallen in love with a boy early, and Guimei is afraid of stimulating Zhengfang and does not directly oppose it.
Since returning to Taiwan, Yongnian has often been with his former fox friends and secretly gambled again. The cousin came to see Guimei and reminded Guimei to keep Yongnian in check, but Guimei did not pay attention to it, and she felt that Yongnian would not do anything outrageous again.
But one night, after Yongnian was pulled by a woman to play cards, he didn't come back overnight. In the middle of the night, the typhoon came, and the flood flooded the tables and chairs in the house, and the children were in a mess. Guimi and the children moved the stool to the table, climbed on the stool, and spent the night together.
Some men have a few dollars in their pockets and don't know what to do, so there will be a saying: men who have money will go bad. Yongnian stayed up all night in order to play cards, stacked his wife and children at home to cope with the flood, and it was really a sadness for a woman to meet a husband like him.
06, after Gui mei got cancer, she completed her life
After some time, a woman came to the door with a child in her arms and said that the child was eternal and that she should be responsible for eternal age. Guimei was surprised and angry, she only knew that Yongnian would gamble, and she did not expect that Yongnian would cheat. Gui Mei ran away from home in anger and went to work as a female worker in a textile factory, and she wanted to divorce Yongnian.
After Guimei left, the family was suddenly messed up, and the 5 children kept getting into trouble. Yongnian couldn't cope with it, so he went to beg Guimei to go home, but Guimei refused.
At this time, Zhengfang was pregnant again, and Yongnian was very angry, but she didn't know what to do, so she went to ask Guimei again. Gui Mei then returned home, and while maintaining Zhengfang's reputation, she quietly accompanied Zhengfang to go for abortion surgery. After this, Zhengfang finally accepted Guimei and was grateful to Guimei.
Gui mei did not divorce Yongnian after all, and the children gradually grew up. Zheng quan stayed in Japan as a chef, married and had children in Japan; Zheng Fang took over the "Kasumi House", she was as capable as Gui Mei; Zheng Xing graduated from university and opened a company and started a family; the twins were also about to graduate from college.
Guimei finally came to her best and could enjoy the blessings, but at this time, she found out that she had uterine cancer, and the whole family was stunned! The sons and daughters originally wanted to honor Guimei, but God did not give them a chance. Yongnian finally stopped going out to mix and wanted to live a good life with Gui mei, but Gui Mei lived her life like this.
The woman is weak, the mother is strong, and Guimei's life is dedicated to the family and children. Men are out of tune, gambling and cheating outside, and don't want to make progress. Guimei relied on her hard-working and love for her children to support a family, raise 5 children, and arrange their lives.
epilogue:
Guimei's life is a life of struggle and a life of dedication. She has suffered a lot and suffered a lot for the children, but her heart is still sweet, because the children are her treasure and her spiritual support. Women like Guimei, there are many in life, they are virtuous, kind, brave and selfless.
Maternal love is great, whether it is for her own birth or stepchildren, Guimei treats her equally. Her excellent qualities affect the children, and the children also work hard to live, and Zhengfang has become Guimei's appearance.
In a person's life, there are not many things that can really be chosen according to their own wishes. Like Gui mei's choice of Yongnian, there are also many unavoidable ingredients. If she could find her fiancé, if she had a place to live, if she had a better marriage partner, she wouldn't have chosen eternal life.
Yongnian gambled, and later cheated, Guimei thought about divorcing him, but because of various practical reasons, she finally did not leave. So there are always a lot of unavoidable things in life, and since you have chosen, instead of complaining, it is better to live hard.
Of course, when women dedicate themselves to their children and families, they must also love themselves well, and they must not treat themselves too badly, and physical health is the most important.
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