Family education, Zeng Guofan is one of the most successful. For more than 200 years, as many as 200 people have achieved success in the descendants of the Zeng clan, most of whom have become elites in the fields of academics, science and technology, and culture. What is shocking is that the Zeng family has lasted for ten generations, and there has not been a "loser son" so far, which is a spectacle in Chinese family history, breaking the sayings of "gentleman's Ze, five generations and beheading" and "rich but not three generations". However, to be honest, it is not something that ordinary people can learn, and it is a bit too "tall". But there are also alternative practices in history, such as xiao He, Shu Guang and Liu Wei's family education method, which is not tall, ordinary, easy to learn, and works.
Xiao He, everyone is very familiar with it, "the country is unmatched", "cheng also Xiao He, defeat also Xiao He", "Xiao Gui Cao Sui" and other idioms, can be said to be household names. "Xiao He Chases Han Xin", from the Stage of the Yuan Dynasty to the present, this founding hero of the Western Han Dynasty is also a master in handling family affairs, comparable to his political achievements, low-key and simple, benefiting future generations. When Xiao He Cheng was alive, the fields and houses he bought were not in the city center or in the rich areas, but in the backwoods of the poor countryside; he presided over the household chores, and he never could afford to build a high-walled house, and he could live in people and put things. Right to no money, certainly not, why? A tall person is a tall person, and a high person is high in it. He said, "If my descendants are virtuous, learn from my frugality; if the descendants are not virtuous, these poor houses will not be robbed by the powerful houses." The "peach blossom garden" of peace for future generations was simply created.
More than two hundred years later than Xiao He, the famous western Han dynasty ministers were sparse, and the practice of future generations was similar to Xiao He's, and it was simpler to do, direct consumption, and use up the money. Shuguang was eager to learn since childhood, and in his early years he was a home professor and a large number of disciples from you. Later, he was recruited by the imperial court as a doctor, a taizhong doctor, and a prince taifu. Rather than his nephews, he was highly regarded by Emperor Xuan of Han, and was awarded the title of Prince And Young Fu, and his uncles and nephews were rewarded, serving as reds and benchmarks throughout the imperial court. But the two of them retreated bravely, and at the same time offered to resign and go home. After retirement, the property is divided with the township to prevent the children from being proud of their wealth and to make the people of the township happy and convinced. Shu Guang and his nephew were called "Er Shu" by posterity and praised by the world.
Shuguang and his nephew did this, returning to their hometowns and ordering their families to sell gold every day, setting up feasts, and inviting clansmen, old friends, and guests to have fun together. This practice of desperately spending money and disregarding future generations is incomprehensible, so some people persuade Shuguang to use gold to buy some properties for his descendants, and Shuguang said: "Am I old and faint, and I don't care about my children and grandchildren?" I thought that my family originally had land and houses, and for their children and grandchildren to work them, it was enough for them to eat and wear and live the same life as ordinary people. To increase the number of industries now, so that there is a surplus, will only make the children and grandchildren lazy and slack. ”
Shuguang continues: "Virtuous people, if they have too much property, they will wear down their morale; foolish people, if they have too much property, will increase their faults. Moreover, the rich are the target of the resentment of all, and since I cannot educate my descendants, I do not want to increase their faults and generate resentment. Besides, this money is used by the emperor to favor old courtiers like me, so I am willing to share the emperor's gifts with my fellow villagers and people of the same clan to spend the rest of my life, isn't it also very good! People were satisfied with such a statement.
We usually say: Strict self-discipline, leniency toward others, the power of example is infinite. This is especially true in family education, where the exemplary role of role models is the most effective. But Liu Wei did not do this, but adopted the abnormal practice of "treating oneself sweetly and bitterly". Liu Wei was a native of the Five Dynasties and Ten Kingdoms period, a small county order. Under his strict lessons, his son Liu Zan finally became a scholar and became an official in the Later Tang Dynasty Examination, and the official was the attendant of the Punishment Department, much older than his father's official. Liu Wei's specific practices of family education were vivid because they were recorded in the text of Liu Zan.
Liu Wei County's requirements for his son are very strict, Liu Zan in life is simple and even bitter, the age of study is still wearing green cloth clothes, there is no difference with the children of ordinary people, and what people cannot understand is that father and son eat differently. Liu Jie county ordered that every time he ate a meal, he ate big meat by himself, and only gave Liu Zan some green vegetables. Seeing that his son was drooling, Liu Wei took the opportunity to teach: "Son, eating meat costs money. My money is given to me by the king, not to you. If you want to eat meat, you have to study hard, and in the future, when you enter the military, you will naturally have meat to eat, don't expect to be an old man. ”
Later, Liu Zan really studied hard, won the jinshi, and did a much more brilliant job than his father Liu Wei, standing in the long river of history with "abiding by the officials and the law, and the powerful and powerful must not do it for personal gain." It is also because of the excellence of his son that the small county of "sweet to treat oneself and bitter to treat one's son" made Liu Wei have a child rank, and only then did it come alive in the biographical text of his son Liu Zan and become an alternative breeding model in history, but the way and method of raising children is a bit cruel, but it is much better than arrogant habituation. It is not easy to educate children, there are many ways and methods, who does not want a generation to be better than a generation!
Educating children is a science, but the wisdom of life is sometimes not profound, and sometimes it is not necessary to make yourself five or six. If everyone takes Zeng Guofan as a benchmark, it is also unrealistic and too "tall". See the spirit in the drops, the details determine success or failure, you may wish to look at Xiao He, Shu Guang and Liu Wei's alternative family education, why did it work in the past? (Text/Cai Si) (The picture comes from the Internet, if there is infringement, please inform and delete)