Mo Yan once said: "The secret of a good relationship with the people around you is not to share any happy things with others, any joy of success, the biggest evil of human nature is not to see others better than yourself, the smarter the person, the more stupid he is." ”
Why are few people now hearing about what those top rich people have made and what groups have made huge moves, because talented and powerful people have begun to learn to keep a low profile and learn to hide themselves and make a fortune.
If a wealthy person is extremely high-profile and attends some charity dinner at every turn, or does any activity at every turn, at first people may think that this person is very good, that this person is very meritorious, and in the long run, some people will start to slander the rich and think that the rich person is grandstanding, or that he is attracting attention for his company, and so on. [laughs]
Sometimes good and evil do not depend on whether what you do is good or not, but on how the people perceive it, and interpersonal communication is the truth.
The most complex thing in the world is not those math problems that can't be written on the blackboard, but a person's heart, the human heart is unfathomable and immeasurable, and each person's personality determines his attitude towards the world.
If you want to have a good relationship with others, it is definitely not okay to act rashly directly, because you don't know whether it is a gentle kitten in front of you, or a poisonous snake that chooses people and eats them, why do you say that parents are generally very accurate in seeing people, that is because, they live for a long time, see a lot of people and things, and over time hone their keen observation, so they see people very accurately.
In fact, it takes time to observe and run in with people, and blindly taking the initiative to show favor often will not leave too deep impression on others, Mo Yan also said: The secret of wanting to have a good relationship with the people around you is not to share any happy things, any joy of success.
Many people don't believe it, and even scoff at this sentence, if you make friends with others and don't share happiness with them, it's no different from strangers, the only difference may be that I know you, you know me, and nothing else.
To explain this sentence, we have to explain from the most basic human nature, many people in society are disgusted with the poor and love the rich, many people may stay away from beggars, and some people will be kind enough to give a few money, but when they see the rich, people have envy in their eyes that cannot be hidden, with a sentence from young people now: The big guy lacks a pendant on his leg?
People always like to compare themselves with others, not many people want others to be better than themselves, they all hope that they are the best one in the world, the more familiar and close to them, the more they like to make comparisons.
For example, if you find a good job, with a monthly salary of tens of thousands of yuan, and you are still complacent and admire your ability, but your friend finds a job with a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan, what will you think, are you happy for your friend's prosperity, or do you feel that you don't want to work immediately?
Therefore, people must learn to hide themselves, not to expose their wealth, to be wise and foolish, so that the befriending partner feels that you may not be better than him, so that he has a little sense of superiority, so that the friendship can go smoothly, if the strength of the status of the identity assets is directly revealed, if you are a rich man, others may feel unworthy, if you are poor, others will think that you are not worthy.
How to expand your circle of friends and how to better integrate into society?
It is a good choice to maintain humility and peace, and to reach general friendships with people, humility and peace can make it easier for people to Ghana, and even make people feel very comfortable around you, when you change from strangers to friends, you can appropriately share innocuous happiness and success, which can enrich the lives of both parties.
There is also a method of higher difficulty, that is, in the process of communicating with others, mobilize the enthusiasm and motivation of others, others feel that they have made you, hope that they can become your friends, let others take the initiative to approach and understand you, the same method can also be applied to the team, generally this way of dealing with people, social status will not be low.
Mo Yan's words are a kind of reminder to people that today's interpersonal relationships are complex, and people need to be cautious in making friends with each other, and learning to keep a low profile and be approachable and easy-going can make people better survive in society.
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(Source: Mo Yan - "The Late Bloomer")
